| Show Hearts Heart's Haven Cant Can't Reform Husband After Marriage 1 By Dy BETTY BLAIR The necessity for Individual reform must come from within To reform m merely rely as a means means means' to an end means that reform ceases when that end endis 1 is rea reached hed c Dear Miss Blair Biair I would like to tell Blue whose letter appeared in Wednesday t. t nights night's column that if her boy boyfriend boyfriend r friend starts In now making tr promises he doesn't fulfill he will r keep right on failing her if she r. r should marry him t My husband made wonderful promises promised before we were married He Ee was going to stop top drinking give up gambling join the church and fill other demands I request- request Ie r Aed ed to live up to the standards of life life 1 I maintain He was going to toft ft give me an allowance he was goIng going going go go- ing ing- to be the he kind of man he had always wanted to be with my help Character First Let me tell you this Blue See Seeto to it that the man you choose for fora a IS life companion is the kind of ot man you want before you marry him He wont won't change afterward All his talk about doing everything everything everything every every- thing for the woman he loves all the talk about your Influence over him is just a lot of boloney When he gets you none of these promIses promises prom prom- l' l bes matter to start with r If hes he's a good man f you ou wont won't need to tomake make him over All you'll have to do is to get used t to his peculiarities and expect hell he'll get used to yours That's what everybody has to do but that's different from trying to change a aman's amans amans aman's anan's mans man's whole character and na na- na- na ture 3 Just take my tip little girl if you ou dont don't want to find yourself 2 trapped EXPERIENCE iii Your letter of experience has made madeus us wonder if there is a single woman woman wo wo- wo- wo man within eyeshot of this column c who has had the unusual experience f of helping a man to reform to live Uve U up to her ideas of good conduct afI after after af af- af- af I ter marriage Real reform is something that comes because the inner nature of I the man demands it Because the I 1 pressure exerted for reform continues contin contin- I ues ties its inner urge The old saying that a man doesn't run for the street bus after he has caught it is as good a reason as any Ii in his mind as to why he doesn't reform for his wife's vUe's sake after h he has married her T Thank you Experience for your excellent letter LUNCHEON GUEST Dear 1 Miss Blair r j 1 I have been so busy in fn the five years of my married marrie life making a home and caring for my two small children I haven't had time for social contacts Now however my husband has had a promotion in business bus and I 1 have been in invited invited invited in- in to a luncheon to be given by bythe bythe bythe the wife of one of the employers I dont don't know whether I 1 will be expected to stay all afternoon or orf f 1 not Nothing has hs been said about any entertainment except lunch Thank you NEW INITIATE I 4 Unless bridge or r other form of I entertainment is provided by your f c hostess you will not be expected to stay the entire afternoon If the serving of th the luncheon occupies i. i approximately an hour from 1 to 2 J o'clock a half hours hour's conversation I thereafter may ensue before you take your leave Your host hostess ss may have other plans for the afternoon If not and she begs you to stay longer you may do so but not so long that conversation has to be forced You will be safe in following the lead of other guests at the luncheon KITTENS FOR GIFTS Two black kittens with white whiskers and white feet cunning playmates will be given to any offering offering of of- I fering assura assurance e of good homes Call CallI i Hyland W W or see them at 1239 I Parkway avenue avenue- I TO RESTORE ESTORE COLOR COLORI I i t Dear Miss Blair I fj r-i I 1 have have some lovel lovely black silk l lace trimmed that are areu u j i turning a slightly greening shade I though I have have- laundered them I carefully by hand Is there anything anything anything any any- thing I can do to restore their J. color Thank you IRENE 4 a a Rinse your black in in-blu- in bluing blut blu blu- t ing water to restore their color Do Dof Dor f r I not hang in the sun as it has a tendency ten- ten dency to make your black things turn green Dry slowly in a shady 4 place or roll in Turkish towels until dry enough to iron when a not too hot ot iron should be used |
