Show Race Religion Interfere in Real Romance By BETTY DETTY BLAIR IR People people ever everywhere where all with the same stream of ot life Ufe making them one yet in themselves buildIng building building build build- ing up barriers of prejudice and hatred hatred and and yet we try to teach peace between nations Dear Deat Miss Blair I am 19 years old and for the Hearts Heart's Haven past two years I have been going I with a fellow who Is three years older than I and with whom I Iam Iam Iam am very much In love Until about six months ago my parents and myself were of the opinion that he belonged to the same church as we and had no idea that he was of foreign de scent When they found this out they practically forbade me inc to togo togo togo go with him They even went so far as to refuse me many things which I have always had if I went with him again They have always given me everything that I have wanted and believe me this hurt and I tried to do doas doas doas as they asked Suffer b by Comparison I made up my mind that I wouldn't go with him any more and succeeded in keeping this promise to myself for about two months During that time he was continually trying to see me and I naturally met him in a number of places when we were out in different crowds I haven't enjoyed the companionship of the fellows I have been going out with for the last few months in the least and continually wishing that I were out with this fellow In trying to do as my parents want me to I have been really nasty to him that I might have an excuse to stop going with him He has no idea that his nationality national national- ity is the cause of it all and has asked a number of my friends if they can tell him what is wrong Well Respected He is a wonderful fellow Miss Blair and has no bad habits He Heis Heis Heis is well liked good looking and is respected by all of our friends I have gone steady with him for about a year and a half and have I yet to see the first time that he will take a drink or a I thought that I would be able to me meet t him secretly without my parents knowing it which I did for about two weeks and then my conscience caught up with me I think too much of my parents and all they have done for me meto meto meto to do anything sneaking behind their backs I shall appreciate any help you might give and hope that it willbe will willbe willbe be as much as you have given s so many people who have written to you Thank you HOPEFUL Differences in nationality and re religion religion religion re- re ligion form two of the most serious handicaps to happiness in marriage Before marriage the of r rOmance rb- rb obstacles mance can hurdle these with ease But after marriage when realities of everyday living must be faced these two hurdles become the real stumbling blocks That is they do unless those concerned concerned concerned con con- have arrived at the stage of tolerance and of cosmic thinking I that they can say without reserve All religions are good and people of all races are fine providing they II live up up to the highest their race I teaches Even then background I Imay may differ sufficiently to make adjustment adjustment ad ad- most difficult Nordic and Latin rac races are temperamentally so different that understanding and between between between be be- tween two is usually lacking when differences must be faced by the light of reality alone Seldom Find Happiness Two young people who have lived I within the confines of their own religious convictions and within the standards of their own racial customs customs cus cus- I toms and standards both of which differ find happiness s the exception rather than the rule with all their trying Yes it is La hard to give up romance but romance has a way of blossomIng blossoming blossoming blossom blossom- ing again and again even when those in need of it have imagined it dead Your parents' parents wishes Inthe in inthe inthe the matter may be governed by racial prejudice which would be only another thorn in the flower of your happiness Find New Romance No my dear unless tw twp twO have the greatest tolerance in the world and unless their lives are guided by the true light of reason instead of emotion emotion emotion emo emo- tion each should take steps to find finda finda a a new romance that will conform to his own racial and religious ideas will There be adjustments to make nake with whomever you marry and you must not expect that because you other will gave up one love the brin bring perfect happiness but at least there will be the hope that adjustments adjustments adjust adjust- ments meats may be made with the li light ht Q Of understanding lo guide you But ButI I So do think you two should be adult human beings beng and talk the matter over intelligently and reasonably and without delay TRIED IN IS TilE THE BAI BALANCE AXCE Dear Blair I teach a Sunday school class of adolescents and they can surely surely surely sure sure- ly think up the unanswerable questions They wanted to know where the saying came from Tried in the balance and found wanting THE TEACHER TEACHER- S The ancient Egyptians believed that the souls of men were weighed after death and those whose lives tad had not not- been good were found wanting The expression Tried In n the balance and found wanting had its origin In that belief accordIng according accord- accord Ing ng to records I have In my files iles |