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Show 7R WEST VALLEY View Thursday, Mar 1981 12 One Marriage, Two Careers Tta I iupUai Uam - Todays Bride Has Many Opportunities That Were Unknown When Her Mother Married Two of most things are better than one. But, two careers, one marriage . . .is it better? Can it work? decision-making- cording to one expert, they fall into three main categories: long-rang- , The daily organization of life and psychological and emotional conflicts. Whose career comes first? Thats one of the toughest areas of planning for partners who have careers rather than just jobs. It affects where you live, what you do. Probably the best way to deal wdth the problem is for both of you to e Special problems crop up for the couple that can place extra strain on a marriage, but the fact is, more and more couples are managing this new lifestyle and managing well. Fifty-fou- r percent of U S. women between the ages of 20 and 65 are now part of the labor force, so if both of you arent working right now, chances are that sometime in the future you will be. You should be prepared for some of the problems youll have to face. Ac long-rang- two-care- e make up individual career plans, then come together and decide which parts of each plan can work for both of you Perhaps one persons career imdi and amepb Iwe cJwiiged can take precedence over the other's at certain points in your relationship. Another of the bones of contention is whether or not to have children Both working partners have to sit down and decide whether they are willing to take time off from their careers at various stages to deal with the raising of children. They have to determine whether they will place their child with a day care center, hire a babysitter or stay at home and raise the child themselves On a day basis, household chores can cause problems If the two of you cannot agree on a division of work w Inch is suitable, remember you have the option of hiring outside help Money management, too presents some hassles There are a number of ways you can go, but one expert recommends that each of you pay for a certain area of home expenses out of y our ow n separate bank accounts That way, each partner has a share of the economic responsibility. Entertainment is also likely to cause some troubles. Once again, youll have to talk things out Ideally, you might want to take turns accompanying each other to business functions and entertaining business friends On an emotional and psychological level, a working couple has to come to terms with a number of conscious and unconscious fears: fear on the husbands part that his wife will be more sucessful than he is; fear on the wife's part that she wont be able to play all the roles of w ife, mother and professional, anxiety on both parts when it comes to traditional sex roles The important thing for any couple, and in particular the couple with all its special troubles, is to talk things out the moment there is a problem Remember that you are each different individuals and see things differently. You alone are responsible for your happiness - not your partner. 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Ut. 84047 Furnitvr A Apfllim 1625 So. Roil wood off 10 972-432- 6 Where The Gowns two-care- . . LOUIS XV e floral two-care- Career MAGNIFICENT BRICKIES BLOOMERS o-day Ztegcud Wedding Calm earning a li ing and w ives taking care of the home is rapidly eroding Experts are recommending that premarital agreements regarding the division of labor be made by engaged couples They point out that employed wives suffer from an inequality of work time, when they are expected to handle all the domestic chores while holding dow n a job as well Increasing awareness of the womans work load has made men more receptive to helping with domestic chores, research indicates. A few couples have even gone so far as to switch roles for a period of time, either as an experiment or out of expediency A practical "unromantic view of marriage today is evidenced by the growing number of marriage workshops and counseling groups courses for students There are interested in marriage, covering such topics as budgeting, child rearing and dealing with "Do you, Diane, promise to love, honor, and let Jim watch football on Saturday afternoons? Do you, Jim, promise to love, honor and let Diane have two nights each week when you will do all the cooking and cleaning up afterwards for the evening meal?" Couples may not be making this kind of vow at the altar but they are stipulating conditions and spelling out rights and privileges for themselves, in that newly revived tradition, the marriage contract. Where marriage contracts of other times were usually concerned with financial arrangements, todays contract is most apt to specify activities and functions of each mate One California couple, for instance, actually did draw up a contract specifying, among other things, that the husband's Saturday afternoons of watching football on TV would not be interfered with. The marraige contract, which is usually renegotiate, is one manifestation of the growing changes in attitudes toward marriage. With an estimated 40 percent of wives continuing to work, the old concept of husbands Are... CHOOSE DON BLAIR for a complete photographic remembrance of their wedding Large Selection Of Bridal Gowns, Brides Maids, Mothers, and Flower Girls. Lingerie Bridal Gift Registration invitations. Napkins, etc. Bridal gift registries, available in many department and jewelry stores, offer you an invaluable service at wedding time. 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