| Show YOUR BABY AND MINE Parents Must Seek Reason Redson For Over-Generous Over Child By MYRTLE MEYER ELDRED No mother wants to see her child stand in a corner with his arms full of toys defying anyone to come and take them from him She hates this illustration illustration illustration illus illus- of selfishness and she fears it will be a permanent character trait She need not Until the child acquires a secure sense of his right to his own possessions so that he is sure no one will ill take takeaway takeaway takeaway away what belongs to him he feels that he has to defend his property If sisters brothers and parents respect his possessions possessions posses posSes- he can relax and knowing knowing knowing know know- ing that he owns these toys he will find ways to share with others There is another type of of behavior behavior be be- havior that is less Common but just as troublesome to the parent parent parent par par- ent and that is when the child wants to give away everything he e owns It may be that he has hasso hasso hasso so many toys that none has any value for him and he spreads them broadcast knowing full well that there will be more to take their places But just as often the toy the child presses on another child may be one which his parents have sacrificed to buy They I cannot be blamed for feeling some emotion when they see the lighthearted way in which the child parts with it Not only do they suffer a penalty penally if itis it itIs itIs Is a toy they want the child to toha ha have ve but they suffer guilt because because because be be- I cause they do not want to seem to appear less generous than the child There is usually a reason and andone andone andone one not far to seek when the c child ild Is so anxious to please a small companion The reason lies in the thc childs child's relationships with his friends He does not feel secure in their friendship He feels that he must buy it and hold it with his gifts This is all wrong and the at attack attack attack at- at tack should be upon the relationships relationships relationships rela rela- and not the childs child's acts which show them up This child needs understanding He needs the opportunity to have larger choices of friends so that he will come to know himself that he is liked for himself and not for what he can give away Meanwhile his parents may solve the difficulty by allowing allowing allowing allow allow- ing him materials with which to tomake tomake tomake make gifts to his friends in instead instead instead in- in stead of depriving himself of toys of material value in order to buy his way into their Our leaflet No 69 Selfishness Selfish ness and Jealousy may be had by sending a stamped self ad dressed envelope with your re request request request re- re quest to Myrtle Meyer Eldred jn in in care of the Salt L Lake Telegram Telegram Telegram Tele Tele- gram Home Service Bureau |
