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Show In this era of servantless homes, is a wife unreasonable in expecting the man of the honse xp, ji' ... to lend a hand? you'll have id wait this is the day of the week I put Drano in all the drains" "Sorry the dinner so it wouldn't burn, while she went out to look for a straying Today, the more appliances you have, the more you're expected to do since I got a steam iron, Joel expectsme to press his suits instead of sending them to the cleaners! "He scowls when Iask him to Kelp. Children and a kitchen are a' change for him. But how can I get out except when he's home? I'm practically a prisoner in my home five days a week, yet my husband thinks I'm lazy or unreasonable if I ask him to give me a hand. He's just plain selfish!" four-year-o- ld. Gt at the root of things! There are many ways of dividing responsibilities fairly and reasonably. Who does what is far less important than howyou feel about what you do. When a husband and wife start feeling abused and accuse one another of selfishness7it's time to take stock of routines and attitudes. Discovering and remedying the causes of Nora's excessive demands would4e the key to their situation. Customs and living arrangemens have changed markedly in the last two generations. When Joel and Nora compare themselves with their own parents, they come out with widely different conclusions as to what is fair. Nora remembers the "help" her mother had and decides her load is unbearinsisted able. Joel thinks about a father-w-ho wife and on service from a considers Nora's, lot too easy. Here is one trouble they need to talk over reasonably and It is possible that Nora is being pushed" beyond her strength, so first of all, she should get a thorough medical examination to see" whether there is a cause for her tiredness and tension. Then Nbra and Joel should analyze how she is using her. time and equipment Rearranging the children's mealtimes or naps might ease things and make it possible for her to get out with the children and see friends or even take a short rest herself. Are Nora's housekeeping standards too high? Perhaps some of the cleaning she. asks. Joel to do on week ends could be eliminated. What the house might lose in appearance would be gained in Joel's willingness to help when his assistance is really needed. Is Nora always hurried and harried because she attempts too much? By planning her housework more carefully, she might be able to hard-worki- ng good-humored- ly. avoid jams just when she is preparing supper and when the children need her most. Nora's self-pi- ty probably stems not so much from the amount of work she does, as from being confined with the children. So they can enjoy more freedom, many A sink's best friend is Drano when it conies to getting rid of dangerous sewer germs that lurk in every drain. These germs breed in muck that liquid disinfectants can't budge. But Drano's churning, boiling action dissolves the muck, keeps drains germ-fre- e and Make one day a week Drano day. Put Drano in every drain for about a young mothers set up informal cooperative play groups or organize cooperative nursery schools for their three- - and It would be worthwhile for Nora to find out whether such groups exist or could be started in her neighborhood.. . It would help, too, if Nora and Joel could - go out together more often, so she would have some of the adult companionship and fun she misses. If she were less discontented, she would be better able to recognize Joel's; need to relax when he comes home. Going out means hiring sitters, but in some neigh borhoods families have solved this problem with a "sitter exchange" whereby members of the exchange build up "credit" by sitting for other members. Then, when they want to go out, they use this accumulated credit while a neighbor sits for them. who is sympathetic, interested, and affectionate is more likely to find her husband willing to help around the house than one who greets him with complaints. If Nora were to give Joel a hearty welcome each evening, he probably wouldn't feel that he was being imposed on if asked to take over routine with the children. the supper-bedtiCompromises that take account of both Nora's and Joel's needs are .the answer to such questions as who gets up with the chil-dron Saturday morning or during the night, or who cleans up after dinner. 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