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Show THE SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH, SUNDAY, FEfiRUAEY 20, 1916 HEKALD-REPUBLICA- err- - r7"7a w h V. If v f Yi v iJl! U .01 mH T i t ' t r V i 1 j; Jj . 1 E J'UY r Mrs. Inez Milholland Boissevain Says She 'Popped" Three Times Before She Won Her Husband Miss Pugh, Lawyer, Says There Would Be Fewer Divorces if Women Proposed Leap Year is Otherwise Endorsed HOW the Abundantly by Precept and Example. and lawyer tiful jouns suffragette . s. -' ..-- - , V - .V.'.' clll I propose to my &ekei Mrs. Inez Milbeauholland Boissevain, of -Why. by asking New York City. 1 did it three times, or course. him. Boisseand directly, too. before Mr.answer, me tie dislrcd vain was her frank admission. woman "Then you believe that n to should directly propose marriage gc the ian she loves?' .4rs. "Certainly." quickly replied one "The Boissevain, with a smile. who first realizes the affinity of heart and soul should make It known to the other. In a majority of cases. th!s reall7a" anions Mch i ro? own woman. Actlon comes first to tho Mr. cordingly. I decided to mairy Boissevain." In a characteristic statement Mrs. Boissevain. who knows her own mind, sjys that she does not believe even 'in weddins rin?s. "They are relics of barbarism." she says, "of the days hen womn were the chat tels of men. I should reel uko a slave instead of a free woman if I were to wear a wcdcllne tins." ' b men Th Benefit of Her Example. In lew of the fact that this is that other Ieap ycir, and believing full benefit women ehould have tho Mrs. of her example. Bolssea!n takes the pu'ulic Into her confidence - ty-T- --y s i , ' vs X con-remin- d s.Si-- ' ,1 ' s the interesting events that hT marriage to Kugene Bofsse-vain- , a Dutch banker of Amsterdam, whom, she says, she "met, wooed, won and married all In 2J tlajs." It appears that when this determined American sir! was refused sho proposed again and again. At iast she attained the object of her heart's desire, und proved that men, Uke women, can be Induced to change thefr minds, and that they may say -no" when they mean "yes." Mr. Boissevain, happy and fortunate man that he i3 (for who could Imagine any man rejecting the for- led to s X S s vtrvs- 1 I m lllf Misa Lucille Pugh, Woman Lawyer, Who Saya There Would Be Fewer Divorces s -4 ik-- j s t s , , j s "U s c"s , - if Women Proposed. ruer Miss Milholland) confirms the story of how his wife proposed to him. and indicates his own, as well as his wife's sentiments, iu the following statement: "One can no more say that only men should propose than he can dogmatically state that 'only blondes should marry, or only dark men should bo given tho ballot. One is just as sensible as the other. "I had never even thought of V.." " i - t I I i. . ; , " f x t: I ' . . ' pro-Ios- - - u i ! t - - . V s . - , ' - . - - s- 4 e. "Do I think that men will lose their respect for the other sex when me "ua,l Well I should feel the proposing? greatest disgust for nny Ionian wco came to tho realization that sne was in love with some man and yet was kept by cowardice and false prld from saying so. The courage of a woman who teiia n r,,n inai sae loves him commands great- - cr respect uian Rny other tbing j AUU . "The one requisite to Psienriir,,- prop831 to womankind )s that the woman proposing shall be big enough not to have her feerm-- o hurt, and that she shall expect no concessions to her sex In the matter or politeness. "A woman should be able to sup- port herself, however, before she pro- poses marriage, just as a man ought to be. No line whatsoever shouldbe drawn between the sexes in havin" economical independence. "There should be no marrying with- love, although love Is but one of the factors of a happy marriage "A woman need not even be' em- barrassed In asking a man to marry Indeed, she ought not to be. The little debutantes may expect a on bended knees to proffer his but that is quite foolish and wrong There must be no grovelling humility about lovg, and there should be ione about prcvT-.'ng." 'V, j Mrs. Inez Milholland Boissevain, Who Says She Proposed to Her Husband Three Times Before She Won Him. f t jr-1- " , ' ' o find ample evidence of the fact in not appear anxious or concerned not at all, she must just wait." But women are not alone in their M opinion that they should have, or at least equally share, man's privilege of proposing. There are men who j believe that this right should be ac- corded to women at all times and thoroughly agree with the advice of pro- posing to Inf,z Milholland, because I did not intend to marry. In general. I do not approve of marriage as an institution. The devil himself could not havo devised a more speedy death lcr love than marriage can bo, with Its limitations and its lack of the ethical observances that govern even business contracts. Marriage Wrongly Daied. Tn the Erst place marriage Is based upon the wrong: thins. Men and women swear to a love that shall last forever, which Is not honest. It Is Just as much beyond our personal jurisdiction as the tide or the weather. Marriage has never been clearly deSned. and no one seems to know whether It Is a sentiment or an economic transaction. So I did not j i f ) r . daily newspaper accounts. Here are a few cases in point: The young women of Bath Beach, New York, started the leap year by presenting a complete cooking outfit to 75 young bachelors. The men don" know whether to consider the gift as a hint or a threat. Fr. Timothy M. Crowley of New Lon don, Ct., who gave in one