Show THE THEART ART A T OF BEING AGREEABLE AGREEABLE II ADELAIDE GORDON g t I r Strive to jet get together the t persons person u be between beI I tween twee whom you have reason to believe congenial tastes and temperaments ex cx exist tat T y TAnd And yAnd believe me rae If Ie your guest of honor bonO to Ie I hi kt the least a cheerful and impressionable Imp man maa he will wilt enjoy him himself himself self none the less lea and find your roast an all the th more savory because his hill visa via viii is an attractive vision vlon in white chiffon who has a bright eye and a agay aBY agy gay gy laugh for tor his hit Jokes joke and aM stories storie Finally dont ont have bave too many of your own family at t the fbi table Your Tour old bachelor uncle and grandma and andJa Jaeky Ja ky Ute he e boy y may be very dear der ad Interesting to you bat nt they may atoo io be tiresome and uninteresting lug ing I to your Tour guest who variety in the die mental refreshments refreshment offered him quite a as muck mock as se In the food you set et before fore limo aim X t hay have seen Men many m ny an otherwise e 11 i little dinner spoiled because beuse the hostess hostes had fitted filled the chairs chair with her sisters ten and her couSIns cousin co and Dd her heraUD aunts aunte aUD A Special This I 18 implied from the way 7 you jive ITe ive your for a small email sad and even dinner Write them them always I bold bola no brief for the verbal bidding It is 18 dangerous it opens the way y to really heartbreaking me at to the day and the hour boor Also J 80 it is not civil save when offered a very very Intimate friend whom you to ask to make one oneat Oneat 1 at the family board I We all an know kno that the big bie dinner calls callI for an engraved OK os written invitation expressed as a a rule in ia the third per person perThe pers son s The dinner demands less lews formality The brief and an friendly note is the t e proper medium Whether y yu have or r have not met the man your Our husband desires to en entertain entertain entertain it is sun still your duty to send him a short wrt note no expressing a hospi hospitable table desire to Me es ee him hi on a specified day y and at a certain hour boar at your j hoard bed If It he be Is lit a gentleman born and aad d bred he bt will appreciate the th compliment t In Incase I Incase case ease he lie to Is a married man stopping with his hla wife at a hotel you must send your invitation to her and nd send your card with it if It your time te is too short hort to co allow you to first ant leave a card for forber her ber yourself Sen Sei the t th note by hand bID bIDI and aDd appoint your YOU own time thue U ne for your I dinner Please PIea do not make the th mistake of I thinking that these are empty form allUes They are the Indications of i good Ir taste good heart good O d breeding bree They also simplify matters for you you andare and are Instrumental in making your guests very happy J Some Practical Detail Deta L There is so much stress laid on en the importance of ot a daintily invitingly Y decked deck d table that I insist l ins no woman a acan can give ve a proper little dinner party without her recipe book in one oe and nd and her Manual Mauai of Good Forts ForM Po la Ia 1 the tM theother th other From Feels the latter ee proD probably ably learn all ail the rules for spreading her hospitable board with wit perhaps ve th tN following exceptions which I wish to emphasize Put Pat only oaly tIM the th essentials e and a few let flowers on a white cloth clothA A small table Is always alwan at its it best t when white and aad but bat one outer color Lye are em employed eM eMployed in decoration Lay knives and forks fork perpendicularly side by side to right t and aDd left of the cover Do not place the th oyster fork at right angles angle with the th othe nd lay no DO flat silver allver at the top of any uy cover cor Water glae are re never ever turned up side down and and napkin rings ring have been laid on the shelf belt t An abundance abUDa of light pleases the theton themen men ton while white the tb women are grateful if II the rich rl h glow falls through tinted tie sue paper or silk shades shade If you use WIe candles at table be sure that they burn steadily and safely A conflagration at table or a sputtering rebellious candle Je are not happy inci mci incidents dents dent and do not take place when hell you youe have hare e dependable fixtures fixture and mica I shade abade protectors An impenetrable barrier of flowers flower between guests guesta on opposite sides side of a table is a mistake A low and simple floral decoration suits a small table best be L LIt 4 It is incorrect and aad pretentious to have a man maa In to wait on the little dinner A maid la in I black gown oWn with white apron turnover cuffs cd and eel col collar 1 lar I in and nd diamond ped tarleton cap serves serve serves to greater advantage Pit Fit Jor a King This Is hi what each dish should be beThe The Ideal