Show m m. m m COME OME TO TO TO- HEARTS HA VEN With BETTY BLAIR BLAIR- Affairs of tho the heart and kindred problems ONLY will be to discussed in this department t. t Letters QUe questions and requests request for tor advice should hould bo bl addressed to MISS DEITY BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM S SALT LT LAKE legibly upon only one elds of tho the paper It Is necessary that you ou append th the right nomo namo and aDd I address but these will wUl bo held In strict confidence and will wUl by br no means appear In print Ed FRIEND LACKS LACIS INTEREST Dear Miss Blair Last Lut summer I met a boy at a dance and later I v rc very fond of him He lie was going away and asked me t to correspond with him He lie wrote m monco me meonce meonce once and I answered his s letter buI but bu butI I did not receive a J. J reply to tG mine minD Later the da day after aUer he had bad returned I met him again nt at a dance He Jle explained cx ex his not my letter lette by saying he had h never received it We Wc started going together again and bc became me very er close friends anc and he proposed to me rue I knew v mother would object to an engagement anc and told him so I am quite young oong and used this as the thc reason for her ob I asked him to wait walt until June and Id I'd consider it again He lie said he would wait walt but that he not stay here to see me inc going out with other fellows lIe He has bas been gone tone a month now and hasn't written written writ writ- ten me a line to tell cli me where here ho is b staying or what he is doing Do you 00 think h he will ever come back I love him too much to ever think of losing him I dont don't go with other fellows Ive I've tried going out oat but bat they bore borc me What can un I do JERRY JERRI Every woman must learn to endure en dure the pangs of love and md to act outwardly outwardly out out- ardly as if IC nothing was happening to 10 upset her entire world She must keep up appearances she must be beKay Kay gny she must not lose self respect t tto to the extent that she could become an object of pity She must fill her waking hours with work and interests that will demand her attention If a woman permits herself to become become become be be- come a victim to the circumstances of love she becomes the most forlorn creature Imaginable Since love is the most potent force on earth its presence when mutual can carry one oneto oneto oneto to the heights but when lacking entirely entirely en en- or unreciprocated urn it can drag dragone dragone dragone one down to the nether re regions ions That Thatis is why one should go into training to prepare oneself against loves love's onslaughts onslaughts on on- and the emotional instability instability ity it is likely to impose on one It is true we cannot escape love al 31 altogether altogether al- al together but we can c-an escape being victimized by it Spending time moaning moan moan- ing ng over a n lost love is nothing more than encouraging a complex and every ev cv- cry ery modern girl knows knO what an enemy a complex is to her youth and her vigor and her beauty It can bring more wrinkles in a month than she in a year of placid liv liv- ing irig It can encourage an ugly droop to the corners comers of the mouth It can dull the eyes and because of the internal in chemical changes taking place can make the hair lose its luster Who wants to be the kind of creature one will be if left to the ravages of love Snap out of it Jerry If you are bored by other boys you arc are partly to blame Everybody has something of interest about them if it you oU will trouble yourself to find out what it is If It it be true that A bore is one who talks about himself f when you ou want to talk about yourself then you ou must learn to be not only ly a good listener but to be bc tactful in getting your our own hearing bearing and then to be considerate in relinquishing the time to him when it is his turn And Jerry we think you are arc not really in love with this indifferent transient at all You are only in love with ith love and he is the only accessible accessible sible one to give a 3 good imitation How can a 3 man today pick up and leave town give up his work and arid his his associations all for love 10 If It he is is the he sort of boy who tho when a little obstacle ob ob- ob stacle tacIe comes his way can flee from it he lie is surely not the thc sort of boy you ou want to marry Real men stay on the spot and overcome obstacles Take deep breathing exercises morning and evening Play basketball basketball basket basket- ball or go skating or hiking or skiing ski ing lag and arid breathe in huge quantities of ozone and you will feel better And when the old longing comes back buck go and bury your head in a pillow if you will and have a good cry it will act as a 1 sort of safety valve then ther