Show Discipline I By Frank Connor onnor The problem of discipline In the home Is indeed a grave one and it itIs itis itis is worthy o of more serious attention attention attention atten atten- tion than it gets The main difficulty difficulty difficulty dif dif- dif dif- with it is that the need for specific application of discipline discipline discipline line is not recognized often until it is too late No parent enjoys thrashing the I children of the household and the Ule famous declaration This hurts me more than it hurts you Isone Isone is isone one of the greatest truths parents have uttered Spanking as necessary necessary nee essary as it may seem at times ought to be avoided The acts for which v children get spanked are as a rule the result of a process process process pro pro- cess which has been tolerated rather ra- ra rather rather ra ra- ther than changed One must be on the watch for tendencies that can develop into misbehavior These must be stopped stopped stop stop- ped led before the child is led to act acton acton acton on the assumption that his conduct conduct conduct con con- duct has approval The lh ild's life is capable of direction and the proper direction will eliminate the thc need for later correction All of this is general and maybe maybe may maybe be as vague nevertheless less it is eminently worth thinking think think- thinking ing about As one who spends a great deal of his time observing the acts of children and the behavior behavior behavior be be- havior patterns they display J Jam r 1 ram am convinced that children would be saved all sorts of ot grief and heart breaks if they received more direction as herein advocated As an example let us suppose that a group of ot children have developed developed developed de de- de- de the habit of staying out late at night What ought to be bedone bedone bedone done The They can see nothing wrong in the act Spanking might be DC corrective on the ground that It t would Inflict greater pain than f t the pleasure derived through the company of the childs child's associates and cause the child to remain home at night Children demand social experience experience experience ence and that experience is ia to be gained through contact with others and he prefers the company company company com com- pany of those his age The solution of this problem which h all aU parents face sooner or later lies in meeting the childs child's need for the companionship of ot those his age The presence of his friends in his home on certain certain certain tain evenings and his presence In Inthe Inthe Inthe the homes of his friends on other evenings will fill this this- need Parents Parents Parents Par Par- should be conscious of the childs child's friends and arrange ample opportunity for tor social intercourse in a controlled environment There are forms of behavior that society cannot tolerate and they frequently begin to manIfest manifest manifest mani manI- fest themselves early In life They ought to be changed then I. I have little patience with those who refuse refuse refuse re re- re- re fuse to to correct these behavior problems It is noticeable that the type of parent who holds that nothing must interfere with the childs child's expression is in favor of ot correction n when the expression expression expression sion interferes w with th the comfort of the parent How about the peace and comfort of the neighbors neighbors neighbors neigh neigh- bors and of society in general I |