Show V an n hrit Irritates tes te F Girl rl by J Levity 1 Characteristic B By BETTY BLAIR BLAm Traits of disposition according to psychologists are either inherited or or acquired Those that bear the inheritance brand branti are the hardest t to eradicate or suppress There is the danger that suppressed traits may produce other personality twists Dear Miss B Blair 1 r T have always been a devoted reader zeader of your column but this is ismy my first attempt at seeking adV adi ad ad- i V vice I am writing in behalf of an W 4 n acquaintance who needs guidance 1 She has asked me to help solve tr her hex problem and I have given her hermy J I my opinion opInIon now now I would like K yours ours jL k T ls young ladys lady's fiance is a V ry likable fellow fello He is one of the most devoted fellows I have I ever r seen and he Is s ready ady at all vt tImes Imes to comply with her wishes i 1 I really believe that his only t 1 thought is for her happiness and andi i I their future together In many respects they seem very suited to each other and at times they 1 l are sublimely happy happ when in each others other's company But rather than I t b being thrilled at their coming marI marrIage marriage mar- mar I she feels as if It it is something something something some some- thing that she would rather avoid t I And again the thoughts of ot not planning her future with- with him t doesn't appeal to her at all Y y He is a well bred cultured gentleman gen- gen tIeman yet et he has haa some very ani annoying an- an i j personal characteristics He is very good company but it S always appears as if he were trying try- try r In ing to show off off always always trying to 1 be clever and make a hit These among other silly trivial and v childish traits annoy her terribly J and then she starts her nagging p i i and fault This naturally y Irritates him and he goes on actIng actIng act- act v Ing the clown He really is amusIng amusIng amusing amus- amus Ing at times but she claims that his his constant nonsensical entertainment entertainment enter- enter J is making her a nervous x wreck She says that he gets I on her nerves so badly that she shei i ru feels as if It she can scarcely f j stand It k t i Outside Suggestion v It has b been en en suggested to her 1 that perhaps they see each other too often otten but If It his personal odditIes oddities oddities oddi- oddi ties annoy her now what on earth r rt P i would it be like after alter they were married True they would have more more uniting interests after they rl are married but his personality wont won't change and neither wIlli will i hers erSt If It she hasn't been with him for tor some time only a short time is isi i l v necessary sary she remembers only the f J good in him and anxiously awaits s l h his return return only only to be sickened ft t y l' l Jy b some of his stupid remarks and p 1 iH actions At times I really believe v y 1 that she magnifies his faults but she says that she has tried to overlook them but that she cant can't possibly ignore them forever j.- j. t She is well-balanced well 4 a normally f K developed girl 0 of 22 2 years of age and she should be capable of j choosing her mate Her whole life lICe T Os wrapped up In this fellow tellow and j hIs ambitions her first and last t- t thoughts are for him yet et at times t h Rebels he Is in a quandary to know if It the thet the t t fault lies in her or in him She is Lt t. t willing to change her Ideas if she sher r F x cAis ls in the wrong but still feels as L j. j iJ J If some of his nonsense is t. t L ii If l- l essary lessary since Ince it Is embarrassing i f tt- tt and causes cutting remarks I among K among among her friends and relatives F 3 5 1 She is inclined to be nervous and It A sensitive and he isn't helping this thise P e A 4 in the least r 33 M Isn Isn't t there any way that his Irrl- Irrl L 1 A tating bUng ways could be modulated so that their lives could be f 1 T ous She doesn't want to plan be t. t her future without him but as as f matters stand if she does plan plane e A y her future with him he be will vili f r. t ij probably drive her to distraction v j 1 C In n y your ur opinIon could this couple z possibly be happy together if It they did dl 1 get Set married PUZZLED jt T v 14 There is only one answer to this l problem and that is an emphatic if It your friends friend's hope of hap- hap 0 53 lies in remaking the man T I j i Acting the clown is a part of oi i mans man's nature of his personal v l Wanting a man who is sensible 4 Jand and dignified is a part of the girls girl's 1 nature She is able to express herself her- her self at the height of her own ego i When hen associated with suc such a man j After marriage he will get on her nerves erves more than he does now 3 After marriage she will nag him nore than she does now But she must consider this She t V may never find the man who is the Y best complement to her nature She V may never marry if it she doesn't tj marry arr this man She must make er choice Having made It if It Il is agaInst marrying this man she must prepare pre pre- pare for a a. life of her own tI If her choice is Ia I in favor of marg marr mar mar- r g him she must make herself hersel over rather ther than making the fruitless fruit fruit- less effort to remake him Sh She must roust t learn arn to be blind and deaf dea V V. V concerning his mannerisms Sh She V must stimulate his imagination Into int other grooves so that the change inV InI in V I him if it comes will come as an t. t inner conviction rather than as an V outer outer thrust V The success or failure of either eithe choice hoice depends on herself hersel Projects Project V don't dont fat all s ott often as people themI them them- I e elves ves do V VV V l MATcHING l ACCESSORIES V ear Miss Blair V VV V V i Please give me me a rule to follow V Ji about bout the number of accessories j that should match Should one V buy puy hat shoes gloves bag scar scarf V all 11 to match in color Thank you i TISH t Dont Don't have more than three ac- ac that match in color or r r V V the Ithe scheme seems overdone Bag I gloves and belt bel scarf scar scarf gloves and blouse belt belt blouse gloves and hat may V be le alike Keep your shoes shoe neutral V V black gray or brown and j you ou cant can't V V go wrong Black is La the one exception r. r V tion to the rule You may pave have l an all black outfit with just a tou touch h hOf of color in Ina a clip a a. a bracelet r celet M V String trIn of ot beads V V V V V V V V ik s t. t f r i. i ir |