Show 1 " i ' 1a 11 kr '" MWi'i — '' C4 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday April 3 2003 Second husband speaks up By Kathy Mitchell ft Marcy Creators Syndicate Inc Sugar DEAR ANNIE: A lot of women complain that the second wife gets Jevery thing the first wife didn’t Let me assure you it’s the same with rThe Second Husband We get what the first left behind I call it The Second Husband Syndrome’ I We are expected to outdo the first husband IWe raise his kids put s roof over their heads I clothes on their bocks and food in their bellies We go to the school plays the soccer games the park and the zoo Yet on Father’s Day we lane all alone while the kids spend the day with their “real” father We’re the outsiders I Our wives expect us to lavish them with all thie finer things in life They never demanded i those things from the first husband but apparently they deserve better now The band's mistakes are held over our heads and ! we’re not allowed to make the same ones or !any new ones either But when it comes to dolling out affection and attention our wives put hus-Iba- nd ’ - iuE6aifiH0UDitoe ‘MHMT'MeNM V S I f ift iii AjI ’( 1MA&M ARSAUy I JNMT6CMtHMl6er ' NUMBHCONK GMOetTM CHMCTM-A- U IMAM nd : ex-hu- s-I !us last bands are as unappreciated as you If your wife isn’t aware of your hidings you ought to inform her Also some family counseling might provide a forum where all of you could express your needs more dearly Please consider it DEAR ANNIE: Having worked for the Social Security Administration for 26 years I might be able to clarify the issue raised by “Disgusted by the Scam Artist” She suspects her of running a scam by fraudulently claiming disability benefits for their son “Jeremy” Social Security customarily pays “auxiliary” benefits to minor children of disabled workers If Jeremy’s father falls into this category and is entitled to Social Security disability Jeremy is quite likely due some money That money would be paid to a caregiver — usually the parent who has custody We expect it to fee 'used for Jeremy’s needs If Jeremy’s father is using the money for something else Social Security considers that to be a misappropriation of funds and will pursue restitution Please tell your readers to check out our Web site at wwwssagov or call our number for more information about Social Security benefits — Social Security Representative in Hendersonville NC DEAR NC: While the woman who wrote seemed to think the claim of disability was fraudulent it is one possibility to be considered before jumping to conclusions Thank you for your expert advice and an alternative FOR BETTER OR WORSE ’ There mu$t be thousands of Second Husbands who walk in my shoes Maybe they will have some advice for me — Last and Least in West Haven Conn DEAR WEST HAVEN: Not all second hus toll-fr- DILBERT I SHE'S PARANOID ABOUT NOT BEING INVITED TO MEET- INGS CAN FIX HER? CAN TRADE HER YOU ! l IN? UOULD YOU LIKE A LIAR A MORON on & UHI6TLER? ee ARLOAND JANIS Dealing with 'nervous stomach' By Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: My doctor is a man of few words Years ago I was diagnosed with “nervous stomach What are the ' symptoms? DEAR READER: With all due respect you are precisely the person to answer this question i because you have been told you have the disorder! Years ago nervous stomach was usually diagnosed if a patient suffered from indigestion gas occasional nausea and feeling unwell Over time the definition was extended to include abdominal discomfort bloating constipation or diarrhea — the very symptoms that doctors associate with irritable bowel syndrome (sometimes termed spastic colon) Although your doctor may not be talkative I believe that he should answer your questions and decide where you fit in the spectrum of what physicians now call functional bowel disorders DEAR DR GOTT In winter my sister keeps the thermostat at 38 degrees in her house claiming that the cooler temperature will discourage the growth of germs thereby I’m a nurse keeping her family disease-fre- e and have never heard of this theory Am I missing