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Show Pride Not Alone on Woman's Part Both Partners in Marriage Must Avoid Injuring Self Esteem. "Never crush the pride of your marriage partner!" That heads the latest list of "commandments" "com-mandments" for being happy though married, Is the opinion of a distinguished distin-guished woman writer. The author Is a judge in Atlanta who Is reputed to adjust about two thousand cases a year that come Into court seeking divorce. The next two of the "commandments" "command-ments" apply Jointly to husband and wife : "Be willing to compromise on little things." "Cultivate Interests In common and work together toward some definite defi-nite goal." The following three apply only to husbands : "Tell your wife the truth about your financial situation." "Pay her compliments now and then." "Make a definite move toward developing de-veloping and maintaining real companionship." com-panionship." And the seventh and last, for women wo-men only : "Remember, always, that at heart your husband is still a little boy." Excellent "commandments" all, which, if it Is possible always to follow fol-low them, will certainly insure a measure of success and happiness In marriage. But when the rule-making' judge really shows genius is in repeating re-peating at the end of his list, his first commandment, "Never crush the pride of your marriage partner!" "The one sure thing you can do to kill a woman's love is to injure her pride," the judge explains. "When you do that you often destroy the woman. Women will forgive a great deal so long as you do not wound their pride." True, Judge, very true, about the unforgivable sin in marriage being wounding pride. Only why specify women's pride? Surely the judge must know that the surest way for a woman to make a man hate her bitterly bit-terly Is to put In shadow for a moment mo-ment the sanctum sanctorum where is his pride? Doesn't he know that of all the faults a woman can have, of all the ways In which she can offend In marriage, all are forgivable except the slightest pricking of his self esteem. I was amazed recently to hear "talk" of infidelity on the part of a man whose "worst enemy" would never have connected him with that particular offense. "Of course he was not Inclined that way," a fraternity fra-ternity brother explained. "I am sure he cared nothing about the other oth-er woman ; it was just his way of getting back at his wife's air of superiority. su-periority. A man who Is not given the proper respect in his own home Will do anything." Who said "women's pride?" , Bell Syndicate. WNTJ Service. |