FAMILIES ' EDITOR: TAWNY ARCHIBALD AS THE DAILY HERALD 344-25- Till RSIHY. SI Pll MUI R M. I'm v A ' " M i Paul and Terie Wiederhold :' r " 1 , J ' i ' Touchy situation ensues for family after rude remarks Dear Paul and Terie: I have always tried to get my family to stay ' close to each other and to enjoy being with each other. Recently one of my said something to another member of the family that made them very upset. ' This person then told another family member and the word has spread. This has caused dissension m the family with some family members not wanting to be around this offending person. Now some of the family are havand not ing their own inviting other members because they don't feel comfortable around them. This is really tearing me apart because I have always wanted us to stay close. What can I do to help resolve the situation and get my Concerned family back together? S in-la- , ROBERT JOHNSONThe family Member ; , Ml Dear Family Member: Family dissension, whether within a nuclear family or between extended family members, is always a tragedy. Immediate measures should be taken to stop this familial friction. We have all hlfaVatoriesTJncIe"'" Ron who has not talked to his father in 25 years because of some small pffense done years ago. Do not let your family become like this. ; One way to begin is to have a at your house (or a park) where you invite all of the family members. If some family members decide not to come, at least you tried. Another suggestion is to talk to each person separately and see exactly how they are feeling. You can listen and sympathize without necessarily agreeing with their point of view. If possible, be neutral so that both family members can talk with you without feeling offended. Typically you will find both parties feel like they have been offended but there is usually some hope that reconciliation will take place. Use these small desires as a spring board to work with when you are talking to the other family member." J Saying things such as "Janette feels bad about the situation but 3oes not know how to talk to you about her feelings" is a good way to begin mending a relationship. i If you take this approach, make sure you do not lie. This will only cause more contention in the family. Instead listen how they are feeling and go from there. When the timing is right suggest to one of them to make an effort to reach out to the other. This could be through a letter, or a phone call. If this is too hard, then have them send a simple rift or cookies to soften the offended ". neart. A similar situation happened to our family last year. It was heart- have been made to mend the relationship. Although all the feelings pre not completely mended, the relationship is improving. Remember you cannot force a Relationship, but you can prayerfully approach the offended parties with ' gentle suggestions. Paul and Terie Wiederhold, a psychologist team, are Send your children. six of parents Questions or comments to or write them, at 1443 920 South, Provo, UT 8460$ or .' tall them at drmomdr-iiadjuno.co- ". 374-862- DOR COPY UUJ WW JEokemon, a kid fad that ripened in Japan, has immigrated to America By ANNE GOLDEN In Japan, they're called "Pocket Monsters" but in America they've shortened the name to Pokemon. And parents don't seem to mind having the little "monsters" in their homes. The Daily Herald OREM They're little cartoon creatures who have invaded your children's lives. And your children take them in, teach them, nurture them, watch them grow and send them into battle. They're Pokemon and they're the newest fad to hit the world of children. "It's a game that everyone can play," said Sam Stubbs, a local Pokemon expert. "It's not frustrating because it's too hard and it's not dumb because it's too easy." And the excitement is expected to reach a fever pitch this fall with the Pokemon introduction of big-scree- n Let's not forget the Pokemon TV The First Movie" opens on Nov. 12. Then, even more characters will be when "Pokemon, introduced as "Super-Pokemon- show. There are 151 of the little characters and the aim is get all of them and become a Pokemon master. The characters vary. "I like Squirtle," said James Pokemon Rawlinson, a character." fan. "He's a turtle-likHe also likes Hitmonchan, a little character with boxing gloves. sister Christine James' ." It's the classic case of the good guys versus the bad guys and in the battle the kids are helped by little creatures with various powers. And the game can be played .with cards or Game Boys. There's also a Nintendo 64 game called Pokemon Snap. Religious leader's lecture to focus on