Show KA KATHLEEN NORRIS At Times Advice Is Infuriating IN TN MY MAIL this week was a resentful resentful resentful re re- and angry letter from tram a woman named Kate Bush Dush who lives In Williamsville New York Kate differs with me very definitely and wants me to know it The article that enraged her was Intended for tor those American women who are worried about money These women and there are millions millions mil mil- lions of them are managing incomes incomes in in- comes that range from to a year With the rising demands demands demands de de- de- de mands of their children the drain of visible and hidden taxes the increased increased increased in in- creased cost of living they find themselves in hi a constant state of anxious discouragement T The There h e r e simply is no way to make ends meet to save the husband and father the responsibility that is killing kill klU- trig ing him to satisfy the demands of the children Hundreds of letters come to me every every every ev ev- ery year emphasizing this predicament predicament predicament ment and it was in answer to one of them that I quoted in hi my article the case of a Polish family that arrived in hi America only seven years a ago 10 and that is now Independent the daughter prosperously married the son in hi a contracting business with his father tather the mother secure secure in the home she is so proud to keep comfortable and happy for tor them Peace of or Mind 1 MindI I said that in the beginning these exiles rented three rooms for 26 23 a month near the river in an unfashionable unfashionable un un- un fashionable neighborhood and that both son Ion and daughter worked in hi high school days so that two- two thirds of the combined earnings went into government bonds Fresh fL E e f f i a Y t 1 2 w wy y 1 Iv 3 1 h jt I t II Ina in I contracting bus business from enslaved Poland these people found our world a veritable para para- paradise paradise dise disc and my point was that their road to security and success is open to aU all families and that it is the only way Wal to peace of mind when domestic ways and means are the problem More Moro than that to completely change chango ones one's way of life lite Is a most stimulating adventure To stop worrying wok war Tying about ones one's social standing with utterly unimportant acquaintances to stop top all consideration of what Is ls the right environment for tor forthe forthe the children to make a game of getting way under the tho Income instead in stead of eternally overspending it ft this this is W really to live Uve and certain harassed anxious housewives never have known real reat living Doesn't Need Counsel But put this advice infuriated Kate Bush and her letter told me why Kate flush Bush doesn't need such coun set eel She has solved her problem by moving to the country count which she truthfully asserts is ts a II much more moN wholesome place for tor children than thana a chea cheap city slum alum Our youngsters go 10 to a tine fine school her letter says and to Sunda Sunday school and to a ashow ashow show how every two weeks They have pets and amusements galore chickens chick ens tn ducks rabbits skates skis kit sleds every kind of ot fun tun at home The They never te tease for mone money because there U 11 no place to spend pend it Of Ot course toune that Is an Ideal Idea solution 1011 tion Uon for tor aU all U problems problem mothers mother's I. I dads dadi the childrens children's the budget everything But it was not for women women women wom wom- en like Kate Bush that I wrote It was for tor the troubled ones the bewildered be bee ones who feel that everything everything every every- thing In the home bome must be as comfortable comfortable comfortable com com- and luxurious as things always were in hi Mamas Mama's house and who simply cant can't manage It today Get Out Ont from Irom Under To such I give the old advice get out from under it alt alL Move to the unfashionable neighborhood it needn't be a slum As a matter of fact unfashionable neighborhoods near the river or the bay or up on the hill or out in hi the fields on the fringes of the city will be the choicest locations of all in a few years When I was married in 1908 1008 large sunny flats fiats on the river in New Yorks York's upper east side running running running run run- ning from to Street were rented for tor 20 and 25 monthly That is New Yorks York's most elegant Mayfair now If and It-and and the thelt If is underlined underlined- you youcan youcan youcan can move your family as Kate Bush did to country freedom vegetable vegetable vege vege- table garden pets skates skis sleds But so ideal an arrangement is not within reach of many of the housewives who find themselves caught In hi the confusions of a chang chang- changing ing world and have not the courage to realize that at such luch times each of us must make her own world sweep away past sensitiveness and prejudice and give her children an honest view of tomorrow If It you re a-re are living over your income Income income In in- come then try living under it It is much more restful Most of the things you will have to sacrifice are valuable only In your magma tion |