| Show Come to- to VEN H HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN S EAR T With Betty Blair Affairs of or tho the heart and kindred problems ONLY will bo be discussed n this department Letters Questions and i for advice nd should bo addressed cd to MISS BETTY BETT BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN HA TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly lc upon only ono sido of tho the paper It Is necessary that you jou ou append tho the right name namo and address but theo will bo be held In tn strict confidence and nd will by no means appear In print Letters requiring personal reply must be bo I accompanied by stamped self addressed envelopes en Ed Ed C MARRIAGE AND RO ROMANCE Dear Miss Blair I think Sald Nu was a little hard on Hetty For my part I think romance Is something that departs de dc parts from rom all marriages The woman woman woman wo wo- man who Is thrown cons constantly In other mens men's company compan Is apt to see sec one whom she thinks might have hae kept romance ro ro- mance alive all If she had married him Then If this man thinks the same oCher of oC her and makes love lo to her she he Is apt to be swept off her feet e t. t It is the thc most natural thin thing in the world for or women to want love and appreciation They have to be told about it frequently or they get Iet to thinking they ought to go 10 in the garden garden gar gar- u. den and cat eat worms And if a man loses his wife through h neglect to keep her thinking thinking- she is the only woman In the world whose fault bult Is it If It her husband flirts around with ruth other women she has bas a perfect right to flirt with men If It the little game is carried on harmlessly no one is the worse off oU If It can keep romance alive ali the they are all aU better off for or there is nothing like a thrill to give Jhc a person person per per- son renewed interest In 11 thing liing in After all an I dont don't think Hetty Is the really reany bad kind She may be foolish fool ish but she is just striving ln after something better belter than what she chose In the first place She doesn't doesn seem to know yet ct what life Ufe is all about It may nay take one jolt after ano another her to teach her What seems to her romance romance romance ro mance may mar be just another rat trap What hat I ask Is Is Why Shy docs does romance have ha to die after marriage ME TOO But does docs it Too often we confuse an effervescing sort of the halo round your our head sort of thing with wilh real romance There is romance f In n every adventure of life if we have havethe the thc e eyes es to see the ears to hear and the sensibility of feeling to enjoy The trouble with most wives and husbands is that a drive up the canyon is well is-well well just another drive a new picture in the house is just so much wall vall space covered a flower lower garden gardenin in the back yard is just a lot of work with somebody else's garden carrying o off the prize Romance hasn't fled from marriage But married couples too often lose their sense of oC enjoyment their keenness keenness keenness keen keen- ness for real living their capacity of enjoying things together They Toey form the habit of ot thinking that 1 If things were cre just a little different from what they are arc they could be happy They dream that happiness like prosperity is just around the corner There is romance in a daffodil if Jf you ou know how to discover disco it there in ina ina a trip in the hills hilts to see the plant and animal life in a playful k kitten in the baby's first tooth Exotic glamorous thrills can kill romance And when this high tensioned thrill is gone ODeis one ODe is blinded to the common simple beau beautiful things of life Romance is in your our home in your our family in your our own I little yard ard if you haven't driven it to suicidal lengths An excursion within these nearby realms will vill discover its intermittent inter Inter- glow providing your jOUl heart is in tune tunc to find it FRIEND TELLS TRUTH Dear Miss 1 Blair What would woud you do in a case of or this kind My 1 best girl friend has taken m my best bo boy friend from oni me mc I wouldn't mind that so much in spite spile of or tho ho fact bet that I liked him a lot If It she had done it in a fair aIr manner Instead Instead In In- stead she told him certain things about me that have ha made him think I am not good enough for him These things were lies cs She doesn't know that I know she shedid dill did this but I found it out through a friend of ot his who has hall never nc liked my girl tirl friend What would you ou do if you ou were I Shall Shan I go 10 to him and andell ten tell him these things arc are all lies Shall Shan I t tell n her I know what she has said So and demand an explanation and andin an in apology or shall I try tr- to forget or the he whole and not treat her any iny more as a friend UNDECIDED We paint our own pictures with the he thought we express about others I If f the girl friend has the nature that hat will wilE place a friend in the wrong to o gain her own ends her own pie pie- lure ture ure will vill sooner or later loom in full fullview fullview view of or those with whom she is in converse She thinks it il Is your our picture pic- pic I lure ture she is painting though paInting though she I knows it is done in false colors colors but but when the canvas is finished she and everyone else will know it has been her own Need you do anything at all know- know knowing knowing ing ng this If she were continually wronging you jOU and infringing ing on your rights if she were jeopardizing your our ur happiness by her false reports the he thing to do would be to speak to her about it But is she Will this his little experience be a lesson in wisdom to you ou both A QUESTION OF HONOR Dear Blair Will Sill you ou please settle an m argument Who Vho h has baa more honor a professor proCessor who works wrestler who mentally or a 1 works physically I mean who has hashe the he higher standards SAM Honor is not a matter of vocation but ut of ethical training and the ability abil abil- ity ty to use it in a crisis or under ordinary ordinary nary circumstances We live today in n an age where brain is given the precedence over brawn It is the brains rains of the world out of which civilization civilization has grown But the two should go hand in hand for brain without brawn is in most cases helpless help- help less les ess and vice versa And it is the brains of the world that have set the standards by bj which we are judged Yet it takes all kinds to make a world and the wrestler with brains has his place to fill as well as has the professor proCessor sor with wilh brawn But the latter undoubtedly un Un- has done more for the world and its uplift than has the for for- mer POLICE DOG FOR ron GIFT Call CaU Hyland I Exchange for information concerning a 1 months 5 old police do dog to be bc given ghen away TREATMENT FOR STY Dear Miss Blair lair This spring I have ha had one st sty after aCter another on my eyelid Please tell ell me what to do for them Thank you ou TRIX A st sty that has been caused by the presence of some foreign substance at the root of the e eyelash elash may receive home treatment Pull out the eyelash eyelash eyelash eye eye- lash nearest to the sore spot apply several hot compresses of boric acid solution also bathe the eye and the lids in the same solution Apply a little yellow oxide of mercury about 1 per cent and then massage gently gentl with clean finger tips This will check the development of the sly sty However in your case ease where you ou are much troubled with sties you should consult consulta a physician ician THE TIlE TEA WAGON Dear Miss 1 Blair My Ily in inlaw and I have ha been having ln an argument She says a tea wagon Is not in the thc very cr best taste for serving sor Will you ou please tell teU us hats hal's what hat in re regard ard to this Thanking you ou ELISE From an ultrafashionable ultra point o of view the tea wa wagon on is an unacceptable able piece of furniture but from the point of view of the hostess in a ser ser- house it t is an indispensable aid A plain three three shelf shelf stand with witha a back with the open side toward you is considered a still better piece of furniture Dress goods this year eom eem designed to dress up the house quite as much muchas as the ladies in it For a living room that is sunny itself some of the new striped linens in rust golden yellow and brown make handsome drapes For a room that is really modern one of the new diagonally striped red and white cotton make appropriately ga gay Th This s material lends I itself to original valance treatments I neat tiebacks and even flounces all pleated and chic |
