Show m TO HEARTS HEART'S HA VEN BETTY BETrY BLAIR BLAIR- IJ J Affairs of ot the heart beart and ad kindred problems ONLY will be discussed I i in to this department Lct Letters questions Question and nd request requests for advice ad should be addressed cd to tor r MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE i Write legibly upon only one side of or the paper 1 It Is necessary that you append the right ht name nl and address but these will be held bed In strict confidence and imd will Mil b by no means appear Ed QUESTIONS S BOYS BOY'S SINCERITY ear Cr r Miss Blair tat U t Christmas time I 1 went to visite visit me se e of in my relatives es and while white there pact tt et quite a number of boys One look took cc Int I them especially my eye cyc nt nJ say MY I felt fell in love lore with him at ii sight but c cry time I see the f ri I have ha a funny feeling feeling- I haven have ten n out with him a number of times id I each uch time he asks me if jf I haven have Knout n out with an any other boys boy If IC I say sayres sayes res es eJ he doesn't seem to like It If IC j y 7 Why do you he just says sas he be want me mc t to po go O with them II I Itel tel I just the same about him and like to have ha him going with wither er r girls IrIs He also gets peeved pee when I Ii i receive rive eJ letters from other boys bos For o a while he be came ever every other IrM lit to see sec me nie Now he comes only ice e or twice a week I asked himy him fay y he didn't come oftener and he heAd hethe Ad tiel the be he didn't want mo me to 10 get tired of ofIn 40 In L D you OU think he cares for lor me inc or ori i you ou think he Is trying to Iced feed meline me inc meline line ne I 1 have told him that I like likeL m. m L Do you think he cares for me or ras as much as he docs does for lor me u very cry much RAE RitE iRae Rae i l it is impossible for lor me to low IW whether your young man is eding ding you a line or not You tell nothing about him e except the fact at It L he d displays sp ays a J jealous alou disposition d that he tic has hIlS told tORI you ne he cares rot for u. u Jealousy is not always a sign sigr I love As a rule jealousy arises im a the desire to possess The person ering most from its pangs is he hc 10 15 is not sure of his own powers may feel leel that he hasn't the l charms or the intellectual keen keen- ss 55 to hold the object on whom hi his lotion is focused And because of ol knowledge of his own o ns as LS he fears continually that some some- e may come along to rob him of ol it which he would possess t tall aU all simmers down to the fact fad that inferiority complex inthe matters sex cx is the prime cause of jealousy e jealous man as a rule has lost in his powers to hold thee the thc e C of the woman he would possess presents a n very difficult psycho- psycho leal cal problem since there seems tono to tc tono no rio cure for his malady Jut ut you OU also are jealous of your nd rid This means also that you fear i 1 may lose him rum Does Docs it mean you ou L feeding him a line I If not why 1 you iou ou suspect him of insincerity We Wc Wee e you will not encourage the sus sus- ious lous mind in yourself Unfounded I pI lons of others can cnn bring you a ait at it deal of ot misery as well as grief if you give yourself away asay ry to rid yourself of jealousy jealous To Toso Too Toro so ro o will vill make you add strength to tor r physical and mental charms The way to be rid of showing jeal jeal- f is t to be more sure of yourself the only way to be more sure is your our knowledge knowledg of life Ufe people and events to take an in in- st in what is going on about you y I yourself in int interesting resting pursuits LEAP YEAR YEAR QUERY r Mis Blair Imo amo girls have asked me to a a. party told me to bring bringa a partner There I boy whom I know and like and I talk when shen I 1 see sec him in I oL Ot lie He has 1115 ne never neer er asked me to go place with him but I should like to this party Do you think ot ld be all right I wouldn't want to think I 1 was trying to get him b st steady ady Please tell tel me what 10 lo LILA cap ap year is the thc only time that a girl Jd Lid have have an excuse for inviting a who had not previously Invited her to a party EvenI Even I rit it depends upon the th degree o of ot between you ou and this boy your ability to present the thc mv- mv an In n In such manner that he will vill w it is from one friend to and not as a lead for other dates dales ou Ott can explain the thc situation tion to him say merely that you ou would like like lave ave him go Co as ns your partner if It helId he heild lId ild like to go Then it is up to to see that he is fittingly enter enter- ed The boy should of course sider it a privilege to be invited may not do so or he may have a excuse for lor not accepting Ither case there will vill we e hope be 1 ie IC other boy whom you can ask who vho will gladly accept r S A SIMILAR CASE CASI ir Miss Bleir then rhen I read Marts Marls letter toLd's to Lits Lit's Haven Ha It Ii struck me that his tty jay own case were very similar 3 1 I should like to say a few words Wn I have been going with a girl t the e list last five fhe years not years not steady but and nd on until lately Wo We have both 4 I our l love v for each other by going with other boys and girls and have LIly illy come to the thc conclusion that ere care eno enough eh for each other to icy ry row tow she has fuLs told me certain things Ich cb If it they had come from others uld idd have bave lowered her ber greatly In estimation As it is coming from and admire her more than r r. r Neither one of us has been or now angels anels I 1 think it pays pas for a aing aLag Lag ing couple to be perfectly frank h each tach other Then If either Is the who cannot endure things that rat ht come up nf after r they are arc married belter to know this before they U e down for life lire anyone anoe who is man enough woman enough to own up to his nor her faults It t takes kes a good person keep his faults to himself but it w fI better one to admit them If u rot lag r people would be bo more frank iii i each other before marriage I D ek ak there nere would be more happy happ mages than there arc now Want Vant to thank for Seventy Niner forror Or r her her letter letter r to your column n of modern youth I think Vs rl a wonderful letter j i TWENTY l l. 1 exchange of confidences has an gether different effect on the thc two I than has the confession of l to an another ther innocent l it of ofa a like This Thi we discussed in yester r rs r's colum When one only has a to make snake he places himself ne e others other's power And 1 if that othI oth oth- oth I and of a lature v there can never ever be happi- happi between Between them Jv the where each cach discloses to I Ither the innermost secrets of at his and ancl they are arc of a similar nature N e confidantes themselves do not splitting hair differences ber be be- r l lone on one mistake and another there teat at probability tha that their love carry them over O the thc rough places that at they find may as much hap e I. I as is their allotment in life Happiness is not riot to be found outside oneself Any two who recognize this will vill get their share S THEATER ETIQUETTE Dear Miss UIs Blair I am a little hard of hearing and when I go o to the talkies and someone near me rattles a paper bag with candy in it or explains to his partner part part- ner ncr about the picture or whispers aloud the thc script I invariably lose Jose what Is said b by the thc actors This annoys an m- mno's nays noys me terribly I pay my money togo to togo togo go there to hear and see sec the thc performance performance perform perform- ance and I think should be more considerate of others In this regard Would It be improper for me to ask the thc people who continue to tomake tomake tomake make noises all aU through the show not to do so 80 Thank you MR B. B entirely within your rights to ask politely that your our neighbors give you an opportunity to enjoy the thc performance If you dislike doing so speak to the usher and let him call th their ir attention to the thc fact that they are disturbing other guests Some people are to so unconcerned about other peoples people's rights in this re rc gard ard it should not be amiss to gently remind them of their offense NOTE TO E M. M M MAll All AU requests for circulars must be accompanied by stamped self ad dressed envelopes for their return Kindly send us yours for lor the thc circular on the treatment of graying hair with I rte age and black tea tet as s wo we do not print prini the formula In the column |