Show i rt T rt t f Being j 1 Women Men Ien W I menT Admire That at 11 A b Ie I By B A Adelaide id j I ll I f 11 Gordon j ii J 1 I J f Mrs r Gordon GordoW G will a at awer er inqui 4 riem rin addressed d t leer by a readers rs 4 f t Letters should return turn f t postage and aad always be ad adt t bits f LATE GORDON t 1 even ven New Newt York Yorki t i i i i x J i j A A AThe The perfect woman won be behe bahe she maid or 01 matron Ma n or one Ofte wHo silo po 4 t a sure su and ng g ppe i sesame ame e to i ithe the hearty Jt J and admiring ad con eol of the m a tICU hat half of bf c f W clety It is Ie a part of the large and aDd beautiful art of knowing how b to render yourself agreeable that knack kaack of 01 inspiring the esteem of ot the th sterner sex I feel al always always alays ways ays so honestly sorry BOlT for the woman o oho who ho boldly asserts that men bore het 1 t that she has no time for tor them and that feminine companionship hip is more to be b HT de and more satisfying She is making a great and deliberate mistake in the very vel ground plan of her whole career Site She s e will never be that woman wom n who nobly planned to warm and 8 nd comfort and command which the ther j r lear dear sighted poet extols She fe is sure ure to have hae a crook rook in her nature she Bhe is bound to be her sympathies If are re limited and her manner is id h certain t to I be airing in genuine charm harm Men Friends My heart warms instead to the sensible sensible sensible ble girl win wh o appreciates he importance of o counting a good gaud GOd strong mass map uline elm t in her citIe it Ie of society Do Dono Dono no nog mistake me as advocating the type o damsel who is Bent ent on the acquisition tion of beaux and tt all mental excite excitements t k ments menta I mear mean the spinster of an any age who 1 hats lka os a justifiable ambition n to claim thet the he hee e c t and a certain amount am of the attentions of ot the best Ja of ot her l er n neighborhood I mean melin in short just j t such a girl aa ae the file theone one who wh wl o discoursed d frankly with Ilk toe lie I ever my tea t a cups last w week k of the t of that ant Interest and influence in her life li 1 i reo r e eI I need men frienda she said with j t tout out any foolish blushing or Please e dont think I am ami husband band hu hi hunting or after a tor or I am not but I recognise with no little distress that my acquaintance ia la so 80 few fen agreeable young men bet be betWeen baI tWeen t eon een whom and myself a congenial I II i 1 ii iiI friendship fri f exists and I really dont I know how h w to alter the situation 1 I wis barn and brought up uD in a pretty N Iw w gland town own where there I wore were sto 80 o few young people that I never vent to dances picnics etc Ole I was wa sent nt itc to a it womans college and ard ar d Jt nut no I work ork SC for r living T r am stilt still almost O t a a girl ltd d nt to have bave a aSins Sins good I Irma l n I g out but t but when f tt It t t t ri am driven t t the be very ery ti f out that hat I 1 dt net 4 Wt rt at a op ty y thins tb is tit is ilaI 7 admired S1 t Chan t a weak nS va ii indeed Ind sY de r Ii orca oCca aio j cf t Ii not mere br brae or teP ut u C that hat will win winy lardy y 3 for foJ fo woman among the theA tens er A than ago 1 1 saw a av v verb p rray ed in a gown gonn a area reia Mt in state at tile a wi e ir Iden whore huIt red woofer fb frei fre cles were Were con spi w features f t iee were ere far front regular had bad al partners all aU aUthe tine the evening than t she k Bw what to do with That Tat t was wae w a a case case of or beauty y pure jU and simple versus v u i the ch rm that never fails that age annot wither or custom cus custom custom tom stele stale and that tys wins for its happy possessor an n easy and de dt delightful victory It te Is the th charm of a as sn s it gracious h ee e ul manner that all men with sta lly Y admire Whether you TOU are poo rand plain or orrick rich rick and acid you will find it al always always ways aEi acknowledged and irresistible Some women wield it by toy gift of Or na ha ha hat hair Ure t ir reo re others acquire it b by br dint of ear earnest earnest earnest nest effort fort e and force of the e finest kind of ambition No IsTo man living JIving is lIle to that manner and he yields to it before mere were ere brains or mere beauty bea ty The Wie trouble with the pr tty girl was that thit site she depended orf on on her looks bolts l alone atone to gain p R for or her th requisite t l Interest te terest t taM aid aM