Show OME O IE TO- TO WARTS WART'S HA VENi With Will BETTY BLAIR BLAIR Affairs of ot the heart and kindred problems ONLY will be discussed 1 this department Letters questions and requests for tor advice should shoud bo addressed ed to n BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE rite legibly upon only ony one side of oX the tho paper It Is necessary that you append the tho right namo name and address but ese will be bo held In strict confidence and anti will wUl by no means appear I print Ed TEND D THINKS HER SILLY r Miss fiss Blair kin in madly in love with a n boy whom t last May We went steady aUer aU all Bier iier er and he hc took me Inc to several sc es sand rand and parties At night on the home he would sing to me liefold lie He told fold me several times Umes that he hed heI d I me mc vent pent to o Los Angeles for my vaca vaca- and mid when I came back he paid to me for tor four tour or more ks s. s 5 Then things went just as they dono in the summer time Now In n however he be is paying me no Uon Once in a theater heater he called and it IL hurt me mc deeply se e e tell ten me rue what to do to win himor him himor or I think I shall lose my mind BUNNY ow w that would be a silly illy thing 0 o to lose your mind because you have hare the friend boy-friend you ted Maybe if you OU weren't so sok Be k minded he would like you bet bet- 14 Themore more you entertain the idea Lyou you cant can't carry on either men men- V V. V or physically because of theof the theof of certain friendships or theof the theof of ot anything for that matter ex ex- your your own health and mentality more Imore more you exhibit your frailties rhy y will girls be silly Soly So Soy iy y ly boys think they are that there ft t be something to it il Wh Why dont don't exercise their brains once in a ae aeno aleno no le-no e no e-no no I mean regularly instead regularly instead owing their emotions to carr carry carryn n away They sit and dream and n and moon over lost loves ind in in- ind d of doing something to improve selves so that not only one boy but many people will r them worthwhile and seek r r company I know boys who whore re declared themselves to be pern per- per n on the bachelor list be be- IBe ie they cant can't find sensible girls term they use most often in b ng the undesirable ones is FOW ow if tf I didn't know all nit you OU girls gins Well yell I 1 wouldn't dare to scold you oU i this Forget the boys for a while IiI til 1 you get a n few ideas into your ids i. By that time you may be sure boys bos will come seeking you ou you youat at t need to be hatching schemes them C f course I know that you arent aren't lly ly sill silly at all but you do give givet t impression at times You chatter chatter and never say anything try to be clever when you really tit nt at all Men dont don't like clever I nen Sen They arc are afraid of them h th less do the they like the girl who s g. g to be clever and cant can't The merest crest woman is she who makes man feel he is the clever one l try to make impressions either cither affected manners o or OI speech and only result is that you impress pIe pic le wi with h the idea that you are areng areng areng ng to make snake an impression You the manners of others instead of li ig yourselves ourselves Your only read read- material consists of silly love s. s iris dont don't be emotional dont don't be ic ie Work for emotional stability balance Try to se see the hu humor Cr lie Ife Laugh J at nt yourselves once in m Promise yourselves ourselves that will not waste one precious min min- of your time in bewailing your love Make up your minds ind ind in in- d to make him sorry he didn't lyou YoU when he had the chance can do so by getting your lesby lesby les- les by entering wholeheartedly worthwhile activities by reading books and magazines by y 7 day improving yourselves and andL L 1 l by letting others find out that are a n friend worth knowing tout lout sh showing wms off nt mt forget to make male yourselves attractive too Study your yourI I points and make the most of 1 1 and then forget about it il Reiber Re Re- iber ther if you OU would be loved you t put yourself in the background let the happiness of others he e foreground of your our minds DIFFERS DIFFERS WITH FRIEND FRIENDt r. r t Miss Blair Slave lave ave come to you ou with a problem 1 I dont don't know how to solve I It t ia a. a girl friend who ho thinks I am C wrong because I drink when a Ft out or at a to part party Then tool too y l' tune tIme I I. I go to her place some of boy friends come over to see sec her they fall for tor me mc She says that it lead them on and that they go goi i me for what thc they can get outI out I and I know this Is not true Will please tell fell me mc what to do 1 ED EDIE IE our ir friend has as IS much right to opinion about not