Show HUSBAND IS RETICENT UNTIL SURROUNDED BY AUDIENCE SAYS WIFE Girl Needs to Be Bc P Persuaded to Find Real tReal Good for Herself One Boy Friend Leaving c Another Arriving I. I i By BETTY BLAIR Though eyes are called the mIrrors of the soul they may maybe maybe be taught to dIssemble and in the stress of the days day's work the eyes of most men completely mask what goes on behInd them But like the mask of any man seemingly devoted entirely to his work or his hobby it can ean be lifted It is the i wife or sweetheart waiting for him at t the end of the days day's Work who can learn to unmask the real man beneath Dear Miss Blair When we were first marrIed my husband used to tell me everything Now aLter after three years cars or of married life lite he seems to shut hImself I UP n a shell el as 1 1 soon as he gets e I A I home I always I have a nice din I hi ncr ner prepared for forI I him and he seems pleasant II e enough n 0 ugh an and d mu r happy enough I- I But after he has hasI I ii eaten his dinner Ii and and shut himself U II behind his paper he just doesn't seem to know I exist He wed used to dIscuss with me all the problems that thal arose in his of of- flee fice Now 1 never know what is going on down there Miss Blair I cant can't bear to think my husband has lost confidence in me That Thatis is the con sion lusIon I have come to since he no longer tells me any any- thing When we gIve a dinner to our friends or when we go to other peoples people's homes to dinner and he r gets warmed up he tells things that have happened that simply amaze me I have never heard of them before and cant can't understand why he would keep the truth from me When I ask him about it later and try to find out why he hasn't told me mc he says simply Oh I just forgot or I didn't think you'd be interested When I tell him I would be inh in- in he says when he gets h home he is tired of office affairs and wants to get his mind on other things Then I cant can't understand under under- r stand why he thinks these things so worth while when he gets getsin sn in a crowd I 1 used to be able to look into my husbands husband's eyes and read the love in them whether lie he told me beloved me or not noL Now his eyes always seem veiled and it is only on rare occasions that he tells rae me he loves me Do you oU think my husband is losIng his love and confIdence in me This worries me a lot as he is U e only person in the world I have ever really loved DISTURBED It is my opInion that your husband has such complete confidence in you oU oUne ne he thinks it unnecessary to burden you with details Take him at athis his word and realize that when he reaches home from the grind of the theoffice office oice It Is like finding refuge from the s sorn orn of office fice affairs And home should hould be just such a refuge No doubt your our husband has been ex ex- thin things all day No doubt he heis is deeply grateful ul that you understand under stand tand his need of being quiet that you oU do not overly intrude Other than being your our husband the man is also himself These quiet hours at home are arc the only part of the day in whIch he has a moment to think his own thoughts 10 be him him- reif unhampered and Let him enjoy them If his house were not so well kept his dinner so good his wile wife so amiable he could not so well enjoy this brIer brief respite of f peace And what wife wiCe would deny her the right to inflate his ego ja 18 little when he is in a crowd He doesn't do it at home because he fears his wife see through his He must have an audience for 1113 Wes tales And one that will not ques tion or be critical I think you ou may believe sincerely Letters questions and request requests re- re quests quest for advice should be bc addressed ad dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE K E. E WrIte legibly upon only one I side of the paper It is necessary that you ou append ap ap- pend the rIght name and address ad I dress but these will be held In strict confidence and will mt j appear in prInt Questions In In- advertising information I annot be answered I that your husband still loves you ou I I think you have narrowed your own existence down when you admit that you yoL have only one love in your our life lICe Y You u must have other loves The Thc love of humanity The love of civic bet bet- It is my advice that you en- en enlarge large your life lite through extending your our love You will not then have time timeto to worry whether your husband loves your or not You should become be come so absorbed that he may need to wonder r whether you still love him himor or not Your interests should be so vital and your our enthusIasm so great that he will begin to make inquiries concerning you ou And that is as it should be Keep Kc-cp your our husbands husband's interest In in- terest alive in you by keeping your yourself yourself self alive to vital interests other than thana a husband and home You need neglect neg neg- lect none ot of them i DUTY NOT ENDED Dear Miss Blair Your answer to m my letter came like a lifesaver to a drowning man Just after I had finished reading it who should walk in but the year old girl who had been running after my husband She wanted 25 cents for a show so I gave her your our letter to read It frightened her when she thought I might put her in an in She then told me she had been dismissed from school for calling her teacher a name She told me also that she was an il 11 legitimate child and that her mother was dead She said my husband was the only person who had been good to her and that she couldn't see what harm harma a kiss and a hug did when it was not hidden from me I guess gue-cs she is more to be pitied than blamed Thank you ou for helping helping help help- ing me over the rough roads HEARTBROKEN WIFE While your our own problem may have been solved that of the girl girlis is far from being solved and it is that which concerns us now The kindness your husband showered upon her would probably not be Interpreted In in the light or of so much good since it made no appeal to the girls girl's better nature It H did nothing more than appeal to her sensual nature nature na- na ture which d is already un- un balanced The girl needs real kindness Could you ou not go to the school from which sh she has been expelled and talk to the principal about her Find out with whom she lives what her environment en is not it could be bettered The love and caresses and money she had from your husband were doubtless the only escape she knew from the sordidness of her existence but it was not the kind of escape that would teach her self control or womanliness womanliness wo- wo manliness or to fill a womans woman's place in the world If anything is to be bedone bedone done for that gIrl it must be done now What can you do to help her Can you give ive us her name and address and more or of her history Thank you I I EVEN EXCHANGE Dear Miss Blair The boy I have been going wIth is leaving town and It just happens that another boy y I went vent with sometime a ago o is returning to town This boy who is going away wanted me to promise that I wouldn't go co out with any other boy while he was gone But as ashe ashe he doesn't know when he is coming coming com com- ing back I dont don't want to do that Shall ShaH I tell him about the boy I Iwho who is coming back and who has already written to ask it if he be may see rae me Thank you LITTLE EVA Since you OU do not Intend to concede the promise to the going away boy boyto to refuse all appointments with other boys is it necessary to tell him about the boy who is coming back It may lead to the impression that the boy who is returning is to fill the place of the one going away and are arc you sure this will be the case If you OU do mention the boy who is returning be sure you do so casually casual casual- ly so the going away boy may be not unnecessarily hurt His affection for you must be deep judging by the nature of at the request he mal makes 3 He would doubtless be easier in his mind were he to know you OU were go go- fag Ing with a number of boys bos than only one of them |