attentions attention MJ 11 her H 7 1 u 1 l I rival yet pat heart and soul into th the J busl bust r n nm ra of being atm a au nie u u r i L u and In te to make the men meat who ease me her way feel eel at tit their th h ease I that she ghe was 88 ready ry to like lIk them Il and nd veiling to take trouble tr to t make her h r soV sd I very pleasant indeed Many lany times in the evening did I see gee methe seethe the conscientious 8 hostess b stess lead desirable I partners in to t 7 an introduction to the fair fall creature in blue but after a 8 bit they all 11 slipped sUpped away from her side I v Ue ile the general verdict concerning conc v MU J t I Ithe the owner O of the auburn locks lod u was sf how awfully nice she IE 12 V j Sweetness SW art and Ligh L h Now de do you you copy the t e t of my ins charmer with the f t rL kl K Y v ry I now none ant ami i n fits like Ii the woman w mall nr r bout b th the Sweetness pf t e ft t per paa a ats tine tim light lighter of 1 Wo n t q ft All Al A the vo 0 yord p luh lub att h butt Tally 7 t tny ts EI EJ a aid d ion filly ny E Slit ty Athe the Vi vidu l I loin h 1 l if the tJ th f ux ury or of moods o If you y ou tir a ble on br t i Monday lout quite h ipa bk o OR on Y ey aY very eFy v oon On l ft jt out i and distrust t and ami a void vol lou oil Nat r t I 1 Ij b An all ail pervasive rl f I one 01 oi the leading leadin one of my little i ire re friend She fl i Is sp SQ really y to t smile If It nit net with her li s with her eyes eybs and they tOeY are are so 50 cv T full it l of oi ng I I goodwill that the t youth or Cor ly rals feels els on en o the moment mom nt of hit introduction etlo that she is Ie d at tb U the e d chance ee that brought their I II iatha atha I together SIt she la Is to listen I without forced for enthusiasm whatever n I h he has 11 s to iy is 16 not n in spite of I her Iter wide and ever popularity too hard to please 1 le leNow 1 Now that 10 Is lie e a leading 1 mistake so fO often oft n by Y YOU cult cultivated I girls girl I candidly admitted d You Are too easily e lly bored You are apt to I allow aDow a hint of oft this to show i manner It is iness and It is IsI I also the t very ery wisest policy tb to put pat yourself out o t a little to fo t be he kind to bash bashful bashful II ful tul Mr Jenkins be ia s cold or Gl GlI I I impatient witH that young fo ng f l Ito from fr m j I the country YAP yoji met m r as night i and who 00 mera and a dorff dont t ie ie e so at s In InI Intolerant I tolerant e O ot rosy oay Mr Ir 13 own i I l T ir good 4 0 WW will and n a tte e e worth Instead t lap tead d you yoM t De ed th tu all alt lid s d keh eh your nama namn is is n d be sure they tiey Uie f will 11 newer n v rc cr Ih hoV 0 sw fully nice ni she is isA IsA isA A Cheerful Philosopher PhU s The heroine her ine o 0 of the freckles fr Ie as is s I Iha have h ve veI I intimated 1 In ill nt ri t at aff a ti J ty tty and ani in th fact I su suppose pou u n id cr r downright ugly if It i w r 1 not ot aeh ch A It n cheerful philosopher made the best est of her good points She wits was not a bit self sel conscious and she was net not painfully ready to take of offense Offense offense grow irritated over trifles or fret if there was a crumpled roseleaf ro leaf As a matter mUter of fact she ia s the most i ing tg b little optimist 1 Th The W h a aScott r Scott good H many socially I I U f rUl ul rh a t t not i Iri x out Ott good fellow f d b anI what hat w i ins s a a admi n i iI I fi Q r Be at all aU times just I femi as a as 1 possible Take T ake a as did the m rno mod In j jt lecture t ture to a rh in ot t te 1 t veer veur tea tf t t ik r w i per fr fills tit moving scene seena in th lt 6 y ve r n ail atty U the frills and U s u o udo b do 00 not do afraid as did the pe peer pile DW DWer w er in blue when an unhappy trod on her train turn and Plat Ii IN n nattily at the guilty one me ant anti awe ii tit kit apologies apolo w with ith tin s n unforgiving oi j I r saw the th same earn Occident accident ij t towner owner of f the freckle fredd and DJ Ja ph 1 and saW said I know kno you ou are ar rit it O be he helped a pin ph f ti two fo of I i f the dressing ir casing f room oom will W maket m make ak jt all right and ou must not think ink too leer mush o oit it a aI I am ana g J to w wager that girl does d oeo not noL g Harold d n be b bUI ber cauce UI e hj h w wets w y rite late in ir inS party t taH ft k b becat ca e her hEt s oe ort r was a bIt JaW ff for Js s uE J W refuse 8 to ake oft the theatre at atre re or ct be le too crowded crow ti tt t rat t