Salt Lake Telegram | 1935-11-19 | Page 15 | Humiliating Child Called Bad Method, Needlessly Cruel

HUMILIATING CHILD t CALLED BAD METHOD NEEDLESSLY Y CRUEL Because a method of training has seemed to be successful is not al always always al- al ways a reason for tor retaining it Sometimes with the best Intentions intentions in the world the mother uses methods which are far from being either cither universally good or successful success success- I ful fut fulI futI I feel that is the case of or A AReader AReader Reader who thinks her method has conquered lying She writes I r have three children children children chil chil- dren two girls and a boy and I have had little trouble with lying and as they grow older I had little occasion to doubt their word My method was never to punish them for telling a He lie but to make them acknowledge that they had lied and then reprove them and show them how v unnecessary it was Sometimes when I thought they were not telling the truth I bided my time and maybe by questioning caught them in a lie He and made them admit their guilt After a awhile awhile awhile while they quit lying because they would rather tell the truth than be caught in a lie If It the tho mother actually knew the child lied what satisfaction is there in making malting him admit it Far better better bet bet- ter to just take it for far granted if it she really does know it and say say- It wasn't necessary for you to to say that and then make the ex- ex ex explanatIon she feels would fit the the- occasion If she is in doubt she should i have have- ave faith that the child chU told the truth and let the child learn to rise t to that faith by encouraging laging him not notto to be false to o it The humiliation of the chiy in in- making him confess his guilt Is a satisfaction no parent should de de de- mand By so doing she forces th the child to feel Ills His inferiority his his- mean smallness and this is not not what parents ari for If we parents try to tell tho the truth truth truth-If if we do not make the child afraid of telling the truth by harsh punishments for misbehavior if we try to make him see facts as they appear to le us and not to him and if we furnish him with possessions possessions posses posses- so that he need not manufacture manufacture ture them in fancy in order to be be one with the crowd then we have done all we can as parents to prevent pre pre vent the need for lying