Show Page Thurs Jan ISPS Millard Count) 2 - - 15 1987 - JOHN WATERBURY Dear John Letters Teacher to Parent Helping your child succeed President by Betty Condie Utah Education Association Mama’s Cookstove himself His death shocked the community where he was a good student and popular athlete Why did he take his life? As his mother says in her book her son had “Everything to Live For” said she saw but did not heed signs of growing depression in her teenager “Don’t think your love is enough” she tells parents “Often it is not” With working and single parents like herself she is blunt: “Your lifestyle may be damaging your relationship with your child” Leaving her teenager home alone until 7:30 or 8:00 every night is one of the things she would do differently She points out that can physically care for teenagers themselves but may need a parent’s emotional support I’ll talk about student suicide in the next few columns Parents and educators need to know what causes it how we can prevent it in our own families and communities and who should take the lead in providing formal prevention programs Since November five young people in one Utah high school area have committed suicide Last year nine young people from another Utah high school committed suicide within a period In the past 30 years suicide among and under young people has jumped from the fifth to the third leading cause of death Only accidents and homicides claimed more young lives in the 1980’s Nationally there are now 6000 documented suicides a year among our young people but many more “accidents” go unreported as probable suicides because of insurance claims or family stigma What is more the number of children and teenagers who make unsuccessful attempts on their own lives is staggering Some mental health professionals place the number at 400000 a year Parents and educators around the country are expressing rising concern over these terrifying statistics Eight years ago Susan son Jody shot Community Calendar Jan 26 Use of Over the County Medications 7 pm Delta Medical Center American Diabetes Association RPh Fillmore Roger Killpack 7 Medical Center pm American Diabetes Association Clinic Delta Public Immunization Health am & pm Jan 26 & 28 Senior Citizens Day Utah State Legislature Jan 28 Class Fillmore Food Handlers Paradise Inn 2:30 pm ($5 fee) Jan 29 Food Handlers Class Delta Public Health Office 2:30 pm ($5 fee) Jan 31 Feast of St Bosco Delta Catholic Church Feb 7 Benefit for Darlene Fowler Fillmore Elementary School 14 Jan Basic EMT Course in Fillmore Call Kent Dalton for information Jan IS Field service officer from Veterans of Foreign Wars at Delta Job Service pm to assist and answer veterans questions Delta High Swim meet with West High School at Delta poo pm Jan 16 fill on life of C S “Documemory” Lewis Delta Community Presbyterian Church 7:30 pm Jan 18 Elder Vance A Terrell mission farewell 2:50 pm Delta 1st & 2nd Ward Jan 19 Driver’s License office closed for day in Delta Jan 24 Mary Tippetts 80th birthday Openhouse pm at her home in Sutherland Jan 25 Elder Jeffery Rasmussen mission farewell Fillmore 4th Ward J Delta Area Fillmore Area t :i Kml If Ilm t B Jm T Rogers don’t know where they got it or when It was well used when I first remember it It stood in our kitchen solid on the lineolum floor like a member of the family It had two warming ovens on each side of the chimney with doors that opened into shelves Food could be kept warm and butter melted The oven was big enough to bake eight loaves of bread brown and crusty the way Papa liked it It must have been heavy it never moved from the time was first aware of it until left and got a cookstove of my own Our kitchen was always warm even in the dead of winter If we came in cold we could sit on a chair and put our feet on the oven door and be comforted by the heat from the stove and by the presence of Mama working in the kitchen If we were ill we could pull the old rocking chair and a quilt in front of the stove It was our Fireplace Mama could work around us It didn’t matter if the kitchen was full of boots and coats and people If there was a baby in the family it was always bathed in front of the oven door There was a big wood box in the corner always needing to be filled at night I My Opinion Abuse by Dawn Carder Last night received a call from Connecticut informing me that one of my friends was dead— carbon dearest I was not really surprised but I was and am filled with sadness at the loss We had taught and much shared together and she had been the fourth grade teacher for each of my sons She had overcome much in a troubled life Despite personal conflicts and tragedies she had given much of herself to family friends and countless will miss her Perhaps now students she is at peace My friend had struggled through a There had been difficult childhood abuse and violence in her home which caused both physical and emotional pain She survived but the memories remained Nothing not even time ever seems to completely eradicate the scars caused by child abuse Despite what one may think child it abuse is present in all communities levels it occurs in all is hard to prove and it is often dismissed How often we hide our heads in the sand convincing ourselves that it