| Show Hearts Haven Each Sex Has Need of The Other By BETTY BLAIR Why does does' a boiler explode What has happened when the trunk of a tree is distorted warped twisted Why did your precious piece of cut glass break when hot water was poured over a small portion of it To find the right answers to these questions and apply the same reasoning to the treatment of children children children chil chil- dren and adolescents might make us change our attitude and the training we accord them For nature nature nature na na- na- na ture has a way with her that also affects human beings Dear Miss Blair I am 17 years old pretty and quite well to do and have many friends But my parents do not wish me to go out with boys A Awhile Awhile Awhile while ago I went out with a boy whom I had met and seen only a few times We went to a show and then car riding When he took me home he kissed me several several sev sev- eral times and told me he loved me roe I Iwas was so stunned by this I didn't know what to say I dont don't think a boy of 19 means it when he has taken a girl out only once I would like to go out again but my parents will not permit it after what happened that first evening How can I make them see that that I would like to go out as other girls do and have a good time once in a while Would I be considered cheap if I allowed a boy to date me I have never even seen the in inside inside inside in- in side of a public dance hall ball I respect my parents enough not notto notto notto to go against their wishes yet yetI I wish I knew how to change their point of view Dont Don't you think this idea of never going out with boys is too strict Please help me meONE ONE WHO CARES ollo Yes I think its it's too strict never to o let you go out with boys But never is a long time and I think if f you go about it in the right way to make friends with nice boys in invite invite invite in- in i vite them to your home let your I parents meet them le let them spend c evenings at cards or other games or listening to the radio and dancing dancing ing ng in a natural wholesome way then I feel sure your parents would see that companionship between boys s and girls is necessary to normal normal normal nor nor- mal development Just because one boy was wag untrained untrained untrained un un- un- un trained or perhaps I should say enough to kiss you and declare his love on the first date you had with him is no sign that all boys are like that You can pretty well tell by a boys boy's conversation conversation conversation conver conver- what his rearing has been If f he is the kind who objects to meeting your parents who thinks an evening spent in your home with other young people would be too dull for endurance who thinks only in n terms of a date with a little pitch and woo thrown In as the price of it then you want to be bewell bewell bewell well warned to avoid him You should be permitted to welcome welcome welcome wel wel- come nice boys bors to your home and your parents should also welcome them hem I have seen girls who were denied this privilege grow up to have lave such a distorted idea about companionship with the opposite sex that they threw themselves at athe atthe atthe the he first man who asked them for fear ear another wouldn't come along They were so frustrated that their love ove natures were warped Explosion Occurs Love may be directed into natural natural natural nat nat- ural and wholesome channels and androw grow row to be something lovely lovey but you cant can't dam darn up or frustrate any natural impulse without reaping the bitterness of an explosive outbreak once the cap is off My wish for you is that your parents will permit you to grow up naturally and normally with the association of other nice boys and girls near your own age and that you will not abuse this privilege but jut that you will keep the controls of love well in hand until such time that you know your being in love with love is headed in the right di direction direction direction di- di to someone whose background background background back back- ground and training has been like your own COOLIDGE l MINCEMEAT Dear Miss Blair I 1 cut out the recipe for CoolIdge Coolidge Coolidge Cool- Cool idge mincemeat that you published published published pub pub- in your column a few years ago but I have lost it Could you please reprint it Thank you MRS T. T W W. A. A Im I'm sure I printed it too but do you think I 1 can find it Not among my Christmas or Thanksgiving Thanksgiving Thanksgiving Thanks Thanks- giving recipe files Not in m my files on pies Where in the world world world- Just like me in my hurry to put it l by mistake in files on salads or soups or the dozen and one other r food files It would be like looking for a needle in a haystack to try to find it Ill I'll promise not to scold any of you again for clipping your recipes and putting them in such such- sucha a good place you cant can't find them if one of you will please pleas send me mea a copy of the r recipe cipe for Coolidge mincemeat Im I'm sure theres there's one among you who hasn't been so negligent negligent negligent neg neg- as to misplace it |
