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'Selly Selly ' has twtce been reported to me by sd ool oolauthorities authorities as frequenting frequentingoadhousei oadhouse-i oadhouse i - smoking drinking 04 > . o ' By KATHLEEN NORRISE NORRIS I\ I \ , IHEAR ' [ TE E HEAR a great deal dealQj deala dealI/ dealI dealIabout Qj ! . a / about parents ' re reh reho reV h ho , sponsibihty spons1b11Ity for juve Juve- Juveru.lule ) juvenile uve- uve uveii1e - - nile ru.lule rulule . ii1e delinquency delmquency , " wnteslrJr1arna writesarna writes wntes writesiIarnaSt lrJr1arna : iIarna-St iIarna St arna St - John from Seattlebut Seattle Seattle"but ; ; ' "but but 'but " not much about what whatmd whatnd whatind md nd how and why and when whenlarents whenarents whenarents larents arents ) can do anythmg anythIng about 4 - , ! Ours is a normal household atIther o other of at ofither ither ther mother two girls one boy boyall boym boymall ! m all aU income mcome no servant servant , , one car carY carfiy carly Ither fiy Y girls 19 and 17 have lobs 20b8 Mar Mararet Mararet Mararet aret makes good money m a local localefense locale1ense localefense efense e1ense plant Sally SaUy has a part time timep'b timepb timeab p'b pb ' and keeps up with her college collegeI collegeudles collegetudies collegetudies I udles tudies Mart is m in second " year "ear ear hIghII highMargaret high highMargaret II IIMargaret Margaret Is a good quiet qwet pret pretII pretgirl pret7 II girl but she has always alwa"s alwas " been beenscontented beeniscontentec beeniscontented scontented iscontentec ! feeling teelmg herself berself socIally socIallyandicapped socially'andicapped sociallyandicapped andicapped 'andicapped ' SaIl Sally " is independent independentleasureloVIng Independentleasureloving independentleasure-loving independentleasure loving leasure-loVIng leasure loVIng -leasure-loving - - - not affectionate or orames or&omestic oromestic &omestic omestic & ames tIc Mart seems to live a Wef lifef life We f ( his Ius own his boy friends trIends are al alays alays alrays ays here m in the basement or he hek heof heK k 13 off1th of off ! ' with \1th 1th \ ith them in m their basementsncldentally basementsncidentally basements basementsncidentally -ncidentally ncidentally -ncldentally ncldentally - - we have a spaciousarm spacious spaciousBarm arm welllighte well lighteA lighted . basement basementGo basementGo basementGo Go to Roadhouses RoadhouscsNever Barm , ' 1 Never having havmg had money enough enoughenable enoughenable enable my girls to entertain entertam orke or or.ake ; ) -.ake .ake - . ke their place m in society I cant cantlame can t tlame tyame lame them tor for finding findmg their pleas pleases pleasyes es away from home the letteroes letteroes letter letteroes oes on But I feel deeply the dlsdvantages disdvantages dis dls disIdvantages Idvantages dvantages under .luch luch shich . hich they have havead havead haveJiad ad to suffer I am as d1stressed distressed d1stressedver distressedver distressedBpver , ver Margaret s periods of at depresion depresion depres depresion lityland ion as over Sally s irrespons b IIty lity IItynd litynd nd independence mdependence Margaret s case caseIs caseserious cases Is senous serious enough to have needed neededmedical neededbiedical needednedical medical biedical adv ce cc < ; Sally a11y has tWIce tWIceieen twiceeen twiceleen een reported to me by school schooluthorIt schooluthorit schoolluthont ieen uthorIt es as frequenting frequentmg road roadouses roadouses roadlouses ouses smoking smoki\1g smoki 1g smokiig \ drinking drmkmg These Thesere TheseH 'Pre Pre ! ' ire re terrible ternble words to write wnte of at one saughter s laughter aughter but m in my anxiety amnety to find findan findin nd ndanswer an answer to this problem I will willot willjiot ot spare myself I have worked hard ara all au my We life me am a good good cook cookE5manager cookE cookmanager COOKmanager E5manager E ( manager the house is always cleanF cleanp.nd clean.nd clean F ; p.nd pnd . tnd .nd nd . comfortable and my husband husbandIs husbandF husbanda husbandIs F Is Isa a steady hard working workmg man de deVoted devoted deyoted Voted ! to his Ius family tamliy But he be is some someSvhat "hat hat some"hat sometv tv " hat quiet undemonstrative and andiuzzled andpuzzled