Show FRANKNESS IN SPEECH MAKES MAIES GIRL SUSPECT HER OWN TO BE PASSE By BETTY BLAIR The habit of frankness in speech may be used to appeal to the best or to the worst in its user If to the worst it does more injury to the user than to the one on whom it is inflicted even though that one be an overly sensitive person Dear Miss Blair I wonder If I am really old- old fashioned or if my friends are too modern I lost my my mother when I was 11 and I I. am now 17 but I haven't forgotten the things she taught me One thing my mother impressed on onny ny mind was that I should be courteous to people I 1 have always kept her teachings in mind and it would be really hard for forme me mc to speak to any of my friends as they speak to each other It seems as if the more people become acquainted the worse they talk They really reany dont don't mean to be insulting and they dont don't take any offense with each cach other They just seem to expect to talk that way They think I am terribly terribly terribly ter ter- ter- ter old fashioned because I dontI dont I can laugh and joke about it when they talk to me that way but I can never think of the right words to say back and probably couldn't say them even if I could think of them I hate to be laughed at all the time and to have them think I am amso amso amso so different from the rest but I cant can't help it Do you think I should try to be as plain spoken as my friends are or to just stay as I am am Even my boy friend thinks I should change He is al alvery always always al- al ways very nice to me but once he made a remark that hurt my feelings feelings feelings feel feel- ings though I tried not to show it He says he likes to say right out what's on his mind and not be afraid of oC hurting g somebody's feel fee ings Any advice you ou can give me will be appreciated NANCY NANaY Yes Id I'd say you were old lash Nancy Now that Is being frank with you In the truly modern way But old fashioned or not I wouldn't change your ways If It you were just burning to say something to somebody sometime that was Uncomplimentary uncomplimentary uncomplimentary un un- complimentary though true and you thought the saying would help that person Id I'd advise you first to write down what you had to say and put it away for a few days for consideration consid consId- I doubt if the written scourge would ever be revamped After Alter all aU when we have this sort of thing to say it is to relieve ourselves more than to reform the other person person per per- son sori that we burn to say it The Thc chances for reform with such a measure are arc one in a million Speech Denotes Personality People who are arc innately refined and sensitive naturally choose a re refined refined refined re- re fined way of address Others less sensitive who know each other well adopt a manner of frank and open oper speech and friendly criticism that is often helpful and a manner of take it or leave it They give no offense and take none But for those who have not this manner the very effort to adopt it would be strained and artificial and more apt to cause offense than the same things said by people who manage the frankness so naturally The thing to do is to be exactly what you u arc are To try to be anything else is artificial Nobody is fooled by the sham In other people A girl who clings to her worst traits on the plea that she is being natural is perverting the best that Is in her She is simply making the hands of the clock run backward Instead of forward though her instrument is still a n natural tural clock My advice is 15 not to be too sensitive sensitive sensitive tive to the things outspoken people say to you Consider the complete manner of the source and you cant can't take offense Try to explain to your friend that you have to be yourself and that hat you expect others to be themselves but that you hope you will all make the effort to reach the level of your better selves in speech and manner at least part of the time VACATION CLOTHES Dear Miss Blair I am sailing for or England in July I am a woman of 50 and of moderate means so the clothes I wear for the ocean voyage must also do for my stay over there Please advise me what the nature of oC the clothes should be that I Ivill will vill need I will be traveling third class Thank you MRS T. T Whatever clothes you ou have of lightweight wools dark colored silk prints a lightweight coat a knit dress a R cloth suit will be suitable for the voyage as well as for your Jour sojourn in England A dark silk print and a dark knit or wool dress o of light weight will be right for the voyage Third class passengers do no not dress for dinner so you need not have a dinner dress available for the trip and your knowledge of ot what you yoi will vIl be doing what friends you willbe will wll be seeing over there will tell you better than I can do concerning your need of evening clothes Your mode o of living Jiving while there will also determine the number o of clothes you will need but the best travelers go with light baggage and a few clothes suitable to the occasions they expect expect ex ex- to meet |