something? DEAR READER: I think not A cool house in winter will do little more than save heating costs a valid goal in these days of rising oil prices The theory is just a rationalization for being ecologically responsible and financially parsimonious I too do it anti-ger- GRIZZWELLS STOWHG IT AT? AND I'M inspiration V TbSTOE m zrrs Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Newspaper Enterprise Association a little more time to research it to see where the loopholes might exist VIRGO (Aug 22) — Unless you lay all of your cards face up on the table persons with whom you associate today might be a bit dubious about your motives LIBRA (Sept 23 Oct 23) — There’s a : strong possibility that you may find yourself lined up with the minority today against a ' group endeavor Instead of taking on a battle that's more than you can handle bow Dut SCORPIO (Oct 22) — If you don’t think well of yourself who will? However if ‘ you think only of yourself and not of others persons whd normally think well of you won’t SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) — It behooves you not to willingly suffer a memory lapse and forget a valuable lesson you have learned from a bitter experience By repeating the mistakes you’lj repeat the results: n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) — Guard to against temptations today put good money in after bad If you’re locked into a bum deal face it for what it is and get out of it as quickly as you can b 19) — Unless AQUARIUS (Jan! in have set a good example the past neiyou ther family nof companions are apt to pitch in today when you need help PISCES (Feb 20) — People in general are a bit lax and might attempt to shift their responsibilities onto you Be helpful if 23-Se- pt For Thursday April 3 2003 Your birthday You may begin to disengage yourself in the year ahead from people or situations that have proven to impede your progress The new associates you establish will prove to be quite productive ARIES (March 19) -- There’s a gopd chance that an association you have has become too expensive for you to continue TAURUS (April 20) — A personal is to that important you might not be objective equally so to others It's best not to team up with someone who lacks interest GEMINI (May 20) — Be careful what you tell someone today in confidence If this person talks it may be held against you by' the very people you wish to please CANCER (June 21 --Juiy 22) — Although you may he anxious to acquire something that is out of reach for you financially be patient and build a cash base before trying to go after it today by using credit You’ll be sorry LEO (July 22) — This is a questionable day for establishing any important agree- ments Before taking action on one today take ril 20-M- ay 21-Ju- ne ' 23-A- -- 24-N- ov GARFIELD V WANT ME HO I'M MOT COMPLAINING BREAK MINP VOU-SOMETHING 1ETLV? f 23-D- ec N 22-Ja- 20-Fe- ALLEY OOP 20-Mar-ch you can Crossword April 3 2003 Seinfeld pal Consumer ’ v lure member Polite word i Movie's need 27 Helen of — 50 26 53 5 Incite 30 Runway surface 55 Bath 32 Vexes unraveler 57 Goya's home ACROSS wds) Kind of basket (2 10 12 — C Scott 13 Yearbook 14 Whodunits 15 Coral i 18 Wing it (hyph) 35 Piano piece 36 Arid 37 Male parent 34 formation Promise 38 Repair 39 Nooks to pay 42 Food NBAer — Unseld 19 Tact ‘ 23 Flock 58 FRANK AND ERNEST IV o-well 1 WgOlwiri Film 2 Teen woe Douse a candle 4 Pablo's aunt 3 45RN: employer 46Tkrt 5 abbt 7 Raised 8 Stare mta mu no on BO am s 00 Hi v Want-a- d 6 State VIP Punk': 5U$T INVNTP DOWN ' additive' Ancwar to Previous powder 56 Mystery ' 9 Famed loch 22 Actress — Moran — Sorvino letter 10 Golfer's goal 24 Gamblers' 11 Doctor's rolls ' ' 25 Dashiell's office 12 Lions' prey pen 28 None king 17 Above ’ 29 Hairy' in verse : humanoid 2QAPeron 51 Actress 21 Walked tall 47 Grotto 33 Jazz 23 Sweater 48 Ovid's route instrument 35 Enjoys 37 Fanny — DeLuise 49 German 40 HS class to Henri 52 Habit title start 51 Here 41 Valuable - THE BORN LOSER 44 Festival ( fur 42 New York ' 54 Yean on end nine 43 Cuff L £ - JUfT INViNTfb 116 PfM-l-Vf Nvc n' |