the picnic P S Show ow q gt eel t lq 10 b 1 fled fl and Wand sc ac accent t i t t Dont Don t Criticise t t 7 can safely assure t that th vo o man inan who no to ip PlY crib al will ivil veri e J even peep p into that bright pI t 1 realm known knO as Qi Tw be agreeable to be popular th as euline half of J society yep yeji tolerant tol fol t H erent f fI fI I know a girl who Jw tap has niu n in it favor to win attractions greatly tier does the fhe he lor long lorg for them Sh i ff more rioter r than most but bu het heg s er who is not so ins Bird amt an l scarcely to be called brilliant in Con Conversation conversation receives receiver re twice idie eo a admire tion t n of my yit t and tty friend but Hut the sister i Is kindly in S sp MPh she soe though clever clev t ed am fe is too sharp Her Iler tong 1 I h t ed and she i Is willing ta to t Ja tJ h i e t 81 bl of ot friends and sir tH iH j es t I too frequently are u at t te the expense e of others and at an fJ a t lieu I r I faculty of f e akl ft m tire i things flings tr h and be he Jbf bi p pa u t J said sad before erf l ness nesa Is o a and sd so soI set I t ut dp not net locus your y ur neighbors with too much muc ener energy daa t m ke f p f Mr As Aa r ch sen tie pie or lr awkward manners for you will feared instead of liked an and t hll an art acute horror of ri ridicule Which is t the the t cruelest crne est form foam of sport Learn Leant in tn addition n to this t iS 1 son of v f what to avoid the equally valuable le lee les lessor sor S P of trying to look a little betow b be lOw w the tho surface It is not fair to judge t e Ule men mep you meet by the he externals ext only ohl It happened just here in my drawing room that I presented to a young oung 30 ng lady wits wha wh att calling a shy plainly dressed ed ed man man rhoe hose coat did fit badly hadly and vho rho was ot in ih the th least 1 a dashing figure Z of t the th ther r test ne In addition t Je e ts and spoke with sl Milo bp o it r my fair caller ing J Pty ft hi ra to t fa ave ve hUn him ve very little kittle notice t en the t e afternoon aft p n wa was over 01 I P remarked ked t rw wae rry ati not found Mr Blank whose whore tru truis Is world famous for hs wealth and cul cui culture ture are more Interesting But t I did not meet him she site an any in amazement i I On Oh yes you did I t replied he ho h hore wore ore the big spectacles and has a slight impediment in his speech h 1 i Why I thought he wa way just a no nob b she wailed in dire din distress d ress and ze fc I r leave teave you to draw the th obvious lous moral from this tale It is very illustrative of ot the mistaken methods of the woman Who Is a 3 little too critical of externals t Be B ready and willing to sow the seeds seed seedof of gracious kindliness on promising and ind unpromising soil for you ou can never tell just where or when you jou ou will m reap re p harvest a of friends friend That Fatal Egotism she he is such Bach ch an approachable sort of j glut that at Mise I s Jone Jonee I 1 overheard a Qung 5 say of o a damsel her he had bad t ef an and she hels is not ni t all the th time timp trying to ib air 1 r C her brains Le e concluded v That t v t proved be beyond ond the shag w of f a doubt d u t that tbt Miss Mise Jones is not no afflicted with that tbt fatal egotism from Which so many of her er sex suffer espe illiCh ally Uy Ily In their relations with men meA Try wt tl tto fo entertain your callers c llers with your 76 youri r i wn I affairs The shy man n especially locks 1 to the woman to draw him out output oute and e i put him at his case To make a go with a new masculine acquaintance find out what interests him bim and on thora thosa lines inspire big hie elo eloquence eloquenCe lo loquence quence YOu I ou need not be lie a football sharp or 01 ora ora a S lf expert or r a hor horse hone e woman to he Us Usten listen ten with tUt flattering interest to accounts of ot grimes games but you will find it really en and l ld instructive in when an ene en e tells you yaa about it and he be in grateful ful return for fer your interest west In will scow you yon all the admiring attentions in in n h power po er kI Hi likes once once for taken takene pie e trouble troubie t to study t te his ana anane a n fie ne e may mA respect re iii hut bet only at Ji a dis distance tonce tance if it you are ar az e a pretty pedant and aDd able to discourse coune dl about you u own tri your own recreations and the isms and elegies r Co right br b the New York So of f Self Cul ure All rights re ra reserved reser served ser oJ ed |