of his re- - Forfeit $500 or Marry. cent sermons the following advice to The 26 members of a Bachelor the young, unmarried women of his Girls Club of paterson, N. J., have Cieratih?: is your golden oppor- Pledged themselves either to be tunity. It is leap year. There are saged or carried by Jan. 1, 1917, or altogether too few wedding3 in this to forfeit $500 each to some charity, parish. All you have to do is to pro- - it l3 said that already charity stands pose to the man o your choice, make a small chance of collecting the for-- a to the town clerk's office, get trip feit aefnd that .omen j.eap year nas roiieci arounu again and. according to custom, woman this year may take advantage or ner immemorial privilege by exercising her quadrennial right to propose marriage to the man of her choice. Whether or not she should have the riSnt to do tnts at an times, is sun a matter cf wide discussion, renewed Interest in wnicn na3 ueen arouseu by the advent of Leap year, 191G. The Que.tion of tho Year, sllould a WOman Propose f if not , ho., r,eSt'" PrP Ml , s- - Martha Stevens, 697 Elmore Brooklyn Borough, New York, ion should propose a Pace' wW the whQ advertIsed for a "mere man expresses the following genie husband, says that she has se- : lected Theodore Hudson Willis of It is high t me that all matri- - Point PIeasant N h w f Eugene Boissevain, Whom Mrs. Boissevain Says She "Met, Days." Woced, Won and Married in Twenty-Nin- e . ni dt SUPP nrofes- minoft, - uasing ner oimutu uir amai ional experience. 7Mrs. Nellie I. McClung, a distmguished Canadian woman and autnor of c certain clever little . volume "- uiaiic nn. . - nt u x i ' ""-- ms 1 mate- - i u i13 Mfs- - " iu"ai' tion was year, pects ' leap i Z j Stevens says her selec n t"n "-'"- " li it frSTVs 5000 "pros- - Clint0" B. Smith, Jr., a young un'1 " marnea lawyer and society man of - ' L. I., is regarded as so d e- tnat ne go oeiore tne preacner flushing, thinks manas 13 w itn ner ana be married. . . . . ;a i, ufla iU more than 2 Oi) ieceieu that women snouia nave we o Q proposals irom girls who are seekin privilege as men to choose men women ukj rropose. exercise their leap year rights. lnate "Some of the men of this day are OUIfle women, it seems, do more so much means "Marriage directly .. crowd, and seem not choose the men tiiey a woman than to . a . man, . sajs Mra . at r vs 1 even if marrj' H i cl 's c In n c c tVioli il i qf r i t IntlA. me 7n mn a m 10 tea muci r5he iaiac brings repeat the .McCung. contribution than he. and often it- natural lot in life. They hold back proposal formula. Just how this iz vunuei iub man is .Happens mat sne gives au uuu iv- Entl maiie KO effort to marry, iew "eand or "gently anesthet- wh' not? bagged." man nothing. The care and upbringa wo nQ ' if sne ized . depends upon the individual This is literally the question of the ins of children depend upon a worn- uu il- "A woman making the proposal. A l'em- year. Every maid who wants to an-- faithfulness, not on a man's. sws backward is no reason inine writer asserts that "there is why know whether the opinions of others Woman certainly should have the being men so. If will be a man between the ages of ?,o should the women In exercise the her or hardly to mate." choose her oppose sustain right women must." and 60, the period in which man is of ner traditional right may find herAccording to Mrs. McClung, worn- not propose, then the Numerous reasons have been ad- - supposed to be in full possession of answer in the frankly expressed sen- en are the "watchful waiters" of to- timents of Mr. and Mrs. Boissevain - (jay. "There was a time long past," vanced why a woman should propose, his developed faculties, ever gets and other prominent men and worn- sne observes, "when women chosa As a matter of fact, she has always married cf his own accord." From these facts it is often en whose experience fully qualifies- their mates; when men fought for been doing it Indirectly by using of cued puzthat good results may follow answer woman this to her face, character, form, of beauty hand the the loved, them correctly they In woman if the and adornment. is permitted to substitute very dress momentous woman chose. and the and question. zling "But how Is it today?" she con- - nature of things, it is claimed,' worn- - a direct appeal for a man's hand and "Of course women should propose," is the statement with which Miss Lu- - tinues. "A woman may see a man an was born to propose. It seems- heart, for her indirect methods of cille Pugh, a woman lawyer of New to whom she feels attracted, but she that the disposition has been gener- tack. It seems that among women York, greeted the arrival of Leap- must not show it by so much asthe ally to accept the proposition sus- and among no small number of mar-mayear.' "At all times active matrimo- flicker of an eyelash. Hers is the tained in .George Bernard Shaw's ried men that men, as a rule, are nial selection," she says, "should be waiting part, and although marriage "Man and Superman," that woman is- garded as poor judges of women and left to women. There would be fewer and home making are her highest now and always has been the pursu- that they too often abuse the initia-no- r tive given them to choose a divorces if such were the case," Is destiny she must not raise a hand ing and, really, the proposing sex mate. can believe If must don't She cause you this, the to you Miss along. the way help Pugh tersely puts it, , ... t rrw,.-- hard-hearte- d . 1 1 1 1 Vs 11 i. , - s - ar-o- ut at-he- r. - n re-lov-e, life-lon- g |