Show Bride Draws Too Much i Advice By DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1921 by the Wheeler Syndicate Syndicate Syndi Syndi- ca cate te Inc little bride asks me if A mu much h peeved I r will write an article on the EXCESSIVE EXCESS EXCESS- IVE SURPLUS UNPLEASANT UNCALLED UNCALLED UNCALLED UN UN- CALLED FOR AND UNDESIRABLE I ADVICE the ADVICE the adjectives and capitals are I hers that hers that Is la bestowed upon newlyweds newlywed She says that she is overwhelmed and that dazed by the conflicting counsel has been given her and that so dIametrically diametrically diametrically dia dIa- metrically opposed are the various theories theories theories theo theo- ries of how to be happy though married married mar mar- ried that have be been n thrust upon her by friends that she well meaning different well would not know which prophet to follow follow fol fol- fol- fol advice on low even It if she were seeking the subject which she Quite the contrary MEEK AND MILD She Sho has been told she says Bays that It II Is the duty o of a wife to be meek and mild and patient and forbearing in her attitude toward her husband She has has also been assured that a wife if writes her own and that that she ahe gets from her lown husband only what she makes him hive give up and that a foxy wife lets her herband huSband husband hus huS- band monopolize all the meek mild patient patient patient pa pa- tient business while she he remains perched he heher Installed upon the pedestal on which her in the days of courtship One woman advises her that the way y I to help her husband get o on is s by hY beIng being be being be- be ing thrifty and industrious and econom- econom leal Ical Another Informs her that the real I recipe for making a husband hustle Is for his wife to be such a good spender I that he has to get Into high speed to i keep up with her bills One woman tells her hOr that the way to keep a husbands husband's affection is by mak malt malting makIng making I ing corns on her hands cooking him good things to eat Another tells her that If she desires to keep her husband Interested interested interested inter Inter- ested In holding her hand she must keep keepit it in a nice squeezable condition One woman tells her that she must use suavity and tact and diplomacy in dealIng dealing dealing deal deal- ing with her husband Another is all for tor a good rough and tumble fight and going to the mat over every topic on which a husband and wife happen to disagree dis dis- agree PAMPERED PET One school of ot thought among wives believes in making a pampered household pet of hubby The other visualizes him himas himas himas as the family beast of burden and a cash register And so it goes Each woman has her own creed as to the best method of dealIng dealing deal deal- ing with her husband and curiously enough although there are precious few few- wives who make such a shining success of the tho matter that the they have qualified as experts and are entitled to speak with authority upon It It none hesitates to lay down the law upon the subject One of the things that every woman thinks she knows how to do Is how to manage her husband and the fact that she has made a disastrous bungle of her attempt at It in her own case does not shake her faith in her theory theor or cause her to refrain retrain from trying to pass it on to others THE DEFENSE Perhaps this isn enough Perhaps Perhaps Perhaps Per Per- haps no one can see a cOUple coupie or InexperIenced Inexperienced inexperienced young mariners setting to sail a dangerous sea without desiring to some sort of warning to them even if It is only to bid them beware of the particular rocks on which their own ship of or happiness was wrecked Indeed If It most of ot the people who thrust undesIred advice upon newlyweds were honest they would begin their counsel by saying Dont be as big a fool as I was be because because because be- be cause it is the tragedy of the knowledge that we gain by experience that it generally generally generally gen gen- comes too late to do us nay good But as my little bride says all the advice that is given bridal couples is excessive excessive ex ex- superfluous undesIred and no good anyway because no husband and wife since the first bridal excursion inthe In Inthe Inthe the garden of Eden have ever had Just the same matrimonial puzzle to work out out or approached the domestic problem from the same angle Every Evey husband and every wife on earth have a thousand little eccentricities of temper and temperament and disposition that makes each a separate riddle to solve and each is put into an environ environ- ment that calls for tor different treatment of the situation This turns all advice no matter how wise as a general proposition Into utter foolishness In the Individual application of It The way to manage one man or woman is not the wa way to manage another The things that appeal to one husband and wife leave another cold The tactics that cause one husband to loosen up and be lavish will button up another's pocket HANDLING MEN There are men who have to be Jollied and cajoled other men whose sense of or Justice must be appealed to still others who must be browbeaten and henpecked into being good husbands There are weak lovable men whose wives must al always always al- al ways take towards them the Indulgent attitude of ot a mother towards a bad child there are other men who are oaks of strength on which their wives can lean There are stingy men whose vanity anity alone will make them provide decently for their wives there are tightwad men whose wives will always have to arise In the night and go through their pockets and there are generous men whose wives will have to do all thes There are tender affectionate men whose love shows Itself continually In Indelicate indelicate delicate attentions and other men whose wives will have to take their husbands' husbands affection for granted and believe that as long as they continue to support their families their hearts are all an right I You cant can't treat any two men alike alile or ordeal ordeal deal with any two husbands on the s same me I domestic platform and the only real davice davice davice da- da vice I 1 would give any newlyweds Is to study each other and try to make the best of what they drew in the matrimonial I lottery |