Show 0 Fg ININ FLOTSAM rite rhe Secret or irto Ino I No woman is unwillingly Ing Many beme become 9 so to themselves and to others but drift insensibly Into tho condition knowing wh whAn why An object which does not change chang IOn IOno soon o to rl attention or to be Inter interesting esting to Us Our attention voluntary cannot 0 b chalM to I it anti oten often as we force ourselves to tore reconsider the un changing object our attention fly front I It It at tile flue first ft casual attraction wi In Another dirton direction This truth of oC p pay cholo I La familiar to every student or of this occult and science to thoe those wh who investigate I it l as fascinating a as n a the rOtI mysteries I and obscurities or of the subject Pondering on the theme though thought be became came associated for or some intangible raon reason wih with Mrs 1 IL a marie married friend those acquaintance I made when she he wa was young oun Why I question had tone h her r husbands Interest In her gradually changed lud and slipped Away lie He 1011 loves her still ne lie dos does much for tor ler her pleas ore ure but his interest t Is gone J Ife Peas dos does not CAre to know what she thinks and hard hardly I what shat she he dO does This lne line o of thou though ht persIsted M as I read rd my latest psychological author At last n a vague connection between the two became ge cheat Airs Irl D 13 ha has become I a person who d does not chaie She h has cea ceased to mot move to pro progress SI lice ner husband no longer perceive g he no loner longer ha lisa th the fascination of n a changing ob jel before hIm Ceasing to USe UIO or im improve prove proe her mind she hll has one ot of thOe those very ry objects ts described 1 as It sible to arouse o or to hold our voluntary attention I PS The secret power poor she Iho hail had or of enchant Ing h her r husband while he was still her lover loer ha has grown crown lu the sti ch charm which her progressIng ln ad and developing cHarter character 1 as a girl ba had for tor him Ms ha fow flown with lh the rea years I Is It tt that wit with te the charm once broken she V V can n ever eer ain again awaken hi his 11 Ills love Is van ln she sho ro se gain her power over hl his voluntary at attention In the tho Words ot of the rn can she he become an that mo moves and thus become interesting Immobility o of mind an and character has killed her cham charm anti and deadened her power r to attract her bus hus bands attention ow a as I it OS she he ought to be more attractive In certain ways way than she abe cuhl could be 11 in her youth In only exceptional cases can 1 a woman improve In beauty and even een were erI that always possible sti still there might be stagnation and immobility or of to counteract the tacal facial ud and render It nul null am and even een dall daily mor more unsatisfactory But nUl a wo we weman man whose mind Is alert amid aM thought tul fuh u u woman who Is always lear learning I nl wi be that object which Is constantly chanting and In I is al always S Interesting And beyond this 1 a woman WhoSe hort heart 1 sympathy are ever eer expanding who receives e eves r more cordially noble Ideas whose hol character I Is daily elevate elevated by the practice or of kind thoughts anti constant constantI I hy gaining and growing that I Is mo mor sl stayIng where she was but advancing to new ares In inthe the orbit of her being She draws the tho I eye ee and the Interest as the tho planet In InIs Is Its cour course P S The woman whose t temper Is tally growing sweeter anti and other words word who l is moving higher Intellectual horizon Is widening In by the ideas lea sh she takes pain to b by the thought she herself originates h feld field ot of sympathies Is broadening by becoming Inclusive Instead of oC I a woman such a character Is Interesting to nn any one and ond the more so 80 to on one who knows her well and loves loes her truly kow I It Is possible wel to anI grow In are lon In In spiritual perception and refinement In goodness anti In actual mental ability Growth Is only another menta name for tor abl moton motion and moton motion always catches the eye and rivets the tho a en enton lion It awaken awakens and holds Interest It ton Is the woman whose hose character u is nl at ata IL a I standstill oma who ceases to hold th the In Interest interest terest o of husband not the tho woman constanty constantly her In motion toward the hiher higher things Married women nud For or generations the accepted condl lion among people ot of good breeding and ton refinement was that the wage cage Ind earning should be don done ly by the husband and the of the exchequer bl be lef left in the hands of the wife wll Among comfortably placed anti to tome some me extent luxuriously living Amen cans there thelo Is IL a remarkable from rom former opinions on this subject of the oner breadwinning I Especially among Ies artists Authors journalists and People who live by the exertion or of the intellect rather than b by mere manual labor It Is common to Ont find both wife 1 and husband practicIng theIr specialty whatever It l is and putting their rr earn earnings Ings Into a more or less les cooperative puree pure The wife h brie s a gift for tor lustra tion and her clever fingers eke out lien r ton good mun mans salary alary so 0 that luxuries I are which the two must else fore forego or go 0 She writes bright quilts quills anti and Jests I or charming short stores stories and the crisp checks which come floating to her In Inthe inthe the moring morning mul snail provide her own on ondress dress or 14 the school bills or of Laddie who Is gowing growing stout and sturdy and ana needs mer more mone money on him eer every year ear I have heard of an lover who preferring his BUI suit to a gired gifted woman ventured to cl call her attention to the fact that their combined salaries would enable them to maintain a e ery attractive hore home qUil quite overlooking the tho possibility that as a wife the lad lady of choice holce might prefer not directly to contribute to her own on support The truth Is that In man many cases caes the ability to supplement the hus husbands bands earnings relieves hf her o of a sort Bort of work for or she may have hae no pe clar collar aptitude or which she perhaps finds distasteful An extra maid may many mayb b be afforded to do o various arlous timings things about the tho housekeeping to wat Walt upon tho children to to the endless mend lug Int or of smal small garments anti and the sowing on o of short hort to carr carry part ot of the burden ot of the everlasting little which weIghs hea heavily 1 on the tress ren provided the wife ran can earn rn enough to pay for or the added conven knee When the period arrives In whirls which gwing growing take pree deuce dence In calculations ot of eer every other n e I when there are dancing lessons and music lesson and opportunities for tor culture In endless variety for or which continual Provision must be mantle malle the tho share In the payment ot of bills may be no slight Ont one I It she he earn only onh her site she may thus acquire anti ond a pleasing sense or of independence and have nn an over oer her opposite neIghbor to whom om Is an mirage on the horizon The about the matter matte I is twofold In their oth married people Presumably anticipate the coming coining or of children For or the sake ake o of unborn chil I It Is usually batter that t a mother should not bl be taxed mentally or 01 IJ by the relentless and imperious of d a I voca oca Even I If she carry on he her writing or her Minting or her exquisite needleS nele craft exclusively th at the demands i I it must needs snake upon her wi vilI not tIll tell as a rule on her hor off I spring In the l second pl place a husband ol Is In ril peril of at reversing the lisa position ho he ought to assume all as the and for or hil his wife and of leaning on her ot of suffering her to beyond her strength and ot of accepting from her which she he should never he be allowed to make This Ik like man mans another problem can not b be arbitrarily legIslated upon cn by outsiders Each ach tar fancily I must resolve upon Its lis own on CUNO course or of action action Most Mon of u us cOUld get gel on very with er a simpler Style ot of wih be bd r ar II the end it If 0 b fewer cr Tnt CIvilization creates nanny many artificial values alue The le life of towns pro seats oc a t u Ia n v i side anti nd Ince incessantly he hethe the path of the frugal wi wito j to save anve I It fr 11 rn on to get gel ahead the they r II In the beginning joint are 1 earn the Income l Is In an un J ton tion In the large a qu s i n a b different couples coupleR as enly n i G E S Sui n r in a coi lerl liess Weekly CO |