Show S BETTY S 'S Letters and questions for this department should be addressed to Miss S Betty Blair HeArts HeArt's Haven Salt Lake Telegram Write only on one side I of the paper It I is necessary to append your name and address but these S are re eld In confidence and will not be pUblished y Dear Betty Blair S It seems natural that we cannot S se our own faults at least not as others see see them I have always been too when I was very S.- S. young I felt very badly about it I imagined most every everyone one was mak ing fun of me You see I was un sen I dont don't worry over my Size more but I am still very My husband says I am too sen sen- He is very considerate of my feelings but his mother and brother are not Now in order that you can see both sides I must tell 55 you OU that I have some children by my former marriage I cooked for my husbands husband's gang of me men before we i were married He was good to my children and they loved hum him and he was anxious to care for me and them He seems not to have changed in the least just as devoted as ever But onCe his brother a man of 30 or more took my my boy 8 and pulled his hair and pounded him He was I white wih rage I Once when I was cooking for my husband before I married him and this same brother was one of Lis is men the just boys to tease him got one of my children to call hI him Uncle He got so angry he heme me in the kitchen arid and was about to attack me But I had a friend and was protected My iy husband knew nothing about it and when 5 his brother asked me to forgive hum him I did And I 1 forgave him for whipping whip whip- ping my children but I told him not tp do it again I 1 have a darling little boy by my present husband and I asked him what he would do if one of my brothers would whip his child He said he would not allow it Still he het t inks it is o. o k k for his brother tp to whip my children Now to tell you about his mother she is old but has a perfect mind so 60 far as I can an see and she has just paid me a visit I think she is very She told me that I should send my children to tomy my father She also told me I had no business marrying her he son He was 39 years old and he certainly Fiad ad plenty of chance to know what Ie was taking on his hands 5 Now ow Miss Blair I feel heart broken over over the way these two treat me and talk to me sometimes IS I will just get over feeling bad over the unkind thins this old woman Laid to me when the brother will dr Jr op p in and hand me a parcel He HeIs Heis is in business with his brother He does not snow what his mother said I do not let him know that I feel sad ud I just smile and do all things I can to show him how dear he is isto isto to me but my children need me Am I too sensitive Should I tell him Should I get him away from S his folks Is it asking too much of him to be a good stepfather to my children Dont Don't you think Miss Blair his mother is a mean old thing and very unkind to me Would anyone with good sense sense feel badly or is she not worth my t thoughts Should I tell his broth S er 1 what's what S SS S 5 SENSITIVE I S SS S Tour problem Is Indeed uIt e s but In in nowise unique be Cause ause t an anyone one who marries S tor o t the e second time If Ui are rc-are children must face lUes that do not arise in a first r for each Difficulties with withes withe's es e's mother law have hae been of prominence and lon long standing l be almost prO proverbial and ot of one or oI the others other's friction too Is quite e unhappy as the cond cond con con- d s J are h r h ir just to out ot have met faced rB si difficulties difficulties- o to the possible s 9 O U an your our husband are are ito to each other and you t 0 0 problem there for which well well-be thankful Con Con- Con I are are not Meal Ideal but think the your our moth moth- f w ot of view for ex X- X ns when your son either of j t Up un and is ready to toS S l. l ou preter to have havea try a a with several He It ren or a girl 1111 who has never I J married before You can J n. n ot oC how sh she may maye e rn o r own own reaction to that It If you rou are an- ana a devot d carIng more for tor the hapson hap hap- r. r oUI son than for your our Interest in him S to marr marry the girl hl or 11 lre- lre o Jo and you OU will not In tre 5 S MUST come first filst firstS S QI y ouri ur You are t POn for tor their being here 5 ad It ts unthinkable that you your r ul shirk that or that any man t o oman would expect you ou to they need you and our ur husband a arees res re's there bc no question Simply i ignore nore r. r n n ln and her tom tom- It sha tp brinKs brings up tip 5 subjects s excuse and until she teams learns that s-e s II mUst hold her ton tongue ue It 5 be better for everyone con con- it if you OU could COUIl k keep en theseS these S from your our husband S J t l t lem em go In one ear and the other and forget being beingS S on that score score because man owes something to his mother motle as well welI as to hIs wile wife and ven cn though the mother is in 11 le wrong he ver very well 5 do uch about it It It If rot ignoring her er does doesS S S notha Ot e the desired effect then S ht try her he h C If you eel feel you OU mu must t. t and andS S her her be one to carry a S 5 t l tl to your our husband not you ou e thEn you ou an aIwas jus jus- Wv yourself yourself- our f S- S rr c brot brothers brother's b r is outI out out- I 9 S ra Even it your OUI children do doneld neld n eed J punishing unish-In unish he ha Ii bring th them em to you ou and let you rou It Ten Tell him him this antI amY see Ifill If ft i h w will ill not be bemore more ot of a man nd a agree gree to your OUI bargain You know e even ven the most n need eed punishing and st strangers rangers are ale tempted to handle th the situation when when- th they know tl th li t te th the e parents Ire are v