happens in ghettoes in cities definitely somewhere else How naive we can be! My children suffered both emotional and sexual abuse from a stepfather We were living in an upper middle class was a professional community teacher and counselor the man was a was devastated and psychologist despite my professional experiences simply did not know how to handle the situation Right here in Delta know personal- Up From The Trough NEW PHONE NUMBERS Fillmore Fillmore City City Library Millard County The Chronicle Progress USPS Publisher - Editor Dutson Susan Editorial Mark Amott al Large Reporter Advertising Sales Legal Billing Riley Wood Sales 8 Design Dawn Carder Fillmore Office Manager Evelyn Mallet Receivable Deb Greathouse Accounts Circulation Julie Ward Rita Bullcreek CirculationComp Circulation Production Commercial Shellie i' Printing Dutson In Advance Subscriptions In County SI5 00 per year 8 00 per 6 months In County SIS 00 per year Out of County $10 00 per 6 months Out of County Single Copy 50 cents Send Address changes POSTMASTER P O Bos 249 Delta Utah 84624 Rjlrt Pad 3400 Rrquttl Ott i I jj ' to by Edwin F'eulner Ronald Reagan is the President seventh president in this century to have established commissions to make government more efficient Yet in the federal face of all their revelations spending keeps skyrocketing All Presient Reagan’s Grace Commission did was make 2478 wastecutthat according ting recommendations to its disputed estimates could have saved $4244 billion over three years No small potatoes! As Cait Murphy points out in the latest issue of Policy Review The Heritage Foundation’s President Reagan quarterly journal "has accepted in principle over 80 perThe 1986 cent of the recommendations budget alone incorporated 312 Grace recommendations although only 125 make it through Congress The 1987 budget includes 326 Grace proposals” And both the Congressional Budget Office and the General Accounting Ofof the fice agrees with recommendations So after nearly six years of an administration whose loathing of federal bloat is second to none how come federal spending is higher than ever? The answer is that what is wasteful 'o the commonweal can be quite useful even crucial to the politician And as they say on Capitol Hill “In the long run we’re all dead” The short run ie the next election is what counts The problem then is not lack of The problem is a system knowledge that offers politicians no incentive to act on the knowledge As Gordon Tullock an economist of the “public choice” school has pointed out very few voters have any incentive to learn even of the existence let alone the myriad government to evaluate programs that in toto balloon the deficit The ideal citizen in a democracy is eager to inform himself about public affairs in order to vote intelligently based upon national as opposed to personal interest But studies show that such a description doesn’t fit the typical a bare majority of eligible citizens bother to vote even in presidential elections Voter turnout last month was typical of off year elections with golden chunks of cedar from the dead cedar wood trees that Papa haulhad the ed from the Oak City hills responsibility in my turn of keeping the wood in the box and a basket of chips and bark on the porch for Papa to start the fire in the morning We didn’t have a toaster We never heard of one but Mama knew right where to drop the slices of home made bread so they would toast on the top of the round stove lids Even if it got a little dark it was good with melted butter or in milk toast In the winter there was always a heavy aluminum pot simmering a roast beans vegetable soup dried corn or something for our table Mama was a good cook she could make common things like flour milk potatoes eggs cornmeal and vegetables into good meals all prepared on the old wood stove Mama took pride in her cookstove She kept it clean and polished with ‘‘stove blacking” I think it must have had pride in her Later Mama did get an electric stove to sit beside the old wood stove that she wanted to keep and use but it did not have the comfort nor the character of our old wood stove Mary Henrie pressure groups capitalize on the ignorance and apathy and set their federal goodies with no one the wiser Perhaps one of the problems is that we get bogged down in a lot of details and overlook the larger truths that emerge from efforts such as the Grace Commission It is such truths that may in fact offer a way out of the swamp The key is incentives: in the private sector incentives work for efficiency because inefficient private firms lose profits and competitive advantages But just the opposite incentives are at work in the public sector That’s why you’ll never hear the head of a government agency tell an appropriations committee “You created this agency to fight problem X and we’ve won the fight so you can abolish my agency” The line is always “We’re doing all we can and we need a lot more money so we can do more” Thus does Washington so often keep spending more to make things worse If the War on Poverty for example evidence had been it perpetuated dicates of antipoverty thousands warriors to say nothing of their intendwould be forced to ed beneficiaries find new jobs There are two