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Show Page Six - The Springville Herald - March 4, 2004 Ite Sr. Lillian ill I! . ) :: J l Dear Dr. Lillian: Question: My sister and I have always been very close. A year ago, she married mar-ried a good-looking guy who is so full of himself that all he does is his thing. My sister is one of those people who gives and gives and gives. I am worried she is going to end up empty handed in this marriage, and burn out because no matter how much she pleases pleas-es this man, next to nothing comes back I just don't want to see her hurt. Answer: Yes, it is true: If your sister has centered her whole life on her husband and he has centered his whole life on himself, then the two of them cannot really meet. Both you and your sister and her husband are trapped in a mistaken idea about how to attain fulfillment: fulfill-ment: Your brother-in-law believes that he can only give once he has fulfilled all his own needs first. That of course is a bottomless pit. Your sister believes that she can only receive once she has completely given her all. That, also, is a bottomless pit. This stalemate and distance dis-tance can only be broken if one partner moves and grows. To encourage your sister, advise her to widen her emotional focus. Instead of focusing all her feeling and longing on her partner, advise her to give equal energy and love to work (earning a living and contributing contrib-uting to the welfare of mankind), man-kind), to recreation (hobbies and leisure), to devotion and personal growth (time alone and good books and inspiring workshops), and to relationship relation-ship (husband, friends, family fami-ly members). Advise her to plan her day in such a way that she can fulfill all four areas every day. This will not always be because your sister will need to respect herself and take more risks. For example, if she has made a date with a friend to go to the movies and has let her husband know ; about it two weeks in "advance, "ad-vance, she needs to keep this date with her friend even if her husband insists five minutes before she goes out that this is the one and only evening he has time to pay attention to her! ' In other words, your sister should not compromise her work, recreation, devotion, devo-tion, or other relationships for her husband. She should see her husband as part of her work, but not as all of her world. Both your sister and her husband have every chance to making this a wonderful marriage if they learn what their partner is here to teach them: Your sister needs to lean to give more to herself by widening her experience of life; her husband needs to give more of himself by deepening his focus on the relationship. You are both a sister and sister-in-law. If you wish both young people equally well in their growth, you will be respected and loved. Dear Dr. Lillian: Question: When a kid at school calls me names, I feel so bad I just want to crawl under a desk and hide. My teacher doesn't hear what the other kids are saying. Answer: words have power, but you have more power! If someone calls you a name, immediately in your mind say something good about yourself 20 times. That way you can cancel out the negative word with your positive word. If you are a good reader and creative at art you can say to yourself: I am smart and creative. I am smart and creative.... 20 times. You must gives this all your energy and not run away or hide while you are doing this in your mind. I would also suggest that you write down all the names the other kids are calling you and show this list to your teacher. If your teacher corrects the name-callers and this bullying with words does not stop, then go to your principal with your parents. This is your right. Make sure ' 1 O 1 Dr. Lillian that you don't do any teasing yourself, and be very respectful re-spectful to the other children so you can teach them about proper respect by your actions. ac-tions. Dear Dr. Lillian: Question: I get the feeling feel-ing that my mom thinks she isn't a good mom because sometimes the house is a mess and she's not so sure of herself, but she does love us very much. What can I say to her to make her feel better? AnswenTell your mom that she has taught you love, and thank her with all your heart.- Tell her that nothing and no one can ever take her place in your esteem because of this. Serviceman's news Air Force Senior Master Sgt. Esther L. Biesinger is currently deployed overseas at a forward operating location loca-tion in support Operation Iraqi Freedom. Operator Iraqi Freedom is the official name given to military operations involving US and coalition forces' efforts to disarm and end the current Iraqi regime. The sergeant is an aerial port operations superintendent superinten-dent with 30 years of military mili-tary service. - She is the daughter of Wilford and Elaine Biesinger of Chase Lane in Springville. She graduated in 1969 from Springville High School and received a bachelor's degree in 1987 from Utah State University in Logan. is i ljlliiilH.lllllWi I,,,, fY Five generations of the Simmons family got together for this photo. They are: Grandfather Curtis Simmons, Great-grandfather