Show Dorothy Dix Talks I TREAT A STUBBORN CONTRARY MULISH HUSBAND AS YOU i WOULD ANY OTHER DONKEY CAJOLE DONKEY CAJOLE HIM AND PRE PRETEND TEND YOU WANT THE THINGS YOU DO NOT NOTI I WANT WANT-HE HE WILL FIGHT FOR OPPOSITE AND THUS GIVE YOU YOUR WAY rAND IN THE END ENDA A A WOMAN wrItes write asking for lor a reliable recipe for managing a man with a contrary disposition Her husband she ahe ho says ay admits admit that I he Is of 11 a peculiar temperament but she the would have no trouble Ini In i getting along alone with him If it she ahe only knew the right way to treat him r So far the th lady has not nt been able to nature find the key that unlocks the good nature and generosity of her husband and o ao she v seeks leeks advice from other women who wh have been up against the th same ume sort of preposition tion flea OF f F COURSE COUnSE one would like to say s y that the tho best way to treat a contrary man Is to bat him over o the head wi with lit n a coffee pot but unfortunately women lack the physical phy strength to enforce such an n argument against contrariness besides whIch T our effete civilization discourages such wholesome means of o family discipline 11 All that la II left then for the woman who Is II married to a man with a mulish disposition Is to treat him as she would any other donkey who hasn't sense enough to do what Is right and proper because it Is right righta a and nd proper but who has hal to be cajoled along the way he hesh sh should uld go Il HE thing thine about contrariness Is that it is an outward TIlE T and and visible sign len of o lack of brains Arid And that is an Incurable malady A man or woman of oC Intelligence can always be cured of o a fault faull lIe II or she may tn y be enlightened broadened or raised up to higher levels but a fool tool Is la hopeless You You Yau can never do anything with him or her and It Is useless to 10 tr try fry Y You u only bruise yourself by beating up against a stone atone wall lall jot of 01 narrowness narrowness and h never ver gives gins an n I Inch Ch Therefore if you find out that a man or woman is con contrary by nature turn and flee from them If you would save be at the of o the altar yo your r happiness though you very very steps steps But if you make your discovery later If you have hav taken a donkey for better or worse make mak the best of It by learn learning in how to circumvent his hll or her peculiarity In doing this the th first thing to remember is always to let this silly fool think that he has suggested everything that you you want to do IF IF F YOU want ant to have ha the parlor papered in fn green creen een Instead ot of o purple dont don't rashly say that you are ar going to have green or your donkey liIl put his foot down don do n and declare for tor purple On the contrary g gamy nUy and Insidiously suggest the Idea of green een paper and when OU ou perceive percel that the the time tim Is right ask him what color he would prefer to have hate the parlor paper and he would say green and berate ou ou for tor not having thought of ot It yourself before In the next place remember that the th law of contrariness always works backward so that you can work a mulish husband by it it Never Never show that you are keen to do anything or r go any place that you have set your heart on n but affect a a supreme indifference to It YOU UK have determined on spending the summer at the shore dehd d of oft off and get set a lot ot of advertisements advertisement of mountain resorts resort Air I MUIo r will immediately be filled with v a a mad enthusiasm for the sea and refuse to consider anything else and aid to 0 the seashore you will willa willo o D just Ludt to show who Is boss In In his family f Avoid all arguments as you OU would the pestilence An An argument with a contrary man is II like a mordant that sets a adye adye adye dye and makes it Indelible 1 IE pays ay black Is white let It 11 go at that and he may what what opinion I-opinion pinion he lIe expressed and recognize white for the color it is Buti But Dut I ih h once once commits himself that black Mack Is white while he h will stick slick tol to It to end lb end J-end of ot timeA time A wise man changes his opinion with a different light that that he gets on n the th subject but a donkey having no n mind to change cant can't possibly alter It THEREFORE T no matter ho how circumstances change chanse or how big ble a fool tool view of ot a thing thine he h may take tako in the first place be he feels that hat he must mud be what hat he be h calls consistent and slick lIck to It IL ILOf it Of course the less sense sens a man has the more amen able to flattery and the easier easier- he Is to work so there Is ise e nothing for or th woman who I Is married to a contrary manto manto man manto to do but to get Jet busy with the salve and plaster him over ver daily with fulsome compliments I IF TF SHE tells him how big ble and wise Iso and strong and wonderful he be Is and how bow she defers to In n his hi judgment in every particular he will eat cat out ot of her hand band and the she may do with him as she will Some SIme women can do this some cant can't Some Som do not think It worth while and as a a matter of oC fact It Isn't worth orth any sensible trouble to humor such childish weakness for such a man makes her ber ery very very very- tired Men do not realize It but theres there's nothing that disgusts and disillusions a woman like having to manage her hus band The day she ale finds out that the man she sh has married has to be worked and cajoled into doing the thing he should her doher do her Idol topples off Its pedestal and shatters Into frag frag- I menis menta at her feet TILE THE woman who is marrIed to a contrary man must doubtless put up with him and use what wits and patience Heaven sent her herBut nu But let all girls eirls beware of o er e journeying to the altar with the theman theman theman man who says ays Im alt all right if it you OU know how to manage manace me DOROTHY DOROTh Y DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |