Show EMOTIONAL CONTROL OF OF SOLDIER REQUIRES i SKILL USED IN lN WAR WAI WARt ir-f ir J t By BETTY BLAIR Emotional bombardments can do as much to break breakdown down a per persons person's ons on's morale moral as can the barrage of the front line trenches Control of the emotions is as necessary as is the commanding officers officer's control of his men Dear Miss Blair About eight months ago I 1 met a girl who attracted me greatly from the ver very first She in turn lell Jell fell d deeply ply In love Ii Pr I with me Although Il A we both knew my I r A I income was dent were marr marri mar- mar I I I we vc ri r I F lI ried Beins a rolI rol rol- I I m made dc it il imP S I I ii R IU sible for or me to se seher sec III her her- more than once V I or twice a week f She lives at al home with her parents parent and is Ii finishing 11 ish In g school schoot this year Everything was wonderful up until about a week ago Then one nIght eight when I went to see ec her her- hershe she seemed different She told me we were through that she had never loved me and never would Although Al Although Al- Al though it broke my heart I promIsed promised prom prom- never to see sec her again But I cant can't I keep ep that promise What shall shaH I do BYRON You must musJ admit it il wa was an error In Judgment to marr marry a girl whom you ou could not support who probably was not yet et of oC age and whose adolescent emotions were in a stalest per perpetual motion as are th the emotions of most normal adolescents And now you must face Ice the ordeal of c correcting that error This willbe will vill willbe be perhaps the first real battle you OU have yet tt faced There will be no actual bombs or or machine ma rna chine guns But the bombardment that can against ones one's whole emot emotional entity in a ca case e of disappointed disappointed poin pointed d love particularly where that love has been of oC ones one's wife is almost front frontline frontline a as severe as an encounter in the line Jine trenches However you OU are a soldier and will c conduct yourself yourself- as a sold soldier er should in an any crisis If you were actually ac ac- ac tU put on the firing line and were sent by your co commanding officer over shell holes boles and barbed wire ent entanglements entanglements entangle entangle- ments to lo brin bring back word of the enemy's enemy's enemy's en en- emy's movements you ou wouldn't be guided In your actions by wild and unreasoning emotions You would call forth every iota of your our rea reason reason- on to sec see you ou through You would know that if you ou were the highly emotional type lype who could not nol put your put your emotions under control you ou would be a fit It subject for shell shock Well Vell youre you're going over the shell he holes and through the barbed wire en And you arent aren't going goin going go go- in ing to let the ordeal get you on the way merel merely because you ou think you cant can't go through h with it H. You can if il you ou make up your our mind to lo it iL Your own self respect and pride will vilI expect every ver inch of you to b be a soldier DIVORCE ARGUMENT ARGUl I Dear Miss Blair Blair- The wom women n in our sewing circle Indulged in an argument the other I Iday Iday day ov over r the he growing number of oC I divorces among young married couples Some thought it was bec because because be be- c cause cause e unhappiness among married I couples was on the increase e and I oth others rs argued it was because young roun people married with the thought if marriage didn't work of its own accord accord ac accord ac- ac cord it could easily be dis dissolved in int inthe inthe t the divorce courts What Whal do you think is is' is th th the reason there are arc so many many d divorces amon among young married mar mar- ried nc-cl people Miss Blair THE GROUP Divorce could not be so largely on the increase if it there were not a decay of oC the virtues upon which the family and marriage have been built up namely self sacrifice forbearance and loyalty When our parents and grandparents married they the did so o with no other thought than that they mu must t make adjustments to live Jive happily happily hap hap- together Such adjustments called forth orth the most praiseworthy elements of or character The increase in divorce al also o reflects the growing emancipation of women their easy casy access s to payin paying jobs and the new sense en e of di dignity they fe feel l in connection with this new life VALUE OF MANNERS l Dear Miss Blair My sister is always criticising my manners She says sas they are worse than those of any other member of the family I am a high school boy and have never thou thought hl much about manners since I graduated from the kinder kindergarten class But now I have started taking bIting a girl out and there are I dont don't know about or have forgotten I wont won't ask ad my ray sister to tell ten me as s she would only bawl me out and tell me how bad my manners w were re rend and nd wouldn't probably g give ve me the right answer at alL So please tell teU me th this After a dance when a fellow fel id low takes a girl some ome place to eat cat on h side of her docs does he sit the right or the left leH There are area a Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to MISS l BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S II HAVEN HAVE A V EN N TELEGRAM SALT LAKE CITY Write upon side of the only one paper It 1 is necessary that you ou ap ap- pend the rl ht name and address 5 hut but th ie will ViII be held In strict confidence con con- and will not rot appear I r In prInt Questions question Involving advertising adver Information cannot be an an- I swe red 4 I lot ot t of oC other quest questions ons I want to ask k kyou you but right now I cant can't think o of them all BUD A good plan to help you remember the questions you ou would like Uke to have answered is U to jot them down In a note book as you think of them It is isa isa isa a common experience Bud that boys graduate from their best manners manners man ners at the same ame time they do from kindergarten and that the they begin to brush up on them again as soon as they start going out with girls The Thc young oung lady whom you lake take lo to dine or to party after refreshments is seated seated seat scat ed on your our right Lets Let's have the other questions a as soon as you ou think of them for its it's quite quile true that manners help largely to o make the man The only way we have lave of knowing what goes on in the theother theother theother other persons person's mind is by his behavior be- be havior From the tle way he eats his soup to lo his mentality t and attitudes u toward Ji life e his behavior in other otner words his manners are arc a definite indicator ator The They also alo tell much about a persons person's background So you jou ou see Bud the question of manners is a avery avery avery very important lone one tOG DOG FOR GIFT GIFTA A Cocker Spaniel 2 years ears old must have a new home At present present pres pres- ent it il may be seen at 1129 East brown NOTE TO READERS The book on Modern Manners Manners' may be had b by inclosing 10 cents with your our request to o The Telegram Information Bureau Frederick J J. 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