| Show HOME IS WRECKED WHEN W HEN WIFE WI FE FAILS F A I L S Si i TO BUDGET INCOME 1 B By r BETTY BLAIR It If parents parents' trained th their ir children to drop the possessive j passion and take a compensating pride in becoming capable workers much grief could be forestalled when these same children had homes of ot their own I Dear Miss Blair I am bringing a problem to you that I have struggled with myself ft but bu with h which I II I seem to get nowhere g fl In a way I feel responsible re ic- as I am II the only relative on onI I her side of the family lam fam ily my niece has She came here to V visit me three years Pt ago met a very ery fine young man and marI married mar mar- agil tied ried him She started I out in her first married mar mar- ned ried days by very extravagant She outfitted her apartment with the TOOS ex expensive expensive pensive furniture linen dishes and even bought oil paintings I Iwas Iwas was horrified when later I learned from her that most of these things were bought on the instalment plan as u-h u his s savings weren't sufficient t to cover aU all the costs Ilet her know right there and then how I felt fell about going in debt for tor things but received the cold shoulder for what she ahe considered was none none of oC my business I couldn't afford to lo act hurt toward my niece so kept right on inviting them to lo my house and going to theirs Her husbands husband's friends lcd led a pretty gay life and my niece niec and her h husband band had a ahard ahard ahard hard time trying to keep up with Lizzie Trul Truly my niece tried to outshine e them all all in my opinion for tor she was a lover of fine feathers with all aU the accessories that thai go with them theIr Finally when their creditors began began be gan pressing them her husband tried to call caU a halt on her extravagance extravagance gance but she went right on charging wherever she she could get credit Sh She began coming to me with Ith storks stories about her husband being a tightwad I warned her again that she was waa driving him to desperation and she had better belter lay layoff layoff off on running him so much in debt Her reply was that she had lost her love for h him m and had just justas as well get all she could out of him Last week there appeared in iii the I newspapers s a notice to th the thc effect that her husband would no longer lonser b be responsible for her debts That was the straw that broke the camp camI cam- cam p I F Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S H HAVEN A V E EN N TELEGRAM I. SALT LAKE CITY CITi Write upon only one side of ot the paper It Is II necessary that you append ap p pend the right name and address but these will be held In strict confidence con can and will not appear In print Questions involving advertising adver adu Using information cannot be an an- I el's els back They have separated My niece has come to lo my house to lo live She says sas she will not nol go goback goback goback back east to her father and step step- mother She cant can't do anything to support herself and I am the victim victim vic vie tim of oC her foolishness s. s What do you ou advise advis me to do My husband thinks I am a fool to let m myself be imposed on this way AUNT MINT SALLY And Andall all because your niece couldn't learn earn to live within her income Certainly Certainly Certainly I think with your Our ur husband that you ou would be beery very ery fool foolish h to go on encouraging her in being a parasite with you rou as the victim It isn't showing kindness to her it is merely feeding her w weakness Is Ii it possible you OU to lo have ha a talk with her husband Try 16 to find out if it possible DO whether or 01 not she has killed every vestige of oC his love Jove for or her If It not let her suffer for a ah awhile awhile h while c under your disapproval Insist Inist that she get gel a job of some kind to lo help support herself cv even n if il it must be in your our home Let Lct her learn something of the value of ot a dollar She may in th the end come to prize her husbands husband's love and forbearance She may come corne to eat humble pie and to want him to take her back again when she has learned her le lesson on of livin living within her means Dont Don't be soft oCt and sentimental with her now She needs firmness She needs to learn that she must give something om thing for fer all aU she has received for Cor the home borne she is at present having having hav have I ing with you ou Be businesslike and drive bargains with her So much nuch housework for lor board and room So much extra housework for pay It ma may sound hard particularly when she feels she has been unforgivably unforgivably outraged by her h husband band but bul it t Is t by by- hard methods that thai selfish I creatures must be made to lo feel the they owe something to lo the world W WANTS REVENGE Dear Miss Blair Sc Seeing ing in your our column a letter Jetter from two boys who were fraternity brothers I have taken courage to write m my plea I a also o am a university uni unit varsity boy bor and though I was rushed for lor two Iwo fraternities I was unable to join either The reason is that I couldn't afford aCCord It It I had been going with a girl for over six months She was rushed for tor a sorority sorority so so- and is now a pledge but it seems to fo have hurt hurl her hen pride or something be because ause I didn't go in for a frat I asked her for Cor a date for lor the prom but she was alread already dated up with wilh a gU guy she knows I have no use for I am burned up If Il I didn't like the girl so much I gue guess I couldn't hate her so much for lor ditching me mc melike melike like this What can I do for lor tweet sweet revenge HUMILIATED There are plenty plent of girls left leU who would like to lo go 10 to the prom who haven't yet vet had bids And thou h it t be the eleventh hour I rather ra s sus suspect suspect S you ma may yet et find someone who would accept a last hour invitation O Of course there is the matter maUer of oC being proper properly I gowned which the girl must have lave time to consider but its it's surprising sur surprising what some girls are able to accomplish in the way o of costume designing given a day or two Iwo to lo sort sod arid and nd plan and buy Haven't you JOu a good pal who will come ome to your our r rescue cue Some girl who has las been wishing all along you Oll would ask sk her A A. girl with a real heart inside her for true values One who would realize reaUze just how much you wanted to join the fraternity and for what reasons you had to forego i its privileges And AntI even though you ou may not be beable beable able ble to find such a girl Jirl for lor the thel prom prom I am sure you can do so for lor future events e that thai may already be casting ailing their shadows before And you youn n need ed not nol look outside sororities to find ind one so EO loyal and anti true either if il that hal is any co consolation to lo you This so- so I EO ulion lution may not be such sweet revenge re re- re enge but Im I'm sure it will bring deep satisfaction and that is sweeter than ban revenge an any time lime PET FOR GIFT GIFTA A lovely black tat eat 1 f years old Id fine household pet for child coning corn coni lug lor ng with note from parent offering rood good home Call at t East Twenty Twenty- first South street streeL FRIEND GOSSIPS Dear Miss Mini Blair One of oC the girls girl whom I have thought was my dearest friend has hasI been saying things about aboul me that I arent aren't aren't arent I cant can't help it because a certain boy likes me roe better than he d does docs s her and that is what all the fuss luss is about She just cant can't take lake lakeit it and so IO h has s started saying ca u ugly ly and untrue things thins about mc me What shall I do about aboul it il MITZI Your safest rule is to Ignore it il If Ie there is no truth in the things the girl gal says about you your friends wouldn't believe them anyway and if it you were to try to refute them your enemies wouldn't believe you So just forget torget about It Jt Lies usually find themselves out and often shame the one who started their unsuccessful ful Cui rounds |
