| Show Ir RITAL RITAL HAS biAS biAS- DISTRESSING PHYSICAL RESULTS f u r By BETTY BLAIR happinesS has lias never yet had its ori origin in or r been maini main main- fia i the circumstances with which we are surrounded It rests 1 Po physical and mental me t l C condition of the individual and is bolstered by a a sustaining philosophy an active life ILfe nii clem Uy ed to compensate for unavoidable 1 losses s and d dis disappointments Kr r Miss Miss' I 1 became ame ill m And end ft n. n nervous wreck over over m my rny marital mental troubles 01 came to visit my talks folks to try to set get my health back rii and to figure lra out If I I. should hould go KO back bade home homeI I anc and make the best tit of or things or give It up uI as u I bad Job r My problem Is this I. I My y husband was wu only f 17 11 and X I was wa 20 when t We got Bot married 12 years reMS ago anti and he ho has hM been all this time tryIng try- try lug Ing to grow up tip He feels reels he has missed miMed alot a alot s lot of good times freedom free tree dom doni and Antt the sowing of or wild oats oits that men think k so 0 necessary before they can nn down because he married man so young oung Ha He left lert me when we had hid be been beca n married three years but soon loon wanted anted to coma back baek to me We had hatt Our mur first child soon after and 1 thought he would settle down but things have hue gone from bed bad to worse Ho Mo never acts aca like a husband or father but a star boarder and only comes cornea comes home to eat cat and sleep He lie has baa to go out a lot nights night on business bust busi ness nus meetings He never comes home tight right afterward but stays out until tho the wee hours The night i he could stay home with me ho he goes Goe out with his hla bachelor friends and plays golf all tta day Sunday He fe goes to a lot of social affairs on account of business which I Z could go to also but he takes It U for granted mat I should Mould stay Ithome at t home borne end and take uke care of or the children He Ife claims cl we cant can't afford to hire someone to take care of them Also Abo I 1 never neer have the necessary clothes to togo go out But he spends money on liquor and golf goUt When I haTe havo complained about him Staying out so late ho het tells me he Will wIIl go when he ho wants want to and stay as as late as he pleases and If it I Z dont don't like It H. H to go out and make some Bome fun tun for tor myself That he doesn't care what Ido as aa long as I dont don't neglect tho the children or my housework He doesn't seem to want ant a divorce He lie wants want his children and antt home and his good times and ant freedom too I have hUD given him a lot of freedom hopIng hoping hop hop- Ing he would get Ret tired of ot It and nd hove have gone gono ono out and made friends of my ray myown own but he doesn't seem to care where go or what I do I have tried everything to keep our home together on account of or the children but I know they are arc mado ml unhappy because they feel reel there Is something wron wrong With Ith their home Do you OU think it better for a woman with children to sue for separate maintenance or a divorce Hope lope you can soon help me before X z have to leave I dont don't know how bow much longer lonier I will wUI stay slaY here I have enjoyed your Hearts Heart's Haven and antt ra radIo radio radio ra- ra dio programs very much while I have be been n here bere WEARY found the experience and theories of our readers to be In Invaluable Invaluable In In- valuable on vital problems such as yours ours presents Weary Veary and even at the tho risk of the answers not not being published before you leave our city and state we are using your letter as ns tho the weekly problem on which we invite reader answers W Wb Wo shall man mall the column containing them to tottie address you gave and write Forward if it necessary y in the envelope envelope en en- so you w will n be De sure to re receive receive receive re- re It Other women with a similar problem lem Jem have found a wa way to master It Some have been mastered by it and have become nervous wrecks What is it the woman has who finds peace and an active happy life ilfe that the theother theother theother other woman hasn't when confronted confronted confronted con con- fronted with such odds Readers here is a problem that should shoud call forth your most vital interests An An- ewers must reach my desk by Friday Friday Fri Fri- day of this week not later than 10 a. a m. m ACQUAINTANCE PROBATION TION D Dear ar Miss Blair I have been going with a young man mannow mannow mannow now for almost a year We Ve are arc very much in love Jove with each other and he thinks we should be married soon lioon I Z am 19 years old and my mother thinks we should wait walt until we have gone ione together two or three years longer and Md know more about each other We started going together soon after he moved to this state stat with his bis fam fain ily lIf and my parents dont don't know his at aU all Mother Moth r and antt Dad Datt