little dinner the dinner that glad the digestion of your guest redounds to your everlasting I credit is simple and well cooked and to 18 a stepping stone eton to higher things The perfect little dinner consists consie of four courses course Soup roast salad and sweets To serve erve more than tun this tW Is to overload the occasion occa Many lIa mis misguided misguided misguided guided women attempt the game and Roman punch the entrees entree and round runds of o hors merely to fail faU Pour only one wine claret sauterne or sherry herry and place that in a decanter on the t table Make assurance doubly sure that the hot things are aro served hot that the cold things thing come on OD in a state ate of perfect re refrigeration and place emphasis on Oil the perfection of your coffee coee A A Really ly Re Festal rw Board It i is Ie the taMe whereat enat the hostess h presides pw with ease an and grace Her Ret in influence influence fluence her manner man make for success or failure allure A As Aa hostess year first tint ingratiating Impression is made by Jay greeting your guests as though their arrival was w lee for you the fulfillment of a long lone cherished desire Jt makes no difference how hard bard anday a aday aday day yours has hai been beeD how many trials I and disappointments it ha has h hM heW those you yon entertain t must mias t not lIot for tor an i instant tant I suspect that you are in anything but a molt moat radiant humor There are hostesses b t seem able ble to understand that t role calls caUs for some ome of the talents teJen add the of ot the actor w wM comes come before an n audience Cheerful I lital f agreeability is I the watchword of oe e aspiring hostess By the same token ye your gown asset be bright and becoming beco A truck freck L LIs Is open in the throat and hi in sleeve Is the costume costine for f r the tM hostel IJ of a little dinner wear no gloves glove In III your part of da du not DOt seem irritable er or It If L guest is Ie a trifle overdue Shew tha IIiI da I an amiable amible his excuses or explanations BaW ily lIy You can display a great vat deal grace or awkwardness in I your guests to and Ad from the room y j jIn In the little house or In an meat ment or at a small aman dinner 41 of a ayou you go 10 in first with your w pst guests The men mea follow When In your YOW chair chir at the tM head bead let Jet this be your golden resin nde Devote all thought said aad ud t the is the he guests pee Try not to paralyse your maid with Wt wi winks and aad hisses hM because she abe has be Jar gotten OtteR to pass pus the tk mint Il sauce with wt th t lamb lambDo lambDo lambDo Do not send cold down y husbands II spine he hety heley E ley ty asks ask for brown bread have only provided white You merely freeze the genial e of your guests PM soul tuh by toy tear for lor the dash of salt It Itice Mr ice cream eream the odor of hot grease will wUl come in from front the Ute an sa fa ts I dressing that is ill truss from the in Maintain a serene and aDd mh 4 posers ure even at the price Idee of ef your inmost t sacred feelings c to t the th conviction that so long lime as you IMS sst happy your guests will wiD be happy to toe The boat best t rood food in the world wor grows grow or sour our at the thO th moment the hostess h seems ill III at ease and unnerved Do not therefore apologize apologise for atoy jo j thing further than to say NI I am that this dish has gone sone wrong WIOn than u deliberately talk of something ese else When your servant makes a m mcall call can her ber to your side aide de and clearly In a low tone ten tell her ber what to do s while you talk observe that ac guest seems well served It is polite at a small dinner to toa toa toa a guest a second helping of any 1 but it 10 i both inelegant and erate to insist when once the dell dellha has ha been refused Be sure if a second helping has Van accepted to take tak some BOme of the th dish I your you yourself self sell and if p f continue occupied occupied pied pled with the contents of your Ur plate plat as Ion long as the others are eating tactless is i the habit of ef some sonne hostesses bo who comment upon the small amount o of food that a guest t i consumes It i ic Miner kind nor con at a semi formal feast to re cc remark remark mark Why Wb Mr mack you are eat eating eatIng ing lug nothing not bing at dl U 11 what ha hatS hac become of your appetite or 1 lm Im m afraid Robert Miss Blank does not like Uke our food ehe he simply has baa lIa not torched to a athing athing athi thing thi ng By Bj tailing n ino n o this thin 11 error you yU u c to LO render your gusts uta un no conspicuous and y ir boa hos hospitality a wretched burden Y i t force the unfortunate one into ex pi i or apologies apologia or a hopeless pm en b ment and thus you vou have han bT en one of the sacred laws of hosp t end and failed r in n fl T Th A of Being BeIne u b l c Copyright mw 1183 by 1 7 the N lw w York 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