Show f I I Leslie Conder Opinion Editor I know that everyone likes a challenge No one ever goes after the thc drunken girl with puke in her hair u unless less its it's just jus f for r a one- one or you you are the year old virgin The point is People who are looking for a relationship don q o for the easy target Viand n th they y dont don't tjust just settle I Some people go go e ex d they like a person who is more than a challenge they're not available figuratively or literally My brothers are me infamous for wanting girls th that t th they y cant can't have either cither because the girl is just not interested or because of other restrictions My oI oldest st br brother i v f. was was s in love with a girl f over i 10 0 years ye rs He d dated f other girls but if this special girl ever came to town he would ask her out and get turned down She was just not interested plus she was involved in an on-again on off-again off relationship Now this sane san same brother brotheris is in deep like with a girl whose still till wet on her d' d divorce v rc papers papers Dont Don't get me wrong This girl is wonderful but she is emotionally not available to start something new so soon after something that was supposed to last forever r just ended My brother and people like him must like torture I Mu I I had a worker co-worker that would only date married men To me this situation screams I low self-esteem self as well wellI as fear of commitment Its It's easy to see sec the fear of commitment in this scenario Attaching yourself to someone who cant can't truly commit to you gives you the freedom to not truly commit to that person If youre you're dating married women men you have low self You are allowing yourself to tobe to be at someone's beck and call You arc are settling for fora a relationship where you will always come second to their spouse and kids You have such low self- self esteem that you are willing willingto to hurt a family due to your selfish ways If you had any kind of love for yours yourself would want to go out 1 fi someone who is already ady single and can be with you Ol anytime not just at midnight for a booty call That's not love so dont don't pretend that it is Why do people torture themselves Why do they only go after what they truly know they will never have Could their egos be beso beso beso so big that they feel they can get this unattainable person And even jf if they I do doget d get t thus s pers person person m do th they f really have them hern Have they hey just just been been turned into the rebound Im I'm not sure that I have the answers to those questions What I do know is that if you are a person who keeps finding hers herself liking married men or being the rebound girlfriend then you need to ask yourself the simple question why I am sure you will find an answer that not even you expected to find Once you answer that question honestly and deal with the answer your dating life will be the best its it's ever been If not you youcan youcan youcan can a always ways go back to the rc married guy you know hes he's not going anywhere |