Show TO BE A POPULAR HOSTESS The lot of a would be universally popular popular popular pop pop- ular hostess Is by no means a happy one in society for the snare of the pitfalls pitfalls pitfalls pit pit- falls spread on every side for the unwary un un- wary vary entertainer is legion In trying to avoid Scylla she straightway encounters encounters encounters and unless she has the ta tact t of a diplomat the patience of a saint and the energy of a General she will never win her way to the desired goal of ot her ambitions If she tries to satisfy the select few she offends the many many while while to recognize the many is Is hopelessly to alienate the f few w who re refuse refuse refuse re- re fuse to attend her functions on the ground that they are too mixed On the other hand those very people for whom she has sacrificed her smart friends ungratefully criticise her efforts for the reason leason that the select few are pot not present Mr Nobody for instance who re receives receives receives re- re an invitation to dine with the feels flattered at first but when he gets to the dinner and finds that smart ones are conspicuous by their absence absence ab ab- ab- ab sence he feels anything but grateful to the who would have done much better not to have asked him at all Who was there he exclaims wrathfully wrathfully wrath- wrath fully Why Just the people that they ought to be kind to It was a most obvious obvious ob ob- ob- ob case of the highways and byways by by- ways I consider such invitations an Insult The dinner dance which has become such euch an institution of late years whereby whereby whereby where where- by society leaders have succeeded somewhat somewhat somewhat some some- what la in curtailing the number of their guests should be most tactfully managed man man- aged Many hostesses seem to go on the principle that half halt a loaf is better than none and invite in afterward those whom they do not wish to ask to the preliminary dinner This is a fatal mistake which no woman who wishes to be considered popular should ever commit She should make the dinner dinner din din- ner ncr large larg enough to have enough dancers ers era ers and if she wishes to Include every everyone everyone everyone one she should give gl a second or third dinner dance If It not she should never try to patch up wounded feelings by an invitation which Is obviously not a complimentary complimentary complimentary com com- one There is a very plain rule to observe In such cases If It a guest has already been invited to a dinner he or she he may be asked in afterward on another occasion not otherwise |