possible ways out of both involving this dismal swamp changes in the incentive system The first is through “privatization”-creatinr institutions that provide the same services as government normally with greater efficiency and at a fraction of the cost Given the choice there is no choice: demand would shift to the private sector The second is more blatant: make it profitable for government managers to find ways not to spend our money Offer them bonuses for cutting bonuses perhaps for “privatizing” their programs The Grace Commission pointed out where the excesses are Now we need the political will to move! (Feulner is president of The Heritage Foundation a Washington-basepublic policy research institute) ! ly ed several people who have been children in various The twelve steps Dear John seen a copy of their I’ve heard of Alcoholics Anonymous and I’ve even about them If "Twelve Steps" What I don’t understand is what’s so magic are they a an alcoholic can stop drinking by following these steps cure for all alcoholics? Just Wanted to Know Dear Just Well the magic You wonder what’s so magic about the "Twelve Steps tools and technithat they work if they’re used They are tried and proven individuals to put some ques that enable alcoholics and chemically dependent used effectively restoie order and direction back into their lives The steps when these individuals to sanity They sound magic don t they? will accept them and not them needs who not everyone Unfortunately When these problems occui everyone who accepts them effectively uses them the “Twelve Steps lead to sucthings often get a little crazy Unquestionably cess but the “Twelve Steps in Reverse” lead to failure By comparing them think you’ll find a few “minor" differences! is The Twelve Steps We admitted we were powerless over that our lives had become alcohol unmanageable Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him Made a searching and fearless moral inventory or ourselves Admitted to God to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character abus- One mentally physically sexually young woman was sexually abused by a member of the extended family She was only a child A young man I know was engaged in sexual activities by his mother’s friend Four young children are hesitant to spend time with their father because they fear their mother’s wrath A mother who was an abused child continues to struggle with her emotions continues to question her worth These are but a few examples Child abuse is often difficult to prove But we are obligated by law to report even suspected abuse cases We are to contact the police or social services Naturally sexual verbal and emotional abuses rarely leave visible bruises for the damage is internal and children rarely talk especially about their parents Nonetheless the bruises leave permanent scars It has been proven statistically that abused children often become abusive parents thus perpetuating the viscious cycle Let us not hide our heads None of us can save the world but each of us can make a difference Perhaps one child will benefit from our awareness and our concern Perhaps one abusive parent can be helped We can make an effort to break the cycle to show an abused person that he or she is worthy of love that he or she is a worthwhile individual I’m not sure my friend ever really knew her own worth (The Chronicle Progress invites your opinions to this column) Middle America Humbly asked short comings hint to remove our Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all to people Made direct amends wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others Continued to take personal inventoiy and when we were wrong promptly admitted it Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs The Twelve Steps in Reverse We declared our complete control over alcohol and everything else and further declared our lived were in perfect order Recognized no powers so great as nor anyone as smart we Made a decision to run our own lives and everyone else’s too Made a searching and thorough inventory of our fellow men and found them to be woefully lacking Admitted to no one not even God or ourselves that there could possibly be anything wrong with us or our actions Made every effort toward increasing character defects and did a little drinking too Continued to be justifiably obnoxious and arrogant asking no one for anything Kept a complete list of everyone who had harmed us either teal or imaginary and vowed to get even Got even whenever possible except when to do so might cause us injuiv Continued to complain about everyone and everything and when right were prompt to say so Sought through scheming and conniving to improve ourselves materially at the expense of others Did not hesitate to bring misery to anyone who happened to cross us Having had a complete breakdown financially and morally physically spiritually we directed all our efforts toward dragging those near and dear to us down to the same depths of despair and did a little dt inking too fiimly believe that the “Twelve Steps” were divinely inspiicd and are the most successful means for and maintaining sobriety that we have to deal with chemical dependency and addiction Unfortunately not everyone who needs these steps is