Show I I Ii i r m V Jt fame TO jome 4 1 i HEART BETTY Letters and questions for the department should be bo addressed to Miss Misa I 1 Sett Betty fletty Blair Hearts Heart's Haven Niven Salt Lake Telegram Write only on one side aide of the paper It Is necessary to append your name and address addren but these ire re held In confidence and will not be published Lost and found notices I cannot be e published In the tho column I ANOTHER NOTHER NEAR TRAGEDY Dear Dar Miss Blair i Oer reading the letter ietter from Blue I have havo decided I must say uy word A-word or two about my experiences resulting os from front tho cocktail petting cocktail petting I parties artie she She asks you to say something to her to make her happy in refusing the cocktails and andI I f cant can't help wondering if happiness come to her from the mercI mere merc I i c of refraining I am sure it itI I would w Jd if she could take a peep into I ny yo situation right now I no one except perhaps Miss Blair knows the misery and unhappiness that I am suffering and probably will suffer the rest of my life and the root of all my trouble uk liis in the fact that I took part Inthe in n the same ume k kind ind of amusement in in w which i h you and your husband are indulging I It like you started t going to parties and drinking cocktails be- be I it pleased my husband and it seemed teemed necessary for me todo it itin in order to be bo a good sport andI nd too watched watch the thc women pet pot with other women's husbands I will say aay that I shall never forget forget for for- get the tears and disappointment I suffered for weeks after tho the first party of this kind I attended as it was ws then I I realized that I wasn't tho only woman my husband had kissed since our marriage However I soon became somewhat accustomed accustomed accustomed tomed to the tho idea of kissing and such auch on carryings although I didn't J ke part in it myself at tho the time jf r the simple reason that it didn't appeal to me Perhaps it was be because because because be- be cause I couldn't ace anything particularly particularly par par- thrilling about any of the husbands that were In our crowd at that time But we changed crowds and it happened that in the tha new crowd there was wal another womans woman's husband husband hus hus- band whoso whose kisses I could tolerate and right there was waa tho the beginning of the end for mo mc- The kind of parties you des describe rib and with wh which ch chI I am so familiar probably aren't arent so 30 bad as some people think and andas as ayou you u. u say cay they dont don't harm some ome people any moro than to ruin their character and self respect BUT they thoy do lead to worse wore things I absolutely had I I never started going to these parties and drinking the cocktails cocktail that I would tot not be bo in the tha awful predicament I 1 Im I'm arn m m in in today Ill I'll tell you why Simple because the tha temptations would never have hays been placed be before be be- fore me and if they had been t the tho booze I could havo have re resisted reo ousted them and would have done CO so I started out with this petting Just for the pastime at first thinking thinking think- think ing ng Why shouldn't lAlI IlAU 7 All the tho others do it it and get by with it even my myown myown myown own husband and if I can get a thrill out cut of it Ill I'll do it too But Buts s soon oo the thrill I experienced at the tho parties wasn't enough There were j jy 5 and secret meetings meeting of all kinds I intended pluck up courage courage courage cour cour- age to end it all some time but my resistance became weaker and weaker especially since there were the drin drinks s all the time The biggest part of my energy was consumed by the violent emotions emotions emo erno- I was experiencing and still all alj this while I was living my life with what I thought was a clean heart and with what I know as astrue astrue astrue true love for my husband and kid kid- dies At I least ast I thought this was the case but I have found it cant can't be done There The is a l line ne between right and wrong and one must hi make the decision between them or else olce be possessed of a dual pers personality nal ty You can n well imagine the penalty lam paying when you think of me having to part with my home and andall all II that is in it even the little s that have become so deer to tome tome tone me ne in in all these years of married life lie I must part with them tiem as I Ih h have ve no place to go where I can take them with me mc But this is nothing compared to giving up my husband and nd kiddies whom I love And have always loved more than if life itself My husband S says he still loves me mc And thinks he can trust me as a he hec c can n eec Iee U that Jt I 1 have learned my lesso Its Ics s so sen fn but he cant can't find it in his heart heartt t Q forgive me I can only hope that temporary separ separation will make him see things differently If I could only express myself in in writing v I could tell you eu how to be bc happy in refusing the cocktails Blue You know right is iro is right and andI I have found it much moro more consoling consol ing to refuse drinks with the knowledge knowledge know know- ledge that I am ani right tha than to accept them to please my husband huband and iru imagine I am m enjoying the effects Just refuse them for awhile emphatically em em- and see sec if your husband think thin more of you Your action will open the eyes of the thc crowd tco Your husband huband may not admit nit to you that he respects you y- y more more for it but you will be able t to detect the difference in his attitude I am able to notice a tiny bit of admiration for me in my husbands husband's manner even under the circumstances circum stances that exist between us and believe me I am going to stick to tomy tomy tomy my resolutions Miss Blair BIair I l hope you will forI forgive for for- give Dive me for taking so much time and I space Thanking you I am m SORRY BUT GLAD For ho you Ou m my dear I have o to thank you 01 for fot- me have havo 10 o much of or tho ira tragic lc part of ot your our story tory for publication It If all alt In my readers could S see aee as I 1 have seen ut Lit fh first firt t hand In the ea case e of or Sorry Sony Hut Clad a a. beautiful home disrupted dig dis two splendid people torn Inn in n agony asony on from