Show Private Talks Aid Discipline For FOl Children B By OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON BARTO X XI I Parents Paren really reay should agree as much as possible on policy in raining raising rain rais ing children While it is natural perhaps for mothers and fathers to pull in different different dif dif- dif dif- ferent terent directions yet et they would find it more peaceful to have a n conference conference conference con con- ference once in a while and try to understand each others other's point of view Dad doesn't realize that he Is too critical of Bett Betty Mother resents anyone saying that she babies Jimmy Jimmy Jimmy Jim Jim- my too much Daddy has a fit every time mother apologizes for tor forMark's forMark's Marks Mark's laziness but she does two fits every time he encourages Mark to take a hand at the tho wheel of the car And so the days das pass each pulling in an an opposite direction and the children taking sides with wilh the one I who humors them the most Nothing is more fatal to obedience than for children to know that one parent Is Is' against and another for them If they were consistent and both were the same about everything everything every every- thing thins then at least one parent would woul be obeyed But when children are arc uncertain about which way the wind wine is going to blow they will almost almos invariably tempt fate Finding Solution I One quiet evening Mr Smith am and Mrs Smith might have a symposium on Bett Betty I think John Mrs Smith could say calmly and tactfully tactful tactful- ly Jy that Bett Betty Is abnormally sens tive If wo we understood her better I dont don't believe she would cry so much I r have found round that she tries terribly hard if it I pretend not to see her mistakes at times and encourage encourage encourage en en- courage her all I can When I scold her she gets like a rag and cando cant can't do anything Mr Smith may have an idea about abou Betty too and declare that she will wil never get anywhere without someone someone someone some some- one behind her to push her on Mrs Smith never thought of oC this before and pondering it much to her surprIse surprise sur sur- prise finds she has to agree Anway Anyway Anyway Any Any- way between them they can work workout workout workout out a general plan concerning Betty that will vill be much better than the constant guess work of oC the past Bett Betty never needs to know she is being discussed Formerly she has known she was a constant source of contention Which was bad for fora a child chUd of her makeup Reconciling Views Mr Smith may be made to understand understand understand under under- stand that he expects too much of oC Jimm Jimmy If he will wait walt a year or orI I two to put the little fellow through some of the jumps he demands now Mrs Smith tells him she wont won't feel fee it so necessary to protest As for Marcy each of ot them may find discussion discussion discussion dis dis- dis- dis a revelation of relief The growing rowing boy with experiment at its height needs some very special un un- Parents seldom talk out their hearts their i ideas or reasons to one another They wait until a crisis arises and the children are arc present This is about the tho worst thing they can do If It they expect to get anywhere anywhere anywhere any any- where in a constructive wa way Decisions Decisions De De- made on impulse or in anger are usually wrong anyway |