| Show t r Some Men Mei Are Angels in Love and Brutes in Marriage 11 y y- yBy By REV MARTIN J J. J SCOTT S S. S J J. J Marriage means a good deal to a man more to a woman If a marriage turns out badly the man has many outlets the woman has none It Is safe to say that for a young woman her most important Important Important Im Im- st step p In life lire Is marriage To a aYoung ayoung young oung woman the most Important person In the world Is the man she is going to marry for he is going to be part of her life and a very considerable part Suppose you could choose your own father or mother How careful you would be to select the best possible Your husband husband husband hus hus- band will be as much In your life as your our father or mother has been Yet some fome girls take up with a man without without without with with- out knowing more about him than he hesh sh shows ws when on exhibition Every man who courts a girl Is on exhibition ex ex- He Is at his best If you take your estimate of or him from his own words you will believe you have the finest man that ever lived It Is easy for a man manto manto manto to be nice to a girl If he Is attracted to her He can hardly help it it FINDING HIM OUT TOO LATE Some men who are angels In love are brutes' brutes In marriage After the spell of lovemaking Is over the man returns to normal It is his normal self that you will have in marriage Try therefore therefore to know what kind of ot normal man heIs he heIs Is who courts you For the sack of ot a little little little lit lit- tle vanity or brief enjoyment do not give oe Y yourself to a man whom you jou do not notI ft mow know well ue I Vh Why are there so many unsatisfactory marriages nowadays It Cis is because the theman theman man does not know the the girl and the girl does not know knew the man They think man or woman than to know anything els else In this world Yet young people will often fancy that they know each other after a very short association They forget that there Is Is- Ismore more camou- camou flag o in courtship than In anything els eIs except war Indeed we may leave ou war and put the other first A man presents his best and only hi s best to the girl he girl he courts Of course that Is right right for for him But she shout realize that he will not always be at hi hl best and that she should discount a goo g d deal if she wants to know what he ho 1 I s normally How often have I heard married women say Oh If It I only had known know n him I never never would have marled him Perhaps he ho says the same sarno of her Aall Al At Atall I all events It brings home the point 1 wish to make A young woman should d be more careful about the man she keep s company with than about any other thin thing sg g in life THE FIRST PLAUSIBLE MAN And yet et see how many fine girls rus rush h to the first plausible man who holds ou oua out outa t a hand to them Often too It happens happen s that a girl after atter she has found that tha t the tho man Is undesirable will continue with h him She fears talk What will peo- peo her heart In vanity or pride or weakness weakness weakness weak weak- ness makes her give her hand If nother not nother her hep heart In marriage And then she wonders that her married life Is a night night- mare The time to consider the man Is before you have decided to let him keep constant constant constant con con- stant company with you Do not allow aman a aman aman man to be your constant admirer until you know who and what he Is Do not let him spend money on you unless you know all about him In Catholic countries where a marriage marriage mar mar- Is always a ft careful procedure there are arc few unhappy unions But In this country and In these times wherein one scarcely knows anybody and where there Is so 80 much mingling n of the sexes and so little of home life Ufe and neighborly acquaintances acquaintances ac ac- It Is different and dangerous danger danger- ous OU y yA A girl frequently starts to keep constant constant cont con con- t stant company with a man she knows little or nothing about What Is the re reI result re- re I sult suit Very often a broken life TAKEN AT FACE VALUE Girls do not take a man at his face value Have him see you rou at your home and you see him at his home before you sallow allow him to go out with you regularly reg And when you OU keep company with him ask the opinion of ot your our parents about him I know enow that this will be useless useless' advice ad ad- dr d- d vice c to o some girls I They h c consider t that r n di dt In this hl matter r they a are the he hec sole l and d ca capable capable ca- ca pable Judges Very well They will not be the first to find out too late that two heads are better than one If the young fellow Is suitable your father and mother will be more glad to say so than you will be to hear It That ThatIs Is certain And If he Is not suitable It will be as hard for th them m to say it as for you to hear It lt Your parents love you and want you to be happy But they love you ou bly A girl In love lovo loves herself foolishly foolishly fool