Show I. I ASK MOM Mixing Mixing Business and Pleasure I. I Kathryn Jones Campus Editor Dear Mom Should I date a guy at work S. S Sincerely Interested Dear Interested That depends Can you date this guy and still remain coworkers coworkers coworkers co- co workers at work Can you stick to a purely working relationship relationship rela rela- relationship never allowing your personal relationship to interfere interfere inter inter- interfere fere with your business one Perhaps the best way for you to answer this one is to look back on your previous rela rela- How would you describe your what attachment-what I mean to say is were you always holding hands winking winking winking wink wink- ing at each other from across the room whispering giggling giggling giggling gig gig- gling making coy suggestions you thought only your partner could understand Did this previous relationship easily distract you from even simple tasks Was it hard for you to concentrate when away from him And with him was it hard to think about anything but him these are typical responses to being with someone n r like which are arenor 1 re normal nor nor- I Imal mal even desirable in a rela rela- When you mix romance with work however some pretty amazing things begin to happen not all of them pleasant or positive I am quickly thinking of one experience I had I was working working working work work- ing this job and had a desire to date this particular guy When he asked me out I accepted We went to Lagoon together and I cannot tell you the feelings feelings feel feel- feelings ings that stirred within my soul as I was with him especially especially especially espe espe- on those cl close se and steamy rides like the wild mouse At any rate from the fi first t date on I found it difficult to concentrate on my work When I would see him I would suddenly be transported away My focus was poor It was difficult difficult dif dif- difficult for him to work as well and yes we made many moony eyes at each other and spent a pleasant majority of the time thinking about other things besides work The fact that he was usually at work when I was only added to the drama and made it difficult forme forme for forme me to do my job I wanted tobe tobe to tobe be with him more than I wanted wanted wanted want want- ed to do my work And this proved difficult for me for a time until we broke up And then I had a new problem to face while at work with him What I am trying to say is this One date with this guy may mean nothing Perhaps it will be the only date you go on with him-discovering him after the first date that you really dont don't like him so much after all He might decide he doesn't like you as much as he thought either and you can go on about your lives Whatever happens if you decide to date him be 1 prepared for the conse conse- Neither one of you will keep your job if your boss discovers your romance or discomfort discomfort discomfort dis dis- comfort with each other is affecting your work I. I r 4 T f 1 t have a difficult quest l ou a on 1 i I ely Mom at your i iW e. e fr m h m Cho Globe W away v A Vf h fe a at J campus uj |