powder your our nose and smile and carry carryon on It will make a woman o of you WHEN WIlEN TO BEGIN STEADY Dear Miss Blair I am 16 years old and fairly good toad looking I have been out with a n number of at boys bos and find that I am pretty well liked or liked or seem to be beb beby beby be be- b by all of them However these boys seldom ask sk for a second date Nor have I ever had a boy ask to go Uto steady with me rae Do you ou think I am too young t to go to steady with sith a boy If U so when Is the proper time to begin begin be be- gin In this procedure I wonder about abou this question quite often because I I feel that I would like to have ha one certain boy to whom I could be a arca areal J. J rca real friend Thanking ThankIng- you ou PAT Some girls at 16 are much older than others Pat But you ou should be thankful if your chronological years do not measure beyond your biological years for then you remain young much longer as a rule The Theirl girl irl who at 16 assumes all the responsibilities re rc and activities of the 18 and find year old girl has by the thc time she he should be enjoying life at 18 and 20 lost the ability to do so Her thrills brills are arc all burned out Sixteen should hould be a preparation for 18 and 18 8 for 20 and so on there is why But Pat Pat no reason you should not have boy friends who come to lo see sec you again and a again ain at 10 fl You have the privilege always ah of inviting your friends to your our home and providing entertainment for them hem Make them so welcome and have lave such interesting things for them themo to o do when they get there that they wIll vill want to come again But it is wise in the beginning to invite both boys and girls and l if among mong them there are one or two who make it known that they enjoyed the evening tremendously they will not hesitate to tell you so and to wish to return the compliment Young girls and nd boys should not stand so much on n ceremony They should pIa play spontaneously spontaneously spon spon- together There should be many activities to bring them together er r both in work and nd in play But someone has to assume the responsibility responsibility of seeing that there are such activities Why not organize yourselves your your- selves elves into clubs of various kinds kinds- art rt clubs photography clubs outdoor activity clubs radio clubs gun clubs practice with a 22 rifle is excellent excel excel- lent sport With so many interests or with one interest only for recreation outside your our regular school work and activities ties ics you should not want for friends to o come conic regularly to see you ou This forms the right kind of background for or the time later on say on-say say when you youre ou are re 18 or 20 for one of the young men whom you know real well to ask to togo togo togo go go stead steady VALENTINE GIFT Dear Miss US Blair What does a L girl lrI give dve her boy friend for or a valentine Thank you JUST aiE ME It is not good form for a girl to toive give ive the friend boyfrIend gifts of ot intrinsic value aluc Her photograph a box of homemade confections a book a subscription subscription sub- sub to his favorite magazine a handmade silk handkerchief monogrammed mono mono- rammed an invitation to breakfast or r dinner these dinner these arc some of ot the ex ex- of regard suitable for Val Val- entine ntine TOASTS TO WOMEN Dear Miss Blair Can you ou help me to locate a toast to o the women that begins with the theine theline theline line ine Oh Ob the rudeness of their rudeness rudeness rude rude- ness when they're rude and lOd ends with something s about the badness of f their badness when they're there bad Thank you JAKE Not much incentive Jake for tor me rae meo meto raeto to o try to locate a toast about the thc women that begins and ends so un un- un- un flatteringly However in the search Ive I've discovered that you ou have two toasts mixed and that one of oC them themis is s more hopeful To uTo the Women Oh the gladness of their gladness when they're glad and the madness of f their madness when they're mad but ut the thc gladness of their gladness and the madness of their madness are as nothing to the badness of their badness when they're bad The nicer one yet one yet not too nice nice nice- reads cads Oh the shrewdness of their shrewdness when they're shrewd and the thc rudeness of ot their rudeness when they're rude but the shrewdness shrewd shrewd- ness of their shrewdness and the rudeness rudeness rude rude- ness of their rudeness are arc as nothing to the goodness of their goodness when they're good NOTE TO IVY Our r circular Games for Children has bas at the end of the del described games a long list of books that may be had hac at the public library describing Gam games s for every occasion Will you send a no stamped self addressed en en- clope for the circular |