| Show Generosity Not Not Easy Easy Psychologist Asserts DURHAM NC You You can help your our child learn to be unselfish by frankly rankly telling him that generosity isn't easy in a a selfish world a Duke University psychologist asserts Dr Gelolo McHugh points out that thai there Is nothing Instinctive about generosity It must be learned I Here are arc Dr McHughs McHugh's dos do's and don'ts for helping your child chUd learn learno to o be generous 1 1 Tell your child the truth about selfishness elfishness Let him know that unselfishness un un- selfishness elfishness is not easy for either children or grownups ups to acquire He lIe will vill feel less guilt about his own reluctance if It he knows it Is b shared by y others 2 2 Dont Don't try to o make a child chUd un unselfish selfish elfish by shaming or punishing him This his makes the idea of generosity hateful 3 Dont Don't make malee your child feel that unselfishness is necessary In order to o win your approval This may lead leado to o a compulsive and false falso unselfishness unselfishness unselfish unselfish- ness which he be does docs not feel and which he resents 4 Make sharing a pleasant expert expert- ence nce When your child has a playmate playmate play mate visiting him let him pass th the thereat treat reat when it ts is time for a cookie and nd milk mUk When Mien there are up grown-up guests let him pass candy or some food he enjoys and let him also have some ome He lIe will get satisfaction from thank you's and from your bation 5 Encourage your child chUd to be unselfish un un- selfish elfish Point out his acts of generosity and praise him for them |