fool- too often She Sho closes her eyes to the he future to Indulge a a. pleasant prospect prospect pros pros- for the moment There are few regrettable regrettable re- re marriages where a girl Is guided by her parents The first direction I give therefore to a girl contemplating marriage is is' is to togO togo togo go slowly and carefully If It a man really loves oves you he will love you all the more If you vou put the right estimate on your your- self I MEN ARE PECULIAR II And this leads to the second point I am going g to let you into a secret girls You may not know I Ij I Iare perhaps that men j are very peculiar beings It sound sound c contradictory con con- n ry but Is la nevertheless a a. factor fact that allethe men or at least many men men will I 1 take tak e all the freedom a girl will will allow allow and yet the more she sho allows the less less less' they think of her 1 A man never loves loveR a girl so much as when she keeps him at a proper distance distance distance dis dis- tance rind and makes him respect and rever rever- once no her Moreover a man never truly love lovei girl If It he he will take liberties with with 1 He lIe may think he loves her only his animal nature that asserts sel self A man who out of ot regard J the woman who is to be his wife not m master ter his feelings and respect modesty will not respect her as and the mother of his children Ain once told me mo that he would a a. girl who would allow allot him any ties p A man who know you care for I 1 without your giving up anything of rr n denly propriety On his very first tempt at being unmindful of w wanly anly dignity put your foot down you do not not he will take it as an anti anil II I f cation that you will allow him to farther And then the barrier of ot reserve m decency Is Is' Is down and calamity will low and s sin n which Is s worst of all man n fo loves s a woman I in pg tIo shows maIden maidenly reserve that reserve that Is s proper man does and you do not an any other I am sure S SNO NO CARE FOR CONSEQUENCES Now I come to third point which v make many maiT of Jou yoU scowl I know lenow j yet more depends on It it almost than thin other any one thing j appear I In your at your your courtship best best and and of or course so 80 will will he YOU he heJl do J not pretend to be what you countable not Deception during for tor more unhappy marri than ian anyone anone could believe Yeti Yeta II sf girls ry do not ot care for tor consequences too they t try to do Is to make an 1 regardless of f. f whether Aether or not it the Ine V What hat at Is ls the result suit A dreal dread drca disillusionment comes at a it is too late to offset it Love into disgust or Indifference and the i tied life will be a prolonged It is al all right to be at your best let t it be your true best I girls say they would use any means mean win a man Such girls usually corn grief and they deserve it Jj Another point I wish to Insist O that you marry not a mans man's face tace but character If his dIsposition does fit in with yours If there is not nota not a apathy pathy of feeling between you if Iffy natures are not congenial It Is g sis s s' s that you are not Intended tor for Better no marriage than an marriage The trials of ot married Hf life r many under the best circumstances under wrong conditions the they Y ir are merable and unbearable CONCESSIONS To sum up therefore my dear yo women who contemplate marriages let say again that it Is fat the he most conse qu thing in life You should exe extra exe more deliberation over It than over t thing else In your courtship never compro maidenly reserve Hold modesty sa Modesty Is the guardian of purity Is a a. maidens maiden's most beautiful Some men will do their utmost to a maiden of that adornment but w I Ithe the they have have done done so they despise her Do Do- Donot not guided by the loose code morals of those who ha have e ho ship has degenerated nowadays am amt certain tal classes tl s of JoP people Into sin Certain e yo young folks think to court ship entitles them to freed r The law of God holds f for youn e o wco hj tJ during n courtship rt Just as fr does for people ordinarily Courtship fo titles young people to nothing t t would not do In the presence of f for or mother The young joune w woman woman man who joins reserve to her other attractions ins In in i love far more than a girl who whom conc concessions to to her lover And wh W I speak a of concessions e I mean a ti and everything v which T a g girl would O I IW tatE tatO to do in the presence of her sM or mother Your courtship is a p. p ration f for r marriage If It you expect a t blessing I on your married life you U respect tg His Ws law during t courtship I It Is only right and proper that II should be at your b best during cor court O r but again I let me e remind you th tt 1 should be your jour genuine best best no no f I She She Sir Sir I understand you s shad had a face faco that would stop a acl cl He So lie So I did diet Any well regu I clock would pause and hold up hands in admiration at the sigh your lovely face 2 M 11 |