seem to think it is necessary that families know each other before their children should bould think of or marrying each other Mother and Dad kept company alm almost t from the time they were kids until they were married Their families always knew each other and were friends and my ray mother was the tho only girl girt my father ever had He Be says he never wanted any other not even to find hint out by comparison whether or not Mother was the girl he wanted anted Ho Mo says he Just knew without comparIng ing big her to any others except in his mind that she was meant for lor him The boy I Z go with has a good Job JWo Wo Vo would like to get married now Letters Letten questions and requests request for advice to MISS l BETTY BLAIR BLAm HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN THE TUE TELEGRAM SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of tho the paper It I In I ne necessary essar that you epp append nd tho rl right ht name nama and address but these will be held in strict confidence confidence confidence dence and will not In print Qu Questions involving advertising information cannot bo be answered t I I I but I Z promised Mother Z I would write and see sec what you and your readers think about young people going to together together to- to together gether two or three years ears before they are married In order to get better acquainted I Z tell her it seems as if I Z had bad known this boy bor all aU my life me and that I Z couldn't know him any better if I Z went with him a hundred bundred hun bun dred years but she only laughs laugh at that and Md says I will sing a II different tune after fter marriage If any Pony of your readers have had experience along this line I Z wish they would help me too KNOW MY OWN MIND I 1 have before me the results reu of ot a adose dose close study of 1300 couples during the he courtship period The results of ot this examination show that courtships or at least intimate friendshIps of one year or less that end in marriage have very much more unhappy endings than those of two or or more about 20 0 per cent greater Courtships of six ix months are about 30 per cent more likely to have unhappy endings end nd- ings than those of five years and those hose of less than three months 30 per cent greater r than those of two or three years Your fathers father's and mothers mother's life Ufe- time ime friendship the fact that their environment training interests Ideals deals were similar has been the greatest factor in their married happiness I feel teel sure you will not regret it to learn more about your sweethearts sweetheart's famil family his background background back back- ground training and much concerning con- con coni i the similarity of his fam- fam family's s 1 beliefs and standards as compared compared com corn pared with those of your own You I Imay may think you know this young oung i iman man but there arc so many undreamed im- im un-I un dreamed of things thIng people learn I about each other in the Intimacy of I the he married relation that nothing but jut similar background tastes and vital beliefs will help you to under- under stand tand There are ways of becoming better better bet- bet ter cr acquainted all round Induce your our family to invite the family of the he young man to your OUr home to dinners dinners for afternoon engagements and other functions to promote better bet bet- ter er acquaintance and understand understand- Ing ng HALLOWEEN PARTY D Dear ar Miss Blair Do you oU think it two girls of ot 13 years to give a Halloween party of or the tho following type We Wo Intend to hold it In ln a log cabin built especially for parties We are Pore planning to in invite In in- vite six boys and six girls and to have havo hot dogs which we will cook over the fireplace Also marshmallows popcorn pop pop- corn cocoa apples and salted pea pea- nuts Do you think this is all aU right including the number of at guests Please toll tell us whether to send in invitations invitations In- In or not and how to send them and antt also some games to play Do you think we should find a 1 way home for tor our guests or leave that to them They arc are all aU about our size aim but a 1 little older During what hours should the party be given Thanks for tho the Information POLLY AND MOLLY I think your idea for the Halloween Halloween Hallow Hallow- een party very nice providing y you qu u have rave it between the hours of 5 arid and 10 0 and arrange for two of ot the parents par par par- to come for you in cars to see that hat each guest is taken safely homo home The refreshments have the proper roper Halloween flavor and I shall shalle be e glad to send you OU games suitable for or the occasion if you will send a stamped tamped self-addressed self envelope with your request Why not call your guests over the telephone to invite them Or if you wish compose compose com corn pose an original Halloween verse which is mailed on paper designed especially for the purpose with black black cats witches or pumpkins pumpkIn forming a decorative effect |