andpuzzled puzzled by what goes on . . . S I 1 iuzzled | I know we have tailed failed with aeurotIc akieurotic a aneurotic neurotic eurotIc kieurotic ch child d an unmanageable unmanageablei unmanageableifchild 1 . fchild luld hild luldand hildand and a boy whose interests mterests api ap appear pear appear pear i ear to be anywhere than at home homed d , but ut how bow have we fa tailed7 failed ed ' the let letter letyer ter er endJi ends endsI endsS endI * I S . . . f fWell Well Marna Mama I think perhaps youlIve youiave you pave lIve iave ailed faIled ( as most of at us do in m notealizmg noteallzmg not notrealizing j youj realizing ealizmg eallzmg that good food toad educatIon educationiatherly ? 1 atherlY fathenly and motherly sympathy areI1ot arek1Ot are arepot [ pot I1ot k1Ot enough We can t be merely'negatIve merelynriegative merely merelynegative negative 'negatIve nriegative ' in m so'mg somg solying soWmg ' this tlus problem ofafetymoral of oftafety -'safety-moral 'safety safety moral - of'safetymoral ' tafety afety-moral afety moral - moral safety tor for our ch chilIdrenwe chil t tdrenwe Idren-we Idren we ! dren-we dren we dren - we have to struggle and workrand work / rand Bnd plan to achieve It'I it 'I I ' / / Here m in this college town where I Ive Ilye Iive lye ve I often think of at the Martms Martins Martmsend Martinsand Martinsand end and what Mrs Martin Martm did for tor her herchIldren herchildren herchildren chIldren There were four tour of them themtwo themtwo themwo two ; boys and two girls they have haveved haveived haveived ved ived tor for two generations in a aramblmg arambling arambling ramblmg rambling shabby big place just out outat outof outof at of town They have always becn been beenioor beenpoor ioor oor for the father tather is an asthma asthmasufferer asthmaBuflerer ufferer sufferer and works only intermIt intermIttently intermittently intermittently tently The mother has helped out outth outtha outth th tha " . family income mcome by taking takmg chili chiii ch chil chii i . i dren to board ' raising l'aIsmg laIsmg vegetables vegetablesmakmg vegetablesmaking vegetablesmaking makmg making cakes and jelly tor for theI the I Woman s ExchangeYet ExchangeYet Exchange ExchangeYet Yet hospitality and gaiety and co cooperat cooperat cooperat operat on were the rules of th s shome sbonnie shome home bonnie and love was the under undercurrent undercurrent undercurrent current of at it all I have heard Bee Beethe Beethe Beethe the oldest girl greet calling callmg swams swains swamsfrom swainsfrom swainstrom from the strawberry bed come comeand comeand comeand and help me mefix - -fix fix 1lx - these plants and I Ill and111 andI andIll U see what Mother has tor for sup -'t-r3 't t r3 - ' - ) HeZp me fx these plants ENTERTAINING ENTERTAININGAT AT HOME HOUE HO HOMEA lIE lIEA lIEmother - Amother A mother admits that she shehas shehas shehas has failed faded Her tno hI-a hI a two - , daughters daughtersand daughtersand daughtersand and her son have been seeT seeTmg see ] ! mg ing mgtheIr ingtheir ingtheir theIr pleasures away from fromhome fromhome fromln home > me since smce their early teensOne teens teensOne teensOne One daughter has gotten intosenous Into Intoserzous intoserious serzous serious trouble the other on only only only ly 17 , has hr been frequentmg frequenting frequentmgroadhouses frequentingroadhouses frequentingroadhouses roadhouses andother and other danger dangerous ous places The boy boyIn in second secondyear secondyear secondyear year hrghschool highschool high hrgh school brings hIS hISfrrends hisfriends hisfriends frr-ends frr ends friend-s friend s - - to the house hots-se hots se - but heseems he heseems heseems seems to live a II life of hIS hISown hisown hisown own ' There is little lttle , famIly famIlyunrty familyunity familyunity unrty unity Theyhave or real realaffectIOn affection They have only a small house and andthe andthe andthe the girls grrls feelunable feel unable to enter entertaln entertarn entertain taln tarn at homeMiss home ' Miss lIIlSS Noms Norris tn In reply , tellsof tells tellsof tellsof of ofII ofa a II family famdy she knows wholived who wholIVed wholived lIVed lIVedcontentedly contentedlyIn contentedly in a small smalland smalland smalland and humble dwelling dwellmg yet whoknew who