each ach other children 8 separated separate from froni parent parents and from each other they would think twice before Indulging Ini In lit a game that can prove pro to bo nothing but bUl devastating d nt it Its b best t I need say Ol ay no more I The Tho stor story Itself is sufficient 1 If wishes can COln bring result mines mine for you OU Sorry But Glad Gladwill will 1 reunite you U fl to your our husband and anel children nd And If Ir I have havo a preachment to give Ive it is to tho husbands who whose e pleasure pleas pleas- ure me It is that wl es engage in such parties and who In the thc end are arc Unforgiving un unforgiving un- un for forgiving hInS for the results It Is self love vanity and E egotism that keeps them from the forgiveness a a. trul truly repentant wife deserves tinder under under un un- der such Buch circumstances Your husband husband hus hus- band fino fine as he is n ne neds ds to consider consider con con- sider well his unforgiving attitude and th the dire results that ma may come cometo to a loved one and am to children through disruption of ot family life He should question himself and his own Integrity more H Ho H should hould cling to you ou and to his children as ns he would to the most pre precious lous Jewels which havo have become come a 11 little tarnished tarnished tarnished tar tar- b because C of ot initial acts of his own and which if It they ar arp arf ever to return to their original luster hutter lI t r will willJo do Jo so fiO because of or the love lo an and trust he Is Js strong nouh nough to display Perhaps Per Per- haps lisps the separation wilt will make him see lee more the folly of ot giving you ou up Perhaps ho Ito will learn better through adversity through adversity through loss of wife children n and home Just home Just what his own bl blessing havo been It i ithe is the heart and mind after all nil b by which one should be he Judged and we cannot think his an any cleaner than yours and arid for tor that son reason ho lie should not set himself up a as the unforgiving lag InS one We arc aro hoping that long before beCore the New Year Tear will t have grown hoary you OU will be reinstated as wife and mother In the tho haven of ot your our own on home Keep up your cou courage rage WEDDING I SUGGESTIONS Dear Miss Blair Although I am an old lady who was married in the tha early eighties I read your yOU dep department almo almost t eVery every ev eV- ery try evening and must say I surely do admire the splendid n id solutions to th the tha many kinds kind of problems your followers bring to Hearts Heart's Haven Will you kindly advise advie me on the following How soon should invitations invitations invitations for a rather informal home wedding be issued How shall we wo servo light refreshments and wh what would you suggest should be served something n not too expensive Would you suggest some way to decorate the house which is small The wedding is to be on January 24 st d 5 Thank you OLD LADY 63 I Your Invitations should be sent now as soon as they thay can be written or engraved engraved or or whatever the form th tIle they are to take take since since as aR a rule In In arc are issued Ol at t least tt two tSo 0 w weeks ks before beloro the date of or the iced wd- ding Punch and C cake with mali gift packages l of oC wedding cako cake llla may be hO MM tI buffet burret Ih style stylo I or on I service plates or 01 the help of cr individual al trays If U you YOI feel el tint you 11 can an afford something more elaborate Ice cr cream cream individual m service with service with wafers and nuts nut maYb may maybo b bo added Or you 01 may have Just the ice cream and cake Potted Polled plants all all th that it you ro have ha of or your our own and all that your our friends are arc able an and Willing to lend lendor for or tho tIm occasion occasion lon are lovely and decorative c especially if attractive pots pota or coverings erIng for Cor pots pot arc u used cd I If you OU can fashion an altar or a bower th the couple are arc to stand for COl the tue ceremony it can c-an bf hf very Ir attractive wH with h a n. few few- potted palms a n sprinkling of or cut flowers flowen If Ii you can afford them thE nn and asnin the lie us Hit of ol potted plants One Onelo los does lo s not attempt to overstep tho tue of or what nit one can COln afford alfor In th j matter of ot weddings though urn urn- does docs of or course exert ones one's utmost to tu make mako everything as attractive a ae as lr I Wo e are happy that YOU rou u like th the 1 roll mm hope hupf you ou will come COl again New Years Year's ears happiness to I you OU and anti tho the to to soon e NANCY CARROLL Dear Miss Miu Blair This is my first visit to your cor ner ncr and I hope I f am welcome Will you please tell me Nancy Carrolls Carroll's address addre Wishing you success I MOVIE BUG You ma may address Nancy Carroll al at the Paramount Studios Hollywood Holly holly- I wood though she sho ma may not receive your our letter INtel for a while as she is on ona I a trip to Hawaii with Uh her husband huball Were We're glad Ead to have ha you ou make mal the first t visit to the column aid ald hope you ou will come again RUDY VALLEE Dear Mist Blair I Does Rudy Vallee play an instrument instrument instrument ment If so 10 what docs does he play Thank you kindly BEVERLY I Uth Vallee pla plays s 's any of oC the lie wind Instruments You Vou arc wel wel- coin come e. e I NOTE TO F E. E The fact that thal your jour our violin is i I years rears old oM do dues does not add to lo Its value There Is no sale hale for fOl old uld violins violin Unless un unless un- un le less they are arC tho genuine crt creations or of a t master hand lI unions you yuu happen happen hap hap- pen ren to lo kno know some I mc Individual who i ii Interested td in III the particular mal make c of or violin you ou ha have Ye I THIRTEENTH CHAIR Music CHAIR Music Dear Miss Mils u Blair I should like lite to know the lie name namo or of th the piece piece that t 1 is played just be before bo- bo fore the story of The Thirteenth Chair begins It is played when the names of the characters are given Thanking you in advance I R F. F An n Indian Legend L. b by Maurice r Baton Balon Is In the thC t played Jut just before heCor the bt of or the picture The Chair Your second sec eec on end ond question will be published and anu answered later |