Show Your Baby No I Wont I Indicates Individuality By MYRTLE MEYER ELDRED Any reader interested may obtain ob- ob obtain ob tain my free leaflet When the Child Says No for the usual cent 3 stamped self-addressed self envelope sent in with a request to Mrs Eldred of the your baby and mine department in care of The Salt Lake Telegram One shining indication of or achild's a achild's achild's childs child's growth in individuality is that tendency to say No I wont Until the child has the consciousness of his own desires and the willingness and spirit to oppose the parent he is just a tool of the parent We know that it is quite natural for tor a parent to demand of the small child that he go not his own sweet way but hers Right up to that moment when he calls a halt by saying No no Mothers get to be very bossy so much so that it is wells well for children that they find the courage courage to fo oppose t I them If they did not they would continue to be told what to do and when and how to do it right up to into adulthood Mother could always always al always al- al ways argue that of course she knew best Children grow dont dont don't grow that way They grow into a knowledge of their own desires They know whether they want to sleep and whether they can or cant can't eat They know what clothes they like and what children make them happy or miserable to play with They grow resentful when they are ordered to end their own play in order to carry out some Jome dictate of the parent They want to learn and see and do and when the parent frustrates them they show their resentment in no uncertain way When children begin stamping their feet and yelling I wont won't the parent has to sit down calmly calmly calmly calm calm- ly and ask herself Am I being a dictator or are my demands reasonable It is so much easier to tell herself hersel that she is right and the child all wrong But most mothers will admit that they are thinking first of their own comfort and convenience conven conven- and not of the childs child's de- de de de- L |