Show Th H Leslie Conder Opinion Editor You lire are on a first date with a guy who you really like Things are going great you have a lot Jot in common which in turn gives you a lot to talk about And then it happens You try to stop it but it comes out before you even had a chance to think of something witty to say My ex-b ex ex boyfriend You v wish that you could goback go goback goback b back time in-time and swallow tlc tl that word-vomit word but you c cant can't and now its it's out there the the Ex I used to have this s system If I was at a bar a and a cute funny guy came u up and talked to me and we hit it off I would keep tl the conversation light and v witty On the other hand il if some creep walked up tc to me and started talking to me I would start talking a about my ex-boyfriend ex a alot alot alot Ic lot because I know ladies take ake note that one of the n most unattractive subjects f for a man is hearing about a an ex Men take note it its it's also unattractive for forlIS forus itu u us lIS ity females to hear about y your ex butin but in a different V way When women talk a about their exes upon first n meeting a guy the new guy b begins comparing himself ti to the ex and immediately 1 loses interest When men t talk about their exes they a are instantly marked as c damaged goods and on t the rebound and no self- self r respecting woman wants to tobe tobe tobe I be the rebound Most people in i relationships try to keep t their files ex-files locked up as 1 long as they can Everyone 1 has their reasons maybe i it was a bad up break-up or i maybe they're dead or at least you wish they were Whatever the reason may be when the lock to the files is opened there is no turning back And when youre you're in a relationship and hearing about the ex its it's a whole other of hurt The reason is that there is always that one special ex that they or you always talk about They have so many good memories of their ex cx it is hard for you to understand how something so perfect could have ended Then it makes you question your perfect relationship if they couldn't make it work how are you going to make it work When it comes to the ex the main thing you need to remember is that they are arc exes for a reason They are not together anymore you are with this incredible human being now and you are not going to let the past ruin the present There are some things that bothof bothof both bothof of you can do to lo help sort through the ex First when talking to your lover love about their exes really listen to what they are saying This will give you input as to why the relationship didn't work and what you cando can cando cando do differently so that yours will Also dont don't compare yourself to the ex physically or personality- personality wise You are arc not them and you will never be them which is great for you because your girlfriend isn't with them she is with you She is with you for a r reason and its it's not because you are the clone of her ex On the flip side dont don't compare your lover to the ex Well when Russ and I used to kiss he would hold my tongue with his and massage it all at the same time Your kisses arent aren't like that but that's okay You are with this more- more you perfect-for-you person so o leave the past in the past Last dont don't talk about your ex all of the time If you find yourself doing that then you are either still in love with your ex exor exor exor or it ended without giving you closure Either way you shouldn't be e wasting someone else's time until you are completely over that person When it comes to your files ex-files the main thing to remember is this When opening up with your new love keep it short and sweet Just reveal the skeleton of the relationship why you broke up and what you learned no more no less These exes are in the past and that is where they should stay if you dont don't want them messing with your fantastic future |