| Show f 1 BOYS BOY DEPENDENCE I ON PARENTS MAKES r FRIENDSHIP F R I EN D SH I P RARE RA R E J J B By y BETTY BLAIR BLAIn j Many any people have recovered from a sense of false pride I J during the depression but there are still those to whom loss of fort fortune e spells disgrace Both attitudes may be carried to the extreme l Dear Miss Blair flair What am I 1 to do I l' l dont don't want to lose lose the friendship of a very boys boy yet I snoW the reason reMon I he doesn't come to ace ece mo oftener la is r because h cant can't cant can't af- af ford tord to to tako me ins I U places It hasn't s been so ao bad d during rui tho the summer be because be- be ill I f LI cause two who wio like I. I I each other very well can have bays a lot lotof lotof a I ILE of fun In an old I I and a gl gallon lon of ot gas gu nut But you youcan youcan yourl I can cant do that In iii the rl winter My friends friend's p parents par par- rents r- r manage to send fiend him to school I but it taker sacrifice on their part pr to do so 60 I 1 realize this and dont don't ex expect ex- ex him ilni to spend money on me I But If I tell him this tIlts ho sort of ot resents re- re enta It to think I z refer to his pov pov- erty k I am at my wits wit's end cud I know this problem 11 has come coins up t v. v In your column before but none of ther the tho r cues b have ve b been blen en exactly like Uke mine This boy hoy has lies formerly worked and 1 made his own money and he lle will not ask uk his parents prents for money to spend on a girl when h he knows Just how hard It Is for them to get enough ahead to send him to school I cant can't blame blamo him for that and I 1 dont don't want him to ask k them for money to show me around But I 1 do want him toJ to J 1 kee keep on coming to see me I He knows that my brother who has hu hasa hua 1 a ft good job go goes out a tIo good deal I and andI I think It hurts his pride that be cant can't show mo me as good a time as u my brother shows his girl cirl You dont don't know how bow I will appreciate P. P date clote any suggestions you OU or OX your f r readers may give me on this problem I wish Ish the boys would also write about It as M their Id Ideas as may help me meto to understand the point of ot view of or ori friend better i ny my boy HARRIET This Is the problem we have se selected se- se T to present to our readers in inthe the hope that they will ill wrestle with It and contribute the results to our column for p publication n on the following following following fol fol- fol- fol lowing s Saturday So many have had this same came situation with which to deal deaf we think surely surely- someone will have brought it to a happy conclusion or has IdeM Ideas as to how this may bo be done The Tho separate and c combined suggestions from readers reader on previous problems given to their care have been of such great greatworth worth orth we feel we wo can cant can't t dispense 1 J. J I j Letters questions and requests for advice should bo he addressed to 1 MISS SS BETTY BLAIR BLAIn HEARTS IIA HAVEN VEN THE TELEGRAM SALT LAKE LAUE CITY Write legibly upon only one ono side sido of tho the paper It Is necessary that you ou append the tho right name and address but these will be held in strict confidence confidence dence deuce and will vill not appear in print Qu Questions involving advertising ad Information c. cannot bo answered 1 I with them Letters for tor publication must re reach ch our desk not later than the Friday following this tion I I HIDDEN MOTIVES Dear flear Miss Blair There Is a young man whom I ad admire ad mire a great grent deal and who has been coming to se me at t Intervals for the past year eAr There Is 15 one thing about him that has hM w worried me and continues con con- to do so He has n a way of ot looking for tor hidden motives cs In everything everything every every- thing I do or say He Re actually tries to trap me by tricky questions into admitting things thing that arent aren't at nt all 11 true but that my unsuspecting ar arrangement nr- nr of words seems to make appear to be true He lie lies has never asked me to go steady yet ho hI shows his resentment of my going out with other young men by this subtle seeking after a chance to find me guilty of or something or other Somehow I cant can't get used to being mistrusted In this manner and each cach time I t fall into the tho trap Maybe that is Js because each trap is Js something altogether altogether altogether alto alto- gether different from any ny other 1 I have hare noticed too that when he speaks of people he has hns hasa a way of mentioning their worst points Instead of best and this has hI hImo mo me worried It loo looks look as If It were my fault to mention the worst that is In this boy but really aside from these things that worry me po so much he has the most charming manners and disposition disposition tion of ot any man I have ever met He Be knows exactly the places a n girl Uk likes to go and he ho treats tents her like a 1 queen during the time they are on parade together It Is wh when n we are at home alone th that t these thele sly little qu questions come that try to trip me up When I 1 suddenly become aware of where h his questions arc arc trying to lead me I be become become be- be come so fiO furious with him and so hurt I X think I 1 will wUl never go out with him again But so f far r I 1 haven't been able to really talk about it with him because because be be- cause X I haven't known what to say or what argument to bring up against it It Can you help me NONA This looking for hidden motives In n friendly acts is one of the surest signs of emotional childishness Itcan It Itcan Itcan can be cured c but first tho the victim of ot this childish regression must be made aware of ot his fault and the paths to which it Is leading him Sometimes it becomes a very difficult matter to talk about personality personality per per- traits to those afflicted H. H A. A Overstreet noted psychologist gist has written a book which h every person interested in knowing the whys and wherefores of human behavior behavior be- be havior should read The name of it is About Ourselves and it is in written in a delightful style and language that the layman can read and understand without difficulty Is 18 s it possible e for you to call this book to the attention of the young man Perhaps s y you u could be casually casually cas cas- rea reading Ung from rom it on a a. a portion I devoted to one of ot your our own outstanding out ut- ut standing faults and say to him I Now isn't that rich to be able to look m myself sel in the face lace like this and see myself M as an others see me Than continue the reading until you have covered his behavior trait Your own good judgment should tell you whether or not to comment comment comment com com- ment or to just let the truth soak in by absorption And if it it doesn't soak and he doesn't se see the necessity necessity ne- ne of becoming emotionally mat mature re in this respect I suggest that you save yourself great mental mental mental men men- tal su suffering ter ng by giving him up as a I I companion DINNER HOSTESS Dear Dear Miss MI Blair I 1 am am to be hostess on my first occasion aces occa i slon sion at a dinner party Since it is the first tint time I 1 am all alt up In the air about so many things The first thing I need to do is collect myself and get self confidence that I can carry It through gh without nw b VU u a a L dozen U mistakes nw b VU u a a L dozen U mistakes Any information you can give me will bo bit most thankfully received NEW HOSTESS I IA A dinner table table illuminated by Y soft candlelight is the perfect setting setting set- set ting for or a womans woman's beauty and charm There Thero must be pleasant conversation at at your table which is s as important as good food Be natural dont don't rush things as hostess S confine the conversation t to subjects tu that t n ii neither ither you nor norr your gUist 1 And 1 if you arent aren't quite sure about the rules of good conduct get a reliable guide book and ind learn about them dr r call meby me meby mey by y telephone concerning the things that hat trouble you most and I shall shaH be glad to help you |
