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Show Page' 4A South tdition Lakeside Review Wednesday, December 5, 1984 Get Help and Keep the Season Jolly Rain Or Shine Holidays Can Also Create Depression APRIL ADAMS If a person does not have a or is prone to good feeling guilty or overly dependent on others, the individual is also vulnerable to depression. Holidays do pass, and those people with mild to moderate depression can usually ride it out, Pendley said. But when a person feels he or she cannot manage or handle depression any more, they should consider help. Most people are able to work themselves out of depression after they realize what caused it," he said. Most people will know when they cannot handle it any more and when they have had too much, he explained. Sometimes family members or close friends can encourage the individual to get professional help in these cases, since the person usually feels no one can help him. In a few cases of serious depression, some medicine is required, he said. Depression is a very uncomfortable thing. People feel trapped self-conce- Review Staff As the years biggest holiday season draws near, everyone has visions of joyous family and happy memories. For 'tis the season for everyone to be jolly, isnt it? Well, isnt it? Unfortunately, the reality is that depression, from mild to severe, can be fairly widespread during the holidays, according to a clinical social worker at the Davis County Mental Health Treatment Center in Layton. The center providestreatment for persons suffering from mental disturbances. There are three variables for depression occuring around holiday time, said clinical worker Terry ' - 24-ho- D. Pendley. The first variable is winter. The days get shorter, the weather turns cold, there seem to be grays and browns wherever you look, he said. The number of crises es- calates during winter months, he said. People stay indoors more, and children, Pendley said. if a family is not close, the tenThey are times of family tosion that results can turn into de- getherness, but if there are fights pression, he said. According to or other family disturbances, this one theory, in northern climates can make a person feel disapwinter season produces biological pointed which can contribute to the social worker changes to some people that may depression, said. cause depressive feelings. If a person does not have mon.This theory also maintains sunlight seems to produce pleasurea-bl- e ey to buy a loved one presents, or sensations. Since many if things arent going well in other holidays occur in winter, some areas, a person can feel a loss of Parents can feel stress depression may be caused by if they cannot afthis time physical changes due to interruptduring ford Christmas luxuries, he said. ed routines, he explained. The second variable is often The third variable is that termed reality versus current exvoices of Christmas past can come back to haunt a person durpectations. are be to ing holiday times. This is usually supposed Holidays fun and festive times. This is in- a pattern of unhappiness or sadstilled in us from the time we are ness during certain holiday sea self-estee- sons. If, during childhood, Christmas or other holidays were times of conflict or sadness, it is likely a person will have a reaction when these times approach again, he explained. When happy family traditions do not occur, this can create conlater on, esflicts that pecially if things arent going well at the time, Pendley continued. With depression, there is a tendency for old skeletons or failures to come out of the closet, he said. This only adds to a persons negative thoughts. People more prone to depression are those having trouble expressing anger. These feelings are turned on themselves, he said. Tree With a Soul Graces Clearfield A pt and helpless. Unfortunately, some people feel suicide is a means, though desperate, of escape, Pendley said. The center has a crisis line, that is answered 24 hours a day. The south Davis number is Tendencies are for depression to stem from experiences in the past, and depression to stem from feelings of disappointment. Though some people become chronically depressed and live with it most of their lives, most people can beat depression, he said, either by themselves or with therapy. 773-706- Review Correspondent FARMINGTON Today most people have no idea how much stress they are tolerating, how much stress they are capable of tolerating, how they can reduce their stress load and how they may increase their stress tolerance. To help people answer these questions about themselves. Dr. Stephen Aronson, Ph.D., and Dr. Michael F. Aascia, have written The Stress Management Workbook, an action plan for taking control of life and health. The 164 page workbook asks questions and formulates scoring of areas so the reader can analyze what area needs help and what steps can be taken to alleviate the stress. The paperback book is available from the Davis County School Districts Parent Educa- -' tion Resource Centers library. Stress is frequently used today as a derogatory term, quote the authors. But, stress is a normal part of our daily lives. Stress only becomes a problem when it adversely affects our ability to feel well and function of Stressors in Your Life, normally. erance section. This area takes methods In the chapter, Identification the re- individual work begins. Readers will begin to look at som of the major sources of stress in todays world and write these down in a comprehensive and readable format. al Physical stressors, physical