at a point where they’re able to use them Too often they get stuck in the “Twelve Steps in Reverse” existing in a life filled with pain confusion and resentment Ironically for some this process is the only one that leads to successful sobriety But for the majoritv of others they die New column is a new weekly “My Opinion” feature of the editorial page Readers are welcome to submit columns of 800 words (two type written double spaced pages) Subject matter is unlimited but we reserve the right of rejection and unsigned articles will not be considered We encourage readers to take advantage of their First Amendment rights of free expression Search for “Middle America 99 The Best? by Bob Thomas Most editors and reporters who have taken the time to talk to me during my meanderings invariably ask the same question: “What part of America do you like the best?” That’s a tough question and I’m not attempting to be diplomatic knowing that I’m writing for 66 newspapers scattered around the country It would have been an easier question to have been asked: “Where do you want to live when you’re done traveling?” love the coast of Maine and that would be near the top of a list if could figure out how to earn a living indoors from October to May Maine has the and sea and scenery I quaint fishing villages and taciturn people who don’t have too much time for gossiping I like the Piedmont Mountains of North Carolina I’m especially impressed with the towns of Lenore and Hickory Central Florida was home for a lot of years If you like rolling hills crystal lakes and the fragrance of orange blossoms and oleanders I’d recommend that to anyone There is the bustling activity of Photnix Ariz and all surrounded by the rawness of desert and the majestic Grand Canyon less than three hours away by car I’ve had enjoyable times at both places Then there’s San Francisco if you’d care to compete with the yuppies and on some of the best food in the world And then there’s western Oregon sit as write this I’m in where Yamhill County in the heart of the Willamette Valley The area is known for two things: stately Douglas firs and some of the best wine grapes this side of And pretty country here too The ocean not too far to the west lakes and streams in any direction the towering Cascades off to the east It rains a lot but snow is a rare commodity On the other hand you couldn't give me Louisiana any part of Florida’s east coast from Fort Lauderdale to Miami no part of Philadelphia rural Arkansas the tabletop that is Kansas Texas west of the Pecos and the Four Corners area of Arizona New Mexico Colorado and Utah God was not having a good day when He was putting together those sections of America Threaten me with the loss of my and I’d have to pick transportation Mass as the prettiest Newburyport town I passed through Hickory N C would run a close second Monroe La takes top honors as the dirtiest city in America Second: Pa Colorado highways offer the cleanest restrooms Kansas apparently forgot to construct any of them Outdoor plumbing in Texas is not as advanced as that I have seen in the ruins of Pompeii Italy New York has the rudest people Virginia the politest North Carolina has the best price on cigarettes (40 cents a pack) Oregon is the most expensive: $1250 a carton The entire state of North Dakota is The economy of Gary unnecessary Ind is based on the cost of a shot and a beer Gary has more licensed saloons than neighboring Chicago You can’t stand up and have a drink in Maine After am Idaho sells only hard liquor Utah’s beer is less than If you stare for a long time at a bright yellow light and then look known as an "accidental color" Staring at red produces an accidental three percent alcohol Texas has no “open container” law No police officer ever told me his town was free of drugs Graveyard vandalism is a major problem across the land Nevada is about to have the only community in America Castro Street the heart of San Francisco’s homosexual community averages a murder per week Anything goes in New Orleans Even more so than Las Vegas It just isn’t going on under as many bright lights All the joy is gone out of Cocoa Beach Fla since January 28 1986 The place is a buyer’s market though Without intending to sound boastful here admit to having been fortunate enough to see a good part of this I’ve savored a little of country-plwhat is Europe the north of Africa the island paradises of the South Pacific and some of Mexico’s interior What will always remain in my mind as one of the more beautiful vistas I have ever looked upon is Conyngham Valley Pa from the top of the mountain above the country club But then I may be a bit prejudiced I grew up there and part of me never left still have vivid memories of idle summer Saturdays in Woods Bishop's on Frederick’s Pond sledding down Miller’s Hill and of a young miss (whose name I will not mention) who first made me aware that there was a difference between boys and girls With all of would like to spend my final days? On the west coast of Wales in a cottage on a high cliff overlooking the wild and restless Irish Sea And would spend my days reall of reading Dylan Thomas (no relation) at a white ground you'll "see" violet This turquoise at orange navy and conversely is |