drinking and it t. t people who drink as you have our notion that drinking does docs no n. n But unless you can be toler toler- of each others other's ideas I do not see sec yoU can can continue to be friends your friends friend's accusations are arc that Sr that as as a friend under the hos hOSe Uty my of her roof you lead on particular bo boy friends and enrage en en- r rage gc them to go co with you instead ier er you oU must surely know that Jan ungallant to do regardless of what the ct out of it it Your ideas of cannot have reached a f very high level if it you can play the game that way Get over onto your own battlefield and leave your friends friend's particular territory to herself hersell her her- herself self sell and then claim your our own hostages hostages hose hos hos- hos of war If you OU cant can't be a friend under your friends friend's roof you arent aren't going to be one an any place else Take stock of yourself and sec see just what hat kind of ofa ofa ofa a friend you are anyway Perhaps there is more truth than jealousy jealous in your friends friend's accusations If not only your own sincerity can prove to her your reliability as a friend II It doesn't take much stud study to detect friendship that is shammed BOOKS nOOKS MAGAZINES l Dear Miss Blair Please give me mc a list of books or magazines that teach English and eti etl eti- eti quette Also where can ean I get information Inor matlon mation on how to make the home attractive Appreciatively MRS l T. T See the magazine Correct English and other magazines on the library racks and in the book shops teach ing English usage See Sec Thesaurus of English Words and Phrases for synonyms and anto Get any good text book on grammatical construction if you need it Emily Posts Post's Etiquette the Blue Book of Social Usage and Anna S S. S Richardsons Richardson's book on Etiquette Etiquette Eti Eti- Eti quette are arc both authorities and may mayac be ac had at the public library The Home Beautiful Home and Garden are arc magazines devoted to art in the home and out See them at the public library One must study diligently over a long period time plan to utilize the furnish furnish- ir if i one has as much as possible In Inan inan inan an artistic way in order to achieve results Visit drapery shops furniture furni furni- ture ure shops and talk with department managers on new Ideas for the home I WANTS REFINED WORD Dear Miss Blair I should like to ask what the writers writers writ writ- ers to your our column mean by the term erm necking In my opinion what I mean by necking Is not cheap or common It is the overindulgence of oft It t that gives it a bad name If you oU have known a girl for tor a fairly long time Is it cheap to put your arm around her if U you ou have her consent I neck but vcr very little and cven even then I do not call it necking as it docs does not mean to me the same thing that It t does to other people Is there not nota a more refined word or some other term that is much smoother I think to be able to put my ray arm around a I girl Is a privilege and something that I should also be respected b by the girl and I dont don't like to use nse the word necking to describe it I wouldn't even want ant to go with ith a girl who had hada a disrespectful attitude toward it I suppose I am one o of those indecent indecent in decent boys bors in this younger generation genera- genera generation tion Ion referred to Flat by Tire but if f so Im I'm er very ery sure she wont won't make friends with ith most boys if she thinks them Indecent If U she knew she was vas going with a rough crowd wb why did she accept the Invitation to go riding with them Was it In the belief that sh she could win them over to her wa va of thinking I think it would would b be bemore bemore more prudent for her to choose boy friends who didn't go in for tor such heavy necking I sincerely with agree Too Maybe Modern in her view and to Flat FIat Tire I wish more luck and a few really decent boy friends I am much snuck Interested In these topics on necking I BEN Weve We've often wondered ourselves how low such an ugly word came to stand for or everything by Wa way of demonstration tion ion of affection from ui-om rom the privilege of slipping ones one's arm around a sweet girls girl's shoulders to the roughness intimated in in- in the letter of Flat Tire What hat can we do to change it it or at least cast to supply a list of terms that suggest a gradation of the degrees of affection demonstrated Even en if we c couldn't discourage promiscuous necking we would consider the the- column column column col col- col- col discussion worthwhile if it did nothing more than to establish a se EC- l e usage of terms We can hardy hard hard- l ly y think that Flat Tire had you in mind Curious Ben when she s poke spoke of indecent boys |