| Show it t to Marital Happiness Found 1 Wide Personality Differences Relates Experience Similar to That of Sorry and Opines That It Is s Goo Good to See Ones One's Self t- t Fox Terrier for Gift Lovers' Lovers Quarrel By BETTY BLAIR oth th men and women are apt to look on marriage as aser be no great union er er x of personalities but there can ean ean m an individuality permits itself to be ruined The noat noat noat no- no at at ones one's happiness depends on another Is a basic un- un Life is an Individual problem and therefore happl- happl must 1 nut be Others may hamper It b but t in the final sump sumit sum- sum it Is 15 through you not another that happiness up p relation of the No two people can work out a high i thus inner self If either Is sacrificed Blair l' l iu is Just different I I I have seen In Hearts Heart s I In any been married three I yen veil I have years and am coms coming com corn I s 's ing to you ou to admit that I am disappointed I pointed with marriage mar marS I and andi to ask if I 4 there is anything I Ican I can do about it The I cause cause for my Toy disappointment I is this I Before marriage f m my husband husband to be to be g and myse myself seemed Si to have very much 1 J the same tastes sir it that I look back on onit it I can that hat I thought so because he hek het e ek k me Inc to the places where I t ted led to togo go and did the things things' anted Canted to do lIe He studied my mien in iii nearly everything and ltd d it We w hadn't been married long nc wever until he started doing things he liked best going here here nere his tastes led him and if like it I could just sta stay at e. e Now my tastes are rarely ted He goes on about his without asking my opinion c doesn't ask me any more to with him to the places he he hews ws I detest and rarely does ri go Co amiably with me to the ii ices s where my tastes are arc gratE gratE- Can anything be done to conert con con- ert It him hEm to my Thy way of thinking not I fear our marriage must completely on the rocks LAST STRAW e a community of tastes is to Mired in order that the greatest cat teof c at happiness in married life lIte Attained h happiness has been m to result in cases where two were as different as day bIght Such could only be true highly intelligent people whose of j tolerance permitted absolute dom orn om from restriction in tastes and understanding that neither's in ji I duality was to be sacrificed ut this tolerance would have to ude udea a a respect each for or the others other's it t of view without the desire of ot r to make the other over into a alea alea alea lea of himself or herself But Bute e people are unable to have any ct for the ideas or tastes of other otherIe le Ie just because of the mere fact th they y differ from their own i looking back over the first of your married life can you ember ber that you derided your hus- hus tastes dj made him think they t on ana a lower level own b there ther r wedge first driven arate the union A superior at at- maintained de-maintained by you thereafter d have hav entirely separated the sec see of f your regard for each other nay may be possible yet for you to toon toon on on cri an attitude o of tolerance with with- the theo least leut bit of superciliousness d your your husbands husband's tastes and fens rons Could you learn to value Blue e they came from him not mot just for what they were bIn themselves not want to make your hus- hus d rover dover over That would be a n of something thing in him that would ct et from his individuality individuality some some some- J that nothing could replace But possible ible real tolerance ht nim Im to be tolerant and md bd the mere fact that you could i be e generous with wilh each others other's rests ests would draw you ou closer to- to r. r ely rely this l. l Is a happier ending Td which to look than a marital would be Miss Blair II I head read the letter of Sorry the wod little bad girl who really be bad if it she tried and like to tell her my race nee You are right Miss Blair L laying that nearly all young pIe J iO go through a period when think oh if they co could ld only e eak bounds and do as they r- r e a. a Well I Iwas was one of these ought nought cheap thrills could sails satis- ne me really I-really didn't know how p they were until I tried out Then I discovered as rry ny did Jid that my ray best bet friends disgusted with me They at show me that to my ray face i behind my back they talked ut n me Finally the things they d can came back to me It is a 1 good thin thing once In a n e C to see ee you yourself as others YOu It certainly gave me a ure nrc of myself that I would er have ve dreamed existed ray has has just jUit had the first of seeing herself as others her She can change the he lea lea- 5 i H back ack to its original con con- tout f gut j It will take time The I Picture one gets Beta of distorted I Lures r that they had believed I t COmely ly is as great a shock I an one ca can can have I feel for SORRY TOO I daughter of a bankrupt Who hl came to be queen o of I through marriage manage to Louis Lou s I made the assertion There nere is 15 isthan Cleverer Cleverer- than irreproachable I iut shel years later sh she d During that ten y years ar arPP every opportunity PP t to retrieve ej and those of her father fathe bi which would have lowered I WU estimate of at herself She ac I ac-I none of at them I true ue that virtue apparent rewards It need them It sells on its lisI and is its own reward Letters questions and requests requests re reo re- re quests for advice should be addressed addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is ls necessary that you ou append append ap ap- ap pend the right name and address address ad ad- dress but these will be held in io strict confidence and will rn n mt nt t appear in print Questions involving involving in in- advertising information 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