work, soul e likes several characters, among them Pikachu, one of the fuzzy, squeaky little characters. "They're cute " she said. And Sam likes Alakazam. a character that resembles a genie. Pokemon started in Japan in 1996. It was a hit and then made the jump to the American markets in 1998 with the cartoon show. Now there's a breathtaking array of Pokemon products available for kids, from characters to shirts to games. In Japan, they're called "Pocket Monsters" but in America they've shortened the name to Pokemon. And parents don't seem to mind having the little "monsters" in their homes. The little characters are almost like See POKEMON, A 0 1 Fund-raise- r ' it J Saturday at Riverwoods What: "The Inner Life of Work," lecture and a workshop When: Friday, 7- -9 p.m. (lecture); Saturday, 9 a.m.-no- on (workshop) Where: Aline Wilmot Skaggs Building, room 220, University of Utah (lecture) Spaulding Hall, Cathedral of St. Mark, 231 E. 100 South, Salt Lake City (workshop) Cost: Both events are free. "The key question is where is the joy in our work?" Fox The Daily Herald said. "The other question is how does our work relieve There SALT LAKE CITY suffering." are real concerns about how work The suffering he spoke of individand career affects every is not necessarily the obvi- ' ual, the family and society at ous. "A teacher's job is to 27,000 species a year is relatlarge, according to Episcopal to our work," he said. of ed relieve the pain ' priest and author Matthew Fox. ' . ,. Fox, said for the workplace Fox, who wrote the book "The Even the ecological impact to be changed, the education Reinvention of Work" at a time ' ' of workers must also be is something Fox said is , when he was being defrocked as a ' related to a lack of a spiritu. changed. He said universities priest from the Catholic Church, are now so secular, people al connection people have to' will examine workplace meaning ' their jobs. .' - are . , being.prepared for the y ' That we're in a lecture Friday and a work- - v V they'll use with-- . techniques destroying ' 'i ; ; ,'v i " in Lake Salt for , out regard the effect the City. shop Saturday By STEVEN GARDNER PROVO of Talbots Riverwoods is providing the fashion show for the Aura of Autumn luncheon and annual fund-raise- r of the Women's Division of the Chamber of Commerce, It begins at noon Saturday at the Provo Marriott Hotel Ballroom. Door prizes include a 'two-nigh- t stay with breakfast for two at the Marriott Hotel. A boutique is open from 11 a.m.-- 4 p.m. for early holiday shoppers. The women's group is honoring Ruth Hale of Hale Center Theaters with a Women Making a Diffeeijce .award. ' Vocalist Gem Engefaann is . igno-ranee- ." work may have on a person's ' ' soul. '. "I don't think it's doing a very complete job of prepar- ing us for work that,is really: living work and not just a paycheck," he said of the edu" . cation system. . breaking seeing the contention it caused. Since then simple efforts r Associated Press 13, reaches for a card while playing a, game of Pokemon with his friend Sam Stubbs (not pictured) while Jameson McDougal, 13, on Game Pokemon his Boy at the Stubbs home in Orem recently. background, plays Fun fad: Scott Sacketl, See LECTURE, A10 Production of 'Subset Boulevard' dark, haunting By ERIC D. SNIDER The Daily Herald SALT LAKE CITY The touring company of Andrew Lloyd Webber's "Sunset Boulevard" delivers a show that packs a powerful punch, creating per- - , fectly the emotions and feelings neces' sary to make it work. Former singing star Petula Clark plays former star Norma Desmond, a silent-filstar who became a has-bee- n when sound came in. Now, in 1950, Norma lives alone in her mansion with her obsessively protective servant, Max '(Allen Fitzpatrick). ' Enter Joe Gillis (Lewis Cleale), a young, idealistic screenwriter who, while fleeing some bad guys, winds up in Norma's yardShe takes a liking to him, and she wants him to hel edit her the movie sb insists will screenplay ' be her comeback vehicle. ', x to tries Joe develop a Meanwhile, . realistic relation- - fellow with writer a named Betty ship (Christeeia Michelle Riggs), who, alas, is engaged to Joe's friend Artie (Michael Berry). In terms of musicality and, depth of material, this is the best thing Andrew , Lloyd Webber has ever beett associated with. Don Black and Christophe,r ) Hampton's book ami lyric,' baaed on the more , 'Se SUNSET, A10 !, . entertaining .vthe.-- j$iering ', ' after the fashion shovi Funds from;&e$nt go toward scholarships Jfor high school juniors to, attsai Girls' . State.. ?,)' t:f''Vlv , .' ' ii Informatkm: 2124-531- 0 225-323- 3 . ' 3 or