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Show Matrimonial Ruts Responsible For Domestic Troubles In him. Of enure, aha doesn't coma to thla conclusion at one, but day aft day she laya lltH traps for htm and aha find h dofint know tha thing ah does ' ThfM aha begin to cnmpr him with other men. Mri, Htnlth husliand may have a motorcar, a new diamond hrwrh. a hunaalow in the country and she wonder won-der why hr husband can't climb tha Deadly Routine of Thought Fatal to Well Ordered Marriages (in th first of a aarloa of thraa Inter-vlewa Inter-vlewa Paulina O. Field, head of the ahn. donmtnl bureau, point out thraa "ruta" which have com prominently under her observation.) By FA V ITEVENSON, (Copyright, VS22 tNew i or k Kventng World), by I res I'lihhahlfig Co - "Matrimonial rut a'- Those are the rough ptaee ovrr which nntnv couple stumble aii-l fr -nu m v t o t in MiK''--i i h it Uh'v (Hi't H iltfflt uit r-'m - - - aOMt TAULT3 MUJtI 1 , THAT 'TtrLlNQ T G V SUPERIORITY "MU5T 1 NOT BE FJfCDURAGEO I frteh nthrr' fault lis wll s th good .'t;ii;tifi Ai,s lie hiin'iniida Blnl wtvea crosa even a bear at time, ur he will I . ... ..tiMti'g l.nilf. And tn woman Ir goiitg tit lovf octet., tn lata for tltrinr. n natr, and remind him of all hr unpl'.iaunt thlnna he itoan't wish o hesr This la human nstttre. Hut don't f n 11 Into th rut of hating rch n'hor for your wenkneas.. Phk it the twat, th. very brat, and accept the rest Tr worse ' onilnf to her third oiit"tatn1Irg mat-rhnonltil mat-rhnonltil rut. "Inshlllty ' awuir i tu Pendulum In rgrd to nn.nr niatlfrp. aortal enrnfremfiiia and hoidlug unra' tongue," Mrs. Kelld said: "Money matter have leen ard prohs-blv prohs-blv hIhhvi will v a rut to rmiploa who would otherwise ver hnppv t"grthcr. Hut tills Is it matter which -vrr Individual Indi-vidual houaehoM must st-ttlr for ItseT Tin- present hm let s stm be I n niin counles n nd In rtmal I low a n n has -band and wife must learn to make tt a can of flft-fiiiy in reg rd to saving, aii'l attending. "Social itr a irf men t a are tho runs of ' muctk ut hapiMiiepa t.etwen huhniid aial , wife If tnt prntbiliim do-a tiot awing, "Tly Itetwen them they are very npt to fall Into a rut Home men ar nut- I urally hermits. Thev simply want to I stnv ho m and tie alone all the time. I This ta, ef course, unfair to the woman; I tint on t he ut her hand ah must r.i llr.e that home mean a unlet tide and comfort lo a liusy man and he must have some free eelilnga each week. 'nnthr awing to the iwmlulum which may keep couple out of in 1 1 rimoi. ml n ta Is 'holding one's tingue ' If the tired business matt caji onl learn to refrain re-frain front talk I ng until a f i nr Ue e i ' s I his dinner and ths tr lit t housewife I I enn Of I manage to tell Mm her honse-I honse-I hold trouhlea w-hen they are sitting to-I to-I get her after dinner one of the mraiient litt.e ruts In the matrimonial road could Im avoided. It Isn't what you aav, it the war yii sv it Amf the thlnas vim muv ttefitre dinner when on are tired and agitated are not sa'd th war thev would he f oil wait I'd until ntt w ere In a calmer frame of mird. 1 ' he matrimonial road la full of ruts ami pitfall, Itut If hustiand and wife le.crn to avoid thee ruts, to aceept them and steer out of their way. they will find that the love which drew them P-getht-r still ex lt " other Matrimonial Ituta to He Avoided will t- dln' iisned lii a nfi oml n 1 1 n-' Uv I Mts lfeli-n I'. M' "ornil. k, afniat.iit dis-' dis-' trlct altiirne f KtngM coui.t ladder a well the other men. )Vr-I )Vr-I hspa her hu.thaud doesn't drive a nail hs eil hi she do, perhapa ha has formed I the tutl.it nf put (In thing off and sh Qj them herself feetltiK vastlv