ver- ver r lax in dIs ci Is that Uy an any chance th the e state In your that y our brother brother- ln lav n-Ia n w thinks he must st step ep In or Of Course the teasing S Y S tn w were ere to did n not ot bring out th best in n ln fa fact ct he he behaved like a t spoiled in Infant fant himself sti that desperatIon despera despera- ti tIon on of anger is not uncommon a and nd can thus be explained h. Forget all you OU can see as as' as lite little lit lit- ti tle e ot of your our laws in as e a and nd keep your our life with your lrus lrus- b band and ser serene ne b by family tilt tilt- fe slumberIng or 01 better sun still e to hIm I I D Dear ear Miss Blair Please let me know if there are a any ny hat frames with braid or hair b braid raid cowns I have noticed the h hats ats with combinations of straw c crown rown and silk brim and like t them hem very well I make my own h hats ats and would jike like to jo know if o one ne could get a frame with straw c crown rown and wide bim I read your a answers about car car- in ing g for for- forthe the complexion and agree w with ith you that powder powder- will make a poor complexion Worse What d do o you think of of cream as asa a protection from the sun Will it coarsen coarsen the pores I have an oi oily ly skin and enlarged pores A FRIEND Have ve you trIed the wholesale m millinery stores F F. They carr carry h hat at shapes of ever every and b raids braids or of all all' shades all shades If you ou cannot canot can can- n not ot get the combination lon you OU wish It Is easy enough to get the shape hape s and malta the crown or of the theraid b raid to match Since we couldn't m mention tire names Of the stores an a war wed we'd ed suggest that you youther ei either ther call us for lor further ns o or r go o Into nn any or of the department s tore store sections which earn carry u untrimmed shapes or Into the s shops hops dealing el in materials ma- ma t and sh shapes pes I If your skirt skin Is QUy the c ream ream you ou Use the the- better it will S b bl 5 and It if you get et one of the many w with hazel or almond or a lotions lotion that should be la all y you peed leed a p powder io base bae or to leep kep rOUl kiri sol soft rhESe lotions Iso tend to o tl tighten the the- skin so U that lt tho are brought back to n normal Dear Miss Blair Blak I wrote to you S a few months ago in Salt Salt Lake but did not re receive receive an answer to my letter ietter so will write once once- more 1 I saw ahome a ahome home remedy for destroying per per- superfluous hair that someone I had sent in and which I you printed in your column The I treatment required about three I months The paper in which it was was printed was dated some time I in March or April about a year ago I would appreciate it very much if you get the formula again and send it to me I meant to keep the paper but it was mislaid HOPEFUL We did an answer el your your- our other letter let let let- ter Hopeful but you must have hae missed the Issue or else you O had already alread gone gone to t C California Well We'll rint it It again though and also the the suggestions made mad by an another ther reader along the same line The original to formu mu l call called d for two s of peroxide or of n nand and one hal ounce ounce- or of spirits spirits' or of camphor to winch which is added a Cew drops of ammonia after the mixture has been poured hila the palm or of the hand to be applied Previous to using this combination combination tion one should use tweezers or ora ora a depilatory to take oH oft the super super- hair and expose the roots to the action of thep the re This should should- be be applied e every ery night and It is to to- take from thre to cour four mon rs JS J'S to to- accomplish e. e L Recently one of r our i aders who ho ha hal used used- tho gl for years rears S suggested gg sted a different differ differ- ent that combination that n f two parts peroxide to one part latt ammonia mixed mixed- and kept In l a dark glass bottle bottI either a screw or glass I I toP as an ordinary cork will not hold and then just before appl ap- ap pl add a few drops or of spirits of camphor and pat on the spots with with- the tips of of the fIngers ers dur ur only Is BE C CAREFUL CARE CARE- REFUL RE FUL Camphor wIll vili lurn bUrn t tender skin and so will ammonia unless unless un- un less you ou us this mixture a lIttie lIttle lIt lIt- tie tle at a time and work up gradually grad grad- meantime using a lotion or cream to to offset the dr drying ing or burning D' D of the skin It might be bewell bewell well to use se seit it only twice or 01 times a Yek until your skin is accustomed to such drastic drastic- treat treat- ment Then rhen too If you ou use a depilatory It would be wise riot not notto to apply this combination until the day alter after when y your ur sIm has lost some or of Its tenderness from the use ot of th the camphor and again BE CAREFUL Dear Miss BI Blair ir i. i When at a formal dinnen and and andI I the guests are ready to to go in does the lady take the arm of I her dinner partner or do they just walk in I am planning on ona ona a trip east where I know that I Imay Imay may have to attend a formal function tion or two and this point was brought for argument the othe night I claim that hat the lady need not take the gentleman's arm but there there- were others who differed Can you settle it Thanking yoU kindly NOT SO FORMAL I I You are ri right ht N. N S. S F F. The lady merely walks Into the dining With rith her partner or Precedes precedes Pre Pre- cedes him Into the room Ir if there are a number en enterIng ering to together ether The holding onto Ii mans man's arm arm JS is Practically taboo most occasions occasions occa- occa Unless the woman is really In need of of- a so assistance when In doubt about that the suggestion I I is Dont |