Jim Simmons, Haylie Bowen, mother; Emma Bowen, baby; and Great-great-grandfather Lawrence Simmons. Music teachers events From the DUP Museum The butter churn by Mary Murray LeBeau There is no piece in the collection at the Daughters of Utah Pioneers Museum that is more universal than the butter churn. Churns similar to this were used for more than two hundred years in this country. This type of churn1; became be-came the symbql of good food and a bounteous table. Country butter made everything every-thing better. This churn at the museum came from the home of Thomas and Jane Dallin. In 1880 the census shows that Jane cooked for a large and probably hungry family. Thomas is listed as a miner and it had always been acknowledged that those men worked very hand and long hours. Tobias Dallin, who was John's father, sat at Jane's table along with her family. In 1880 she had six growing boys at home and an 1 1 year-old year-old daughter, Daisy Jane. The boys were 18 year-old year-old Cyrus El, his 16 year-old brother John and Bruce who was 14. Insurance Z Seminar! 1 a n . . i i Li MASSAGE THERAPISTS! 1 Laura L Hensley, RN is the Executive Director of Hobble Creek School of Advanced Massage Therapies. Her experience includes 12 years in the insurance industry with such companies as BCBS, Aetna, Medicaid, Liberty Mutual and morel Hosted by: Synergistic Arts and Sciences Tel: 801-491-9008 (RSVP) Topics Covered: Billing Appeals CPT Codes ICO 9 Codes SOAP Notes HCFA 1500 HCPCS(modlriefi) Worker's Comp. HMO'S PPO's Forms History of Insurance AND MORE! Are you ready to open a practice, prac-tice, but afraid of insurance? , Attend this one day seminar and learn the "ins and outs" of insurance billing! Saturday, March 6, 2004 8 am-5 pm, The Marriott In Provo, Utah RSVP; $125 per person ($25.00 student discount) Continental Breakfast Provided 1 - 3 1 ( y CJ I AC Systems iJEU', J kij ij'n 1 NO INTEREST NO PAYMENTS FOR 6 MONTHS O.A.C Heating & fiK AirConditic Conditioning "Quality Service At A Fair Price" Orem 225-7088 c i ill aocx nrQQ At age 11, it is almost a sure thing that Daisy Jane was the one who churned the butter for her big family. Samuel who was then 9 and probably milked the cow . while Victor, age 7, and Roaul at 5 years old had lesser chores, but still enough to make sure they were hungry at meal time. Although we have never seen a picture of the Dallin family it is easy to picture the treats on churning day. Buttermilk biscuits were always a treat and on special occasions a chocolate cake or a peach cobbler made with the fluid from the churn. During the winter months perhaps the tangy liquid' was served with breakfast. Not a drop was wasted. The butter was used on hot biscuits and hot bread of all kinds as well as previously previous-ly baked loaves. It flavored vegetables from the garden and fried fresh eggs from the chicken coop. Fresh churned butter was the gourmet touch The Nebo Chapter of the Utah Music Teachers Association Associ-ation will be sponsoring a lecture to be given by Dr. Bonnie Gritton of Salt Lake City. All interested piano teachers teach-ers are invited to attend. The meeting will be held at Boothe Music, 135 North Main, Spanish Fork at 10 a.m. Tuesday March 9. Gritton is on the piano faculty at the University of Utah where she teaches private piano, piano pedagogy pedago-gy and piano literature classes. class-es. She recieved her doctorate doctor-ate degree in music from UCLA. She has performed with several symphonies throughout the world as well as the Utah Symphony. She will perform in June at New York's Carnege Hall. Her lecture topic will be "Having Fun Teaching the Baroque Music". She will emphasize practice tips and style. On Saturday, March 13 at 10 a.m. at Boothe Brothers there will be a masterclass. Several students of the Nebo Chapter will be critique by guest clinician Amy Greenwood Green-wood Merkley. There will be a $5 charge for teachers who want to observe but not a member of the UMTA. Merkley received her bachelor of arts degree from BYU and her piano performance perfor-mance degree from the College Col-lege of Southern Utah. She was one of 60 students stu-dents who studied in Russia and she has soloed with five different symphonies throughout the world. She is a great clinician who helps the students feel relaxed as she gives them performance tips and ways to perfect their pieces. for pioneer food. This churn came from the home of Jane Dallin and was given to us by Lydia Dallin. This is probably Lydia Alice Haslem who was the wife of : Samuel Dallin. v ' " The beauty of this .piece is that almost every home had one so similar that you can picture a member of your family with hands on the handle sloshing the cream up and down until the r :ch golden butter floats in the; foamy white buttermilk. You can envision the hands of your family as they broke open the flaky white biscuits and filled them with the soft creamy butter. That butter was much lighter than we buy today and if you ever taste it you will know why the churn had such a long and productive life in America Ameri-ca and our own state of Utah. 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