superior. ' lay hy day thla wlfn la getting Into a deeper rui, benmlng more suerior to the man she married and day by dy I hey are r't'lt'g further and furt her apart. Now the fact of It la In manv r.vses she is not superior. Hhe may be "f a ipiu-ker turn of mind, of a mora a-:.ii a-:.ii ofMiun, liut if ahe stopped to i hiii). i hi t km out sue nugltt find that li.ihhv iprrior lo her in many other t:-itK" I "Then th re )s the 'superior man.' the hul.md who InoV s u (huh the house and thmhH he c-ou'.t do the work In half an hour m,d siend the r. nt of the day out I tn tile open air "ti.it do cleaning;, dusting, dust-ing, haking. mending, marketing, taking care of the clilldteu and lolng the thousand thou-sand and one things wifev complains about amount to? A snap of your fingers fing-ers He could do It all up In a JlTfy nd JuM sil around the house und enjoy 'home, sweet t.Ofrie ' "Again there it the 'superior husband.' whit rends the papers and keepa up with nil the current enta The women In h'a office are Well ponted and well r"v med. hut his wife nska him ahout t hlngx which she herself could glean from the new and kh fails to have that eniffured. manicured appernne nf the iv i mien h s i-i downttiwn. He hetflna to ft-e) tliHt tie it STipi-ror to this ilotnestl-cateil ilotnestl-cateil wife and that If h- w ere In her ii. he would hk differently and iu:insgi difientl "Superior it v -that mlsernhla Iden th.-t w.ii know more than uir 1 tier half -m the m.et in:n"ral.e. destructive rut any liusl-wnd or wife cm g't Into M advice to the nun or worv;m who h:ts ai-'ptlred that 'superior feeling' la to shake themselves, them-selves, tn WHke up and step out of this rut. which means the loss of aelf-resprct, of confidence and love." In spi-nking of the second rut, "Inability "Inabil-ity to a. c pt eich other as they are," Mrs. rVhl said" "Here in a rut which Is i-onstantlv open to the huctiand or wife who wit) not lak' e:ich other an thev are. lloih h no hand and w ife must 1enrn to accept to a-et back on the clear, smooth road again I niiMn O Kleld. head of the abandonment abandon-ment bureau ami assist j nt to iustrht Attornet Itanton; lieten Mi-t 'ormlck. aa-l-tatit district att.un-v ..f King- coiitit. und t larlce At. Hanght. one of Nmw york'a moat prominent women lawyers, law-yers, nil declare that 'matrimonial ruts" are the rause of most of the Infe. elite between IniRnands and wivrx In todnv'a Interview Mrs Kleld. whose recent experience . head of th abandonment aban-donment bureau have brought many cases of couples w ho are aubfect to matrimonial ruts before her, tell of th I ills w htch she coiuuilert most U atruc-tive atruc-tive toward marital happlneas. With her keen, analytical mind Mrs Kleld pointed out the follow .ng ruts whli h alie believes are fo'emiiit ani'Oig ttie average ciHipb-a who onrlu.te they are "fright fulK unhappv" toip'th.-r "1. (Jetting that Superior feeling ' "2 InatilUty to accept each other as they ate "1 Inahllltv to nwiug the p-tidulum evenlv in r surd to. in I Monev matters b) Hiatal engagements i I Ifolilmir im.'V lofigue. "'i;ettina; that superior feeling: la prohil.lv the wtrt rut a hushMiid or wife Inav ret Into." de Uire, Mrs. Ki',i at he- off(ce iii the criminal courts btilMinc "Thl la the most dce'nictlv. rut a husband hus-band and wtfe ma fall Into. To think that wai married a woman, a person who: has the mentalltv of a child of 1'J simply sim-ply no-tns that u can nevtr be hnpty with her hi'hIii "KrMpient l a wife finds that she Is better posted on some sub Jew ttian her husband 'ossbl she has been reading up on that upectai uhtect and takes him bv surprise therefore she pui him down as a moron and feel decidedly superior |
