Show v OF COI CO i I MARRIED LIFE By Margaret E Sangster I h I HE REN the dome domestic tf firm of Self d a aV V Partner has bas come Orne to one of tto those e ep p particularly hard places laces where were i the t e whets drive heavily over a rough and road try the of a ac c Never mind whether t the Is or Ute the reverse I In n the humdrum Of l conjugal life Ufe both parties are ably ieya 1 and there Is a solid foundation foundation tion off of con confidence underlying the days and ADd years Joe bye doeS not Ry out oat of the Nt but compliments do back at the halcyon period of court sKip how many husbands If candid that their beha behavior then wan M In marked contrast with their be JIO now that the manner of hiv airy of u of cour courty courtey ty tey which then fitted them as smooth smoothly ly Iy as their evenin evening had not the most distant or the faintest m II to tM the brusque and nd pot poe tibb 17 boorish manner t that bat too often iI a him blot uPon upon married d friendship I use thee t word friendship advisedly edY I fM fey uni x people are friends friend they ha have Vf n no right to be married and marriage to those who haw have entered It should be the b highest culmination of comrade comradeship I ship between friends Unfortunately it Ica not always this for into tbt free freedom I dom of marriage creeps the poison of rudeness and inCOnsiderate and ill timed frauk frankness A great deal of most unpardonable Impoliteness shelters It Itself J self elt behind the mask of frankl frankness Theman The 1 man takes It for granted that II is aware aare of his hb love and Is at no pains to AMOre her of oC its continuance In hi word fWd or act a t out nut of the I And she ill is not DOt free from blame on her side If Ie truthful some wives would be forced to admit that their attitude to toward ward the lovers overs or of their n youth uth had wholly changed They were intention intentionally Any ally attractive And pleasing in ap appear appearance ance and conversation when with ties thes acknowledged Joe lovers The They do not now I tAke the trouble to be the same the i lovers having baving become ne ads with ith I whom born they have settled down Into the easy y of double I Think of the contrast What Ite te teI I CE e Harry w when he came to call of oC an evening with tumbled hair r to in a dowdy dod sown wn without a collar coDar f ribbon or a frill and without so much as a smile of approval lIe is thus received now often But then It was di Harry was then t bt n the I f magnet of every waking king thought t And AndI I 1 probably the fancies of ones innocent dreams Ethel aas as eor I Ily Iy alM urb d in the lad and dominated by his bis I lightest wb h H Harrys wm will is ismy ismy my la law she used uMed to nay aYe with pride If he be did not admire e a hat bat It was die di carded in a flash If liked d pink Ethele summer ma lin blushed with Un n III She would not ha have let him ree h r In soiled gove or torn If he preferred on one dessert to another Ethels fair tair bands com it Oft on the day that he came cameto to dinner Had he pined gained a promotion or some forward f ard step in ness she se pra praised him for it without grudge pud or reluctance for lor to Ethel Harry HUTY t then n wore the glamour of A warrior return I In c with ith the spoils from a hardlY won field But on the other hand a score or of years year ago Harry seldom called empty empt handed H u used 1 to bring hying e bon bonbons hens bons a ne new hook book or the I latest sine and t these were re trl tributes laid III at Ethels feet 1 t She never er looked pretty prett that he did not tell tJI her so in some SHnte form fonn of honey speech with variations Her dainty toilettes were not last on him S She dreamed dr for his approval and he knew it and ard compliments in return for the lains sit she took C C Clet Vt let us suppose that Harry grown gron a i little ball bald a little rotund a little red redin redin in the face plainly ed and paterfamilias froth from the top or of his hat hatto to the toe of his boot should a again aln look at Ethel through the eyes or of the Harry he used to b Supposing that his mt means ans pt permit him and he should Ofa i finally bring home ro roots es as hell I as from and mar market ket kat stal Su Suppose nose ht he s should notice her in a new gown own and comment upon It IL not an air ir or of oblivion n I she looks better or worse than other women I To It a certain and really devoted husband of m my acquaintance a 8 woman friend once ventured to 58 say Do you know that your wife Is th the woman in this town The man received Ute the remark with in incredulous credulous amazeMent g It Il never neer occurs tome to me think how she looks hut but I took it for granted that if J she wanted anted or wh when n she wanted new clothes she would guy uy them TIle The good man and aDd se serenely serenely I 1 never gave gae a passin thought to his Jeg C and She happened to be too proud to t him hin II that she required anything The day or of compliment between bd good peo people people had in a S sea t of Suppose E that Eth n i in these days Clays I somewhat angular ula somewhat thin and sallow somewhat hone gone ore oft as to good I II looks I ok but with of beauty I Mill should array her herself elf for H eyes as sire she did twenty years ears ago I am I of people Jle ordinarily thrifty Ut and able to gratify their little ta tast ts s I Why Iry should she he not make an after toilette for him wh why should she he allow her youn young daughter to monopolize lize Ine aU alt the fathers s admiration tion The t wifE has bas a right to her ber out outspoken spoken devol devotion as w will n so ab to that f tenderness which h she knows knos abides for I her a spring of love Jove The habit ot of paying pAyin compliments in home life w would pr preserve home borne ss I from I flaw It If it were only more gener generously practiced The tongue unused to It stammer a little at first but It would anon c to stumble and ac accustom custom uste Its If to the gentle and the flat tm phrase which would bring so som m k gladness gladne s to the hearer Nothing o 0 tats cats into nl the fabric of home content as continual indifference Faultfinding and nagging follow swift foott footed on th the heels or of this sin against love Praise appreciation outspoken affection and demonstrativeness are wonderful helpers in promoting real joy In married life lie Perhaps it is trite to remark that it itIs itis Is much better economy tp give gh How Howe eJ e to the living b bor than to strew flowers or a grave Ir If the dead could return th they y would sometimes be surprised to hear the estimation in which th they y were held heid while here by the bereaved who celebrate brate their virtues and mourn their theirl Ios l s In terms that only the tive can an e Dont let Jet us keep our superlatives sn for the hour when w we It itai ai ne longing for tile the touch of oC a van vanished hand tied aM the sound or of a voice oie that is stilt still We find tk the means and tile the money to build monuments Let Letus us find both to make on one another hap happy IaP 1 py when there is if no question of mono menu mf ts but only of everyday y living In Ino o obscure places where we e do our work bring up out our children and earn the days wages After aU all what i is better than to cam the days wages wage honorably to do dothe dothe the best w 0 caR can with what we e nan have and to be kind to thoe tho e who are nea nearest t tto to us ns those thos of our own blood who i bear our own name Whether w we I e in the lowlands or the h I W we get bet th soldiers pay at the days das end It i is in fn our p power er to be sullen nd morose or to be e Amiable and rd genial Comi Compliments lh help belp on en th the lat latter latter ter condition and blessedly exorcise the orm r Says nob Robert rt Louis Stevenson When I YO you have married your our wife ICe you ou would think that you OU were got ot upon a hilltop and might begin to go downward byan by byan an ea easy r slope but you have only end ended oti ed courting to begin marria marriage e Falling in love loc and winning love Ion are often difficult tarns to overbearing and rp re rebellious spirits but to keep in love loveIs lovei i Is ul also o a business of some me Importance to which both man and wife Ire mu must t bring kindness and aid gdud will ill The Th trUe love tory story at the altar I Copyright 1 5 by b Joseph Jooeph B Bowler Bowlet |