Show COME IE TO I HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN i With BETTY BLAIR Affairs or of tho heart beart and kindred problems ONLY will bo discussed In n this deportment department Letters question and requests for should bo addressed to MISS DEITY BETTY BLAIR GLAIR HEARTS HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LA- LA LAZE LAKE Write legibly upon only ono one of or the paper It Is as necessary that you u append tho right name nome und and address but these will bo be held In to strict confidence and t will by no means menns appear in print Ed SORRY FOR CONFIDENCE Dear Miss I Blair I hope you can help me out of ot my trouble It Is a awful to be in love and to feel leel that the one you jou ou love lo and who once loved you has grown cold I went with a a. boy for eight months We fell feU In love with each other right from the first time we c met lie He was a very fascinating fascinating- boy bor and md made me know for tor the very ery first time what It really meant to be In n love I knew that he had gone out with other girls and that there here had been one In particular whom he had liked vcr very much One ni night ht when we were both telling each other about differ ent girls and boys bos wo we had gone ou out with I asked him about this girl At first he didn't say a word just sat there Then rhen he put his head headin headin headin in his hands hands' and told me the whole story lie He had lived Intimately with this girl for over a year and then her they had broken up I think he be still is In love loye with her He lIe must be for lor forever forever ever since he confided In me he has been cold not so toward me has me-has has come often to s see sec e me and has acted when ho he did come come come-as if r he were bored I am ant certainly luh sorry he told mo me anything any any- thing about himself sorry that 1 I asked wl when ri he be told me mc I felt repulsed hut but since then I know that I love lo him Wm enough that I cant emt give him up without a great deal den of suffering And since I do love him so much I wish I didn't know this part of or his past life I am wondering too if the tho very verv fact bet that he has told fold me hasn't had had had- something something- to do with his pre present ent attitude toward me Can Cnn you help me SORRY From the psychological point of view i if a n girl wishes to keep the love of oC her beloved she had better not ask him to tell teU her all about his past life lite She may TELL him about himself himself him him- self so long as she keeps off aft of forbidden forbid forbidden den ground he will wiil like that but it itis itis itis is a mistake for Cor her to ASK him to tell telI her You are right in supposing that his confidence has turned from you Confidences have the effect of doing just that Whether two people are in love with each other or not if they are arc aregood aregood good friends only and md one is lured into into c confiding in the other the one who gives away his secret feels a n withdrawal from the other in point of sympathy and understanding He actually actually actually ac ac- ac- ac comes to dislike the person who holds his secret as much as he would do the person who had stolen his greatest treasure and from whom he had no means of regaining it On the other hand the recipient of the confidence after aneL the first feeling of shock or repulsion feels more and more drawn toward the person who has put into her care the jewel of his innermost heart She becomes Irresistibly irresistibly ir Ir- irresistibly resistibly attracted toward him Her emotional and instinctual powers of sympathy and understanding and love are put in action and keyed to the utmost pitch But she makes her greatest mistake in letting the other know that she condones his past This weakens her in his estimation I The proper thing for her to do tinder un un- under under der such circumstances is is' to behave as if the confidence did make a difference difference difference dif dif- dif dif- ference to her Yet she must not talk about it That is a mistake that mistake that is fa fa- fa tal tat She must behave as if the spectre that loomed between them were not there She must not dig it up and bury it with rites every time her jealousy jealous or anger is aroused In your own case if this boy still loves the other girl it is far better so far as your our happiness is concerned that he marry her My advice is that for the present you do not meddle with the situation Give time an nn opportunity opportunity opportunity op op- to make adjustments It may be bc that he hc is not really in love with the thc other girl and that his attitude at at- is nothing more than the reaction tion resulting from the confidence Introduce a new line of entertainment entertain ment for your friend when he comes to see sec you Let it be something that will take you away from irom thoughts and associations of the past In forgetfulness forgetful forgetful- ness only does your our one hope lie of ot making him again agnin yours TIPPED RED NOSE Dear Miss Blair My 1 nose gives me a a. lot of or trouble It Is red tipped red and I promise you no not from Crom drinking Please tell me mo what todo to todo do about it Thanking you ou BETH The blushing nose Beth is a 3 amark amark mark of digestive disturbances rather than the transgressions of the law regulating reg reg- ones one's choice of beverages A Acup Acup Acup cup of strong steaming hot tea or ori Forree coffee w will ll illuminate certain noses quite as much as would the rarer drafts It all depends upon the nose itself and the functioning of the digestive di di- esti e tract r that goes gocs with it So the first thing you have to do is b to forego the foods that cause digestive disturbances Take plenty plent of exercise exer cise in the open air and nd see to it that thai your circulatory system is in good working order When you cleanse the face do It gently with warm water followed by bya a cold rinse or with cleansing cream followed by a tender patting with the theold theold theold old reliable witch hazel diluted about with water one half TO CHECK STORIES Dear Miss 1 Blair I have been going with a certain bo boy for about a year car now I like him ver very much but there is one thing about l him m that disgusts me He lIe knows I dislike this particular fault and andret yet ret ct he continues to annoy me with it It t Is this lie He Insists on telling me risque stories What can I do to break brcak l him m of this habit Thanking you for any suggestion DONT LIKE EM I. There is a 3 simple formula you can use if it you wish to avoid being risque stories stones Unknown to himself the subconscious subconscious subconscious cious purpose of the is to cause Cluse his listener embarrassment If he he ic succeeds his object is It is therefore necessary for or you to become immediately embarrassed em cm- to stop such stories If you seem to be amused at such stories they will continue and become more nore and more potent until at last you ma may become really embarrassed If f you can blush at will or otherwise simulate embarrassment it is better that hat you play the part early in the game Iame or when the story first begins than ban to wait until the climax is reached WEDDING ANNIVERSARY Dear Miss 1 Blair Please tell me mc what the forty fifth wedding anniversary is b. Many l thanks GEN The forty fifth lh wedding anniversary anniversary anniversary sary is the sapphire One gives blue things of every description from blue vases chinaware and costume jewelry jewel jewel- ry when one cant can't a afford ord real sapphires sap sap- to sofa sora pillows of blue cloth woven with gold thread and bluish flowers lov i- i SALTS BATHS DATOS Dear Miss 1 Blair I have been told that there was as great value valne In the Epsom salts bath Will you yon please enlighten me on the facts Thank you MRS 1 T T. The Tho Epsom salts bath stands in a class by itself because of its tonic qualities and the fact that it is excellent excellent excel excel- lent for correcting an acid condition of the skin It is supposed also to soak out impurities and is consequently good for rheumatic tendencies The bath of Epsom salts is supposed also to be slenderizing when taken very hot but if so it could only be beo beto beto to o a slight degree and md then only if you wrapped yourself in a n blanket Immediately immediately immediately im Im- mediately afterward and got into a n profuse perspiration |