Show f LW i FRIEND INTERVENES I C IN WIFE'S DEFENSE e HOPING FOR CHANGE h Can an a aMan Man Forget One Love to Enjoy y Another Is Query of Girl Woman Would Start J. J x r v Club of Young Matrons 1 By BETTY BLAIR Sister and brother love can be very unselfish and sincere I but neither should forget that when the other marries there I- I Is a oneness formed into which the other may not enter and with the bonds of which the other should not tamper Sisters Sisters Sisters Sis Sis- Sis Sis- especially are so anxious to make a show of the power k they hold over their brothers that they overshoot the mark and deal much misery that a little litle common sense would save f Dear Miss Blair n I have never liked people who made it their business to interfere inter inter- fere ere in other peoples people's affairs and now eoe Ii it d would i seem I am m doing just that very t r I I It thing But the t AR fact of the matter ru f is I feel reel very II I I I sorry orry for a certain ii IU tain thin wife who I Iam Iy y ill 1111 am s sure re would ii N II never raise a finger fin fin- t. t r ger in self self-de J ii tense And yet I Ii t. t i u know she suffers terribly because of ef the thoughtlessness of i some come of her in I am writing writ writS I 1 ing this letter Jetter without her knowlI knowledge knowl I edge in the hope that good may w come of it i She was married about three years ago and now has a lovely I baby She and her husband have havet been obliged to live in a portion t e of his parents' parents home I know f. f A the parents have all good in intentions intentions teni ten ten- i toward their sons son's wife but r. r there is a sister older than the i married brother who seems to take a delight in seeing the reaction reaction re re- re- re action she can produce in her l' l in sister law by mauling her herm m r.- r. brother sitting on him when he helies helies lies down to take a nap arid and int indulging in in- t y in other undignified and andt 4 t totally uncalled for acts of fa fa- I I have seen these things and andt t noted the looks on the faces of or ori i the other members of the thc family as they watched the young wife I A to see ee traces of ot the thc jealousy the they expect her to exhibit I have vP se seen n this young youn wife ba battle Ue with r her hei emotions to keep a calm exi exterior ex ex- I i tenor teror until it seemed something f inside her would burst burstIn i J In other ways the sister law law j has tried to embarrass the he wife I She has hurt her immeasurably F by saying uncalled for things that hat Li H have cut like a knife Yet the 1 J 4 young wife keeps her feelings to I j f herself and says nays nothing ng tf r Other people e have seen the thet t same thing going on that I have i It seems a shame that respectable respect respect- able nice people cant can't see for t themselves the tr torture they are heaping on this young oung sensitive J if girl and that the mother or the r 1 young husband couldn't put a aI astop I stop to it It is bad enough for young married people to have to t live with others but circumstances circum circum- i 1 stances make it impossible for lor j. j them to do an anything thing else Why then c cant can't nt the laws in-laws try to see t things from the point of view of I the other othe side instead of gloating Jf over ever their own t SORRY FOR WIFE v L Brother and sister who have grown tip from birth like two puppies puppies' tumbling turn tum bling over the rug and over each other in their play are apt to retain some of ot this playfulness tow toward rd each other into their grownup days But we arc are of the same opinion as asi i you W S that this should l be he restrained and that their relationship should take talc on more dignity dignity dig dig- nit now th that t the brother is married Especially should the feelings of the young wife be considered under the circumstances The continuation of the intimate playfulness between the tw two In face of the fact that the whole family seems to be aware of its effects effects ef ef- ef is Is' nothing more than a mild form of torture which the family enjoys en en- k joys at the wife's expense It is a matter that the wife wire can scarcely speak of even to her husband husband hus bus band for it would sound small and petty and would of course reveal the a fact that she was possessed of a peculiar peculiar pe pc pe- pe culiar feel feeling g of ot jealousy for which she was not at all responsible She l would fear her husband might not notI I understand the actual extent of her he suffering and would censure her And AndI I of cour course e she could speak to no o one u I else We think the sister is acu acting II with malice aforethought and should 1 I I be induced to curb her tendency I v r 7 GIRL FRIENDS FRIEND'S BOY DOY FRIEND Dear Miss Blair I used to go quite often to fV places with my girl friend and her boy friend About six months ago my friend gave up this boy for tor another He Hc and I IX Ih X h have ve been going together off oft and andon andon on ever since and now he wants rk to go with me rae steady He tells f me that if he had met me first he would never have gone with with- my girl friend at all aU as he has liked me better from the time ho ne first m met t isle me It is hard for me to believe this i. i as I know how wild they were 1 over each other Do you think it is po possible sible for him to forget his Ls feeling toward the other girl Y so ZO soon and to like me rise as much Letters LeUer qu questions t ns and r re requests requests quests for advice should be ad ad- to MISS B BET BETTY E T T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT I. I LAKE A AKE K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of ot the paper It is necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the right name and address address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will nut lt appear in print Questions invOlving involving in in- advertising information annot be answered as he says he docs does or is he just feeding me a line Jine aa IN DOUBT How you ou talk child Of course a aman aman aman man can change his love Jove of one woman woman wo woo wooman man for another In six months' months time he can be completely recovered from an overwhelming love In six weeks' weeks time he can be conval convalescent scent to the extent that one would never know he had been en hit In six days' days time but why go on Of course you must remember that men have made love to other women out of spite and you mustn't forget that there are men whose love is as unwavering 3 as My dear there is nothing in this world that is unwavering so let Jet us say as unwavering as true love it sel self TO ORGANIZE CLUB Dear Miss Blair It has been m my desire for some sometime sometime sometime time to organize a club of 01 married married mar mar- ried ned girls whom I know with a program consisting of discussions of our children and wa ways s to rear them with book reviews and interesting interesting in in- reading on travel at home and abroad I have a wonderful wonderful wonderful won won- set of books 75 volumes in all all that thal could be used for reference ref ret provided the girls would be willing to pay a small sum each month to cover cost of re re- re- re Do you think that would b bo askin asking too much of them How is it decided who is to be president o of ot such a group What other officers arc are considered and how arc are they chosen MRS RS H. H The idea is worth worthy of ot fruition You must appoint yourself temporary chairman of or the group until the president dent vice e president and secretary treasurer are chosen by ballot to act over a prescribed length of time The matter of fees and dues must be considered considered con con- by the group and voted on either in laws by-laws or as measures which are adopted until further change is wanted The matter of using your books for reference must als be left leU to the group I Usually with small groups of this nature there are no fees or dues Each member takes her turn at entertaining entertaining en en- the others The matter of at fees and due to cover the cost of refreshments refreshments re re- re- re or other expenses usually scares scares' people out as there are arc so many pl places ces for money to go go and so so little of it t to take care of ot the And the library is full of books they may use without co cost t. t |