whoknew whoknew knew all the best people peopleThe peopleThe peopleThe The young folks were quitepopular qUIte qUItepopular quitepopular popular and hadcom hadcompany had com company pan ) at athome athome athome home most of the timeper time timeperi per peri perl ! I have seen Phil and Jack Jackas Jackas Jackas as eagerly and as skilfully help ng ngto ngto ngto to pack a p enic cnlc cnic lunch as any t t\owomen t owomen \ a o awomen owomen women could It m ght be only onlyapples onlyapples onlyapples apples buns franlJurteis frankfurteis frankf Uriels but by bythe bythe bythe the t me the Martins Martms and theIr theIrfnends theirfriends theirfriends fnends friends had dragged themselves to tothe tothe tothe the top of some hill or gone off n nthe nthe nthe the rickety car to some beach It Ittasted ittasted ittasted tasted like nectar to themGames themGames them themGames Games at Home HomeFather HomeFather HomeFather Father and mother mstituted instituted and andled andled andled led the games in this house There Therewere Therewere Therewere were guessing guessmg games at the table tableand tableand tableand and nobody minded mmded the fact that thatthe thatthe thatthe the ent re meal consisted of one gen generous generous generous erous ste v filled with garden vege tables and built around two poundsof pounds I Iof Iof of shank beet beef Phylhs Phyllis the younger youngergIrl youngergirl youngergirl gIrl was as expert a cook youngerI at 14 as asher asher asher I her mother was everybody in m the theMartm theMartin theMartin Martm Martin house was busy and they theyalwa theyalwa3 theyalways alwa alwa3 ) s impressed callers into mto help helpmg helping helping mg ing They never interrupted any anythmg anything anything thmg thing that was going gOInJ : on just be because because because cause company came and the theyoung theyoung theyoung young people of my household used usedto usedto usedto to come home to relate that they theyhad theyhad theybad had assisted at putting puttmg the Martm Martin Martmattic Martinattic Martinattic attic in order raking rakmg the Martm Martin s spaths spaths spaths paths or pasting pastmg photographs in the theMartIn theMartin theMartin MartIn scrapbooksThree scrapbooksThree scrapbooks scrapbooksThree Three of at the Martins Martms marr ed edmost edmost edmost most happily in m each case the thesweetheart thesweetheart thesweetheart sweetheart was one of at the famil faniui ar arguests arguests arguests guests of the household Phylhs PhyllIs the theyoungest theyoungest theyoungest youngest is now a WAVE and re reports reports reports ports enthusiastically that all aU the thegIrls thegirls thegirls gIrls love pencil gamesEveryone gamesEveryone games gamesEveryone Everyone loves penc pencil games gamesguessmg gamesguessing gamesguessing guessmg guessing games charades the theatncals theatnicals theatncals atncals atnicals h de and go seek with the thelights thelights thelights lights out Everyone loves to be bedrawn bedrawn bedrawn drawn into mto arrangements and andpreparatIons andpreparations andpreparations preparatIons One of at the Martin Martinboys Martinboys Martinboys boys married the lonely 10\ 10 10ely loely loelydaughter lo\elydaughter lo elydaughter \ ely elydaughter daughter of one of the richest rtchest and andst andst andst st Test ffest lest ( ( and dullest families famIl1es in m to vn vii vnThis viiThis vnThis This gtrl girl used to telephone Bee Mar Martin Martin Martin tin wistfully on many a Saturday Saturdaymght Saturdaynight Saturdaynight mght night Bee can I come ? Ask your yourmother yourmother yourmother mother I II 11 bring two roast chick chickens chickens chickens ens and a layer cakeIn cakeIn cake cakeIn In her own magnificent magmflcent home the thech thech thech ch ckens cltens and the layer cake were werejust werejust werejust just uninteresting unmterestmg food But on the theMartm theMartin theMartin Martm Martin s table with laughter and andlove andlove andlove love teasing teasmg and competing competmg chal challenge challenge challenge lenge and triumph all about they theybecame theybecame theybecame became food for the godsIt godsIt gods godsIt It may be too late for Marna Mama Mai-na Mai na - But Buthow Buthow Buthow how about you you9 ' It is never too early earlyto earlyto earlyto to start |