| Show UNHAPPY EXPERIENCE i r OF op F FIRST MARRIAGE c i BRINGS INSECURITY t K-t i y ic p Words Voras in For Foreign ign Fri Friendly n ly jn in in Dance Bance Boy rny Seems Less Friendly I tin in un G. G Girls Girl's I Home Hom H orne s' s By BETTY BLAIR The only ony way to combat undesirable mental attitudes Is Isto Isto Isto to act actually a ydo om thing to rout them by crowding them out with s something anore more desirable They c cant can't nt be wished away and a void avoid left for old habits of thought have a way of re reasserting reasserting re- re asserting themselves unless supplanted by new Dear rear Miss Blair Letters frOm rOm women asking you ou what io to todo do with suspicious husbands have led me to think you oU can help belp me also only my ray problem is just reversed I married mar mar- ned ried very young and placed all nU allin I in my girlish dreams around my husband and my any home But my husband was of ot a different type He was very untrue to me sac I kept hoping that he would see his mistake mistake mis mise take but things kept going on oct until he be did a very terrible deed that wasn't so easy to get out of I from him but my with life life hiI hIm 1 put sucha scar car on m my any heart beart that I Twill vill never forget foret I am married again now and have the best husband a woman a-woman could ask for I have never seen him do 40 anything out of ot the way but my mind has been so twisted by my former ormer experience that I Iam Iam Iam am suspicious L of every move he makes make If U he is late coming home or goes Anywhere the first thought t in my myn mind nd is that there is someone else I do not say y anything to him bim for that would he be worse than ever It I. I is bad enough to 10 lp think Those hose things without accusing ng him hint of them How am I to get rid of such thoughts when they are arc put there so deep It isn't jealousy jeal it is only that it just seems I can never trust Anyone again My husband i is very attractive andI endI know many women admire him im He knows ws this too but has bu never stepped out with any of them That is why I know I am m doing a great injustice to him I Iam Iem am em ams still ll young young young-in in my twenties twenties- and have much to live for If it only I can escape rom front this terrible feeling Con you help heIp me DOWNHEARTED You married your second husband ith the scars of the thc wounds received through your first marriage still burn burn- Ing Surely you trusted the second husband at at the time of ot your marriage marriage mar mar- or how could you have placed yourself yours lf n n a position to be treated similarly It I is my belief that you are re alone With thour your thoughts so much that you youre ire are re becoming morbid over the situa situa- tion You must must alJ ally alJ yourself with o other er women engaged d in helpful work for the he community for civic welfare Letters questions and requests re re- quests for advice should be addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS B BETTY E T T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN RAVEN TELEGRAM SALT L LA LAKE AK K E. E Write legibly upon only one ODe side of the paper It is necessary that you append ap ape append pend the rIght Tight name and address ad dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will nut cot appear in print Questions involving in In- advertising ad Information cannot be answered for beautification of homes for child welfare or human leadership Join the Flower Garden club or the art classes now in session at the Art Barn or the Red Cross Croos groups who sew for those in need or the Better Homes movement or the Women's Democratic Demo cratic or Republican clubs or the Womans Woman's Legislative council or other similar groups that will take your mind off oft yourself and place it jt in some worthy cause needing your help Women who tie themselves to a husband husband hus hus- band and a home and think of nothing else under the sun are apt to become so self centered that they bring trouble trou trou- ble le upon themselves cs by their own false alse suspicions You do not riot need to neglect your our husband or your home in order to have some of these vital outside interests that place you with women who work for lor the betterment betterment betterment better better- ment of the conditions of ot mankind Through fine ine associations you can build for yourself a bigger philosophy of li life e. e Interest your husband in your pla plans whatever er they may be for en en- your interests There is noth noth- ing ng like vital interests to keep women young and attractive Make your interests your associations lift you out of ot yourself and yet lit fit it you the better to cope with your own condi condi- Jons Emotions unbecoming to one can be bo driven out only when something something something some some- thing finer and bigger has bas b been n substituted sub sub- in their place WITHOUT A NAME NAl Dear Miss MiM Blair Our club has been without a name for the 12 years that we have been organized and we dont don't seem to be able to find one that- that would be suitable We play cards and are a very congenial crowd Can you suggest a name in a foreign foreign for for- eign language with the meaning pertaining to long friendship Thanking you G. G P. P The word for friendship hip in French Frenchs is s lamitie in German die freundschaft freund freund- chad schaft in Italian Any of these icse if you prefer the foreign to toa a good old Saxon Anglo-Saxon name would ouid be c suitable ACTIONS BELIE WORDS Dear Miss Mils Blair Blai OIl OIlI I went to a dance for the first time with a boy bay I have liked for fora a long time Several Se people have told me rue that U this s boy liked ma mo and they have repeated to lo me th the tho things he has said about me such uch as that I had personality pIUS plus I and something about my looks which was very complimentary to me me as I have always known I could never compete in a beauty beau ty contest We had a wonderful time at the dance and afterward he called on me at m my home borne But from front then thenon on he didn't seem scent interested in me any more In my home we just sat around and talked and listened to the radio Somehow we didn't seem so friendly us u we were at the dance Maybe it was wu because I felt elt a little shy chy about playing the part of ot hostess in my own home Anyway there was a strange unnatural atmosphere atmosphere atmos atmos- phere and we couldn't be our our- selves Do you suppose it H is my fault In not being able to be the kind of ot hostess I would like to be that discouraged this boy from front coming coming com corn ing lag any more I like him so much and would would like like to do anything within reason to get hint him to like I me WONDERING A I pretty dance frock a good or or- chestra floor in perfect condition two dancing in rhythm to the music's ca Ca- well dence-well ence well in such a setting everything every- every thing thine ung just takes care of ot itself to see that lat you have a good time But in your our own natural habitat your habItat your home a as hostess you must supply all aU the atmosphere the perfect t setting and more than this thi the inner grace of your our own self lf that must keep step tep with your outward charm The home is your natural setting et I ng There it Is Iz very hard to try to be something that you really are arc not Dont Don't ont fool yourself into believing that boys oya like mea artificiality They like the genuine thing in personality in good goodnature nature that radiates kindness and in inlove inlove love oye for homo home and family and the background that has made you what you rou are And above all they admire the he girl who has the courage to be beher beher e her own unassuming self elf The girl must fit It into her own surroundings sur sur- sur- sur with ease east and beauty as much as u a precious gem must have a aI suitable setting Better a perfect dla dla- dla- dla I mond in a modest setting than a cheap stone tone in an expensive setting Have the courage to be yourself but be sure Bure that really are matches what you try to make people think hink you are arid and with this knowledge knowl edge comes come the ease and genius with wit which to make other people like you ou wherever you are You are arc sure then that you are arc never placed in a false alse sett setting |
