| Show BEHAVIOR IN HOME HOMEI I C. C DECI DECIDES DES ATTITUDE IN IN MEETING PUBLIC r V Vi V V V By BETTY BErry BLAIR V V The manner The manner in which ind individuals vidual in the home circle behave is In In n indication of the way in which they will behave in civic and national life If excellent group cooperation and citizenship is to tobe tobe be tie be had in the home the same spirit will Till be manifest in life lite Criminal Crim Crim- mat inal tend tendencies ies are r of often en fostered in the home where there is lack of or home citizenship p V Dear Miss MIs Blair I am writing you about my son He is l 14 years old and I love him V very much so the things I am V telling you rou about him are arc not Biased ed on mere fault Heh Ho He Hohas h has Ls a a. nasty disposition is quick I tempered emp red finding fault selfish He He cant can't stand to see his brother and ind sisters have anything He VV will take things from them and will have th them m crying in no nC time but will Vm always see that he gets plenty for himself He seems to enjoy hurting hurling them Hates Girls He says he hates hate girls and will never marry He h hates tes love songs and is bashful around grownups He Ho treats hi his father and nis ni's me fine but tut he wishes he had never had any ny sisters He would have ave liked a a brother his own age His only brother is 4 years old He refused school picnic to to go to a Sunday because i-because the girls of of the class were were Included ln He boss bosses his sisters every very minute he is with them V He hates hate school and say he doesn't want to go any any farther than the eighth grade He cant can't get along with pe people has hu only one friend and that Is his cousin of whom he makes a good friend He worships his dog even c calling l ing it love names V He has ninny many good points is honest and dependable He d earned 44 4 and placed it in the bank and he ho he takes very good care care of f his possessions He is Ja a good Boy v Scout Scout and is a n hard worker But I. I that disposition of his what can canS canI I I l do about it I hate to whip him Should I do so Thank you V MRS fl D D. I Y advise you to cooperate with V your our sons son's school teachers and Find out from the schoolteacher chool teacher what his intelligence quotient Is and d whether or not he is isme mentally me capable of going b beyond yond the thc hc eighth grade If It so and it is quite likely he is he ho will find in his high school work those subjects that wUl wIll have decided interest for him Few AFew boys in their early adolescence Lre e interested in the mechanics of tudy but given science art or vo- vo subjects usually there isone Isone is isone one thing or more that will vIll have part particular interest for them Talk privately to the boys boy's scoutmaster scoutmaster scout scout- t- t master about his attitude towards his hb nj younger sisters and brother Tl There I ei in po 0 m mUch ch in the scout code codet t t. t to d l onor kindness kind kind- ness ness toW toward rdV others be emphasized at this time of of the boya poy's life This IJ sadistic tendency of want wanting ing to hurt his sisters and brother c comes me-j. me from rom his sex ex development Wrong impressions probably of shame h e toward the matter of sex have been given the boy and Instead in instead instead In- In stead of his sense of honor and protection protection protection pro pro- toward the other sex being developed In him the opposite emotion emotion emo erno- tion lion Is being fostered Laugh at Love LoveV V Most Jost boys in their early adolescence adolescence cence laugh at love lov stories ba hate the movies that portray love scenes a and d dislike love songs or anything V. V V pe pertaining to love Jove They want to see cowboy movies and should be given stories of ot re real l heroes to read Such boo books as Great Men o of Science SI- SI e ence e st stories ries of explorers such 85 as those thos written b by bS Admiral Byrd concerning his north and south pole explorations We Ve by Lindbergh i magazines magazIn that have real stories of adventure will make their appeal to the honor and heroic nature of ofa a boy I 1 think you shouldn't whip your son His resentment and antagonism antagonism against you would probably be the only result B But t give him to understand that every individual in inthe inthe the family has rights that must be respected In his adult life if it he ho in infringed In- In fringed on on his neighbors neighbor's rights as asbe ashe ashe he be does on those of his broth brothers and sisters the law would operate to tomake tomake tomako make mako him conform There should be bo as rigid a law In the home homo as u In Inthe Inthe the outside world The family is merely a group of citizens operating a community life together and It must be understood that one person has no superior rights over another except as the parents themselves operate the law v. Give him honest praise where praise is due If It he infringes on the rights of the others then he must do pen ce for Cor his act by repaying more than he took And if It he does physical Injury to them his rights and privileges privileges as a citizen in his own home must be denied him He must be taught to obey law Jaw and order in Inthe the home if he is later to obey it in hi civil life Read I Keeping Mentally Fit by Jastrow and books by Galloway OShea Exner on adolescence WHAT TO VEAR WEAR Dear Miss MI Blair 9 Would it be proper for a boy to wear a white whito outfit this early eady Inthe in inthe inthe the spring DOUBTFUL The weather is still subject to so many changes it would seem to be rushing the season for you to wear white this early in the spring White shoes shoe may be worn on warm dry days but It is certain those who Indulge in indulge indulge In- In will have a lot of cleaning to todo todo todo do on on them It depends on how rapidly the season advances as as to when white clothes will be worn But you will see unmistakable signs of It yourself when that time comes |