supporters, chemical stressors and chemical supporters are discussed. Once an individual has looked over his health, personal, social, and pathological data, he then turns to the increasing stress tol- of con Special to the Lakeside Review There we were, my sisters, grown Mother, and over a tree. Big people arent supposed to cry bout trees, my daughter said. They cry over things like their bank book dont balance, or someone died." Nevertheless, it was the feeling of the tree that set us off. women-cryi- ng Clearfield City had come to take away the exquisite evergreen that had stood in front of my parents home for nearly it for the 25 towns official Christmas tree. years--claim- ed And even though we knew it would be the loveliest Colora- do Blue Spruce that ever graced the state street island just south of Center, it still hurt to see the axes fly. Too much of a good thing, my mother said, explaining why it had to go. Sidewalks, sprinkler systems, even grass cant cope with the root system of an evergreen big enough to cast its shadow halfway down the block. 0, 298-344- 6. as post-Christm- as Book at PERC Can Help Reduce Stress SUSAN TANNER HOLMES SHARON NAUTA STEELE ditioning and then helps the reader see what dietary intake will be needed to help achieve a healthier body. Once an individual is able to maintain a healthy physical stress point, the other stressors will be overcome. Before actual changes can occur, the reader need to look at the support or htnderance offered by family, close friends, and work colleagues. It is .difficult to make significant changes on your own. changes you make will affect other people and they will react to these changes with support, indifference, or opposition. But it wasnt always so big. As the buzz saw groaned into the massive trunk, I, myself, groaned to think how many years had passed since Dad brought home five tiny seedlings, one for each member of our family then, and planted them in the backyard. Oh, how carefully we children tended those prickly baby trees, pulling away at the blades of grass that threatened to dwarf them between mowing days, carrying water to our trees in rinsed out mayonnaise jars, and showing them off to every friend and his dog that ventured through our chain-lin- k gate. Perhaps then, like now, it was too much of a good thing. Or maybe it was the dogs. Whatever the cause, before spring could pass, four of the seedlings had shriveled and y died, leaving only tree--t- o become everyone's tree. No one could have told me then, back in the eternity of the summer I turned 8, how quickly time would pass. At first, like me, the tree grew slowly, Time seemed to stand one--m- still for both of us. I thought Id be 8 years old for the rest of my life. And when I started third grade that fall, I could still wear the same clothes Id finished second in. But the next year, subtle things began to happen. My pants that had formerly required cuffing at the ankles were gradually unrolled to fit like pedal pushers. And then they didnt fit at all. Along the trees spindly truck, tiny buds burst into tender shoots that later became branches. My mother had another baby, and four years telescoped to thrust me into the seventh grade. That year, Dad transplanted the tree to the front yard. From our homes picture window, we could see the snows of each winter pile up in its boughs. The summer I met my husband, we played a game of leap frog over the tree. The year I married Dave, we posed with our arms around each other in front of it, the trees uppermost brancher peeping just above our heads. After that, the tree really took off, spreading its lower skirts to eat up almost half the front lawn and rising like a sentinel above our family home where it continued to stand for the next 16 years. Birds made their nests in the tree, as each of my brothers and sisters left home to make their own nests. My parents 17 grandkids came to play beneath the tree. Now, this year, for a span of four weeks, well pass our tree in the intersection on the way to Food King or Albertsons when we shop. Well drive by again when we go to Mom and Dads for dinner Christmas Day. Maybe it will still be there New Years Eve. And one day, as we pass Ill stop and get out of the car. With my kids in hand, Ill stand looking up at a magnificent Christmas tree, symmetrical and full. Look, Children, Ill say. You see that noble giant standing there? Ive known him ever since he was a kid. Safety Tips for Kitchen Are Given Check your holiday kitchen with this kitchen safety checklist. You might be surprised. Do you store sharp knives in a safe place? Are they where they can be picked up by the handles? Do you turn pot handles away ;from the edge of the range so they cant be brushed or pulled over. Do you wipe up all floor spill -- immediately to prevent unneces A sary falls? Do you cut away from you, and on a board rather than in your hand or on the counter? A well sharpened knife is safer than a dull one. Do you push cabinet doors and drawers back to prevent bumps? Do you store matches, away from children and heat? Do you have a sturdy feeding chair for children? Do you have a good stool or ladder for reaching those high shelves? Dont have curtains near the range, where a sudden puff of wind can start a fire. Are your gas appliances in good condition? Is the wiring adequate for your uses. A frequently blown fuse or circuit breaker is a sign of trouble. Special Christmas Package T ALL FOR 0 .Gilt